Do you believe in wedding omens with all your heart? Surely, otherwise they would not have read this article. For each stage of the celebration and preparation for it, there are dozens of signs that explain what to do to ensure that family life is long and happy - the bride’s outfit is not ignored either. We decided to talk about the main signs about a wedding dress: there are both popular ones and those that you probably haven’t heard of. We urge you to treat them critically and with a bit of humor, because there is no statistical evidence that they work.
Berta Privee
Signs about buying a wedding dress
- Choose a long dress rather than a short one, because the longer it is, the longer your family life will be.
- Opt for a one-piece outfit rather than a corset or top with a skirt. Otherwise, you and your fiancé will have different interests.
- A deep neckline or open back will attract the glances of envious people and can cause the evil eye, so take a closed outfit.
- Do not buy a red wedding dress - the marriage will be unstable and conflict-ridden. Forget about black - this is the color of mourning and misfortune.
- You cannot buy a dress with your groom; do it alone or with your mother/friend.
- Do not rent a dress or buy someone else’s, so as not to repeat the fate of the previous owner’s family.
- Make the purchase on Wednesday, then the marriage will be profitable.
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Why shouldn't the groom see the bride's dress?
The sign says that if a man sees his woman in a wedding dress before their wedding, then they will not see happiness in their life together. Their marriage will be full of quarrels and misunderstandings. Betrayal and reproaches will also constantly haunt a couple who does not adhere to popular belief. The likelihood of scandals and breakups before marriage is also high. It is very difficult to say how much all this is connected with this sign, but there are a lot of coincidences.
If you look from the other side, for a woman getting married is a kind of fulfillment of a natural duty, which is to create comfortable conditions for the birth and raising of children. For men, everything is much more complicated. The thing is that by nature they are polygamous creatures. At the subconscious level, their essence is aimed at procreation and insemination of more than a dozen individuals of the opposite sex. It turns out that the male “I”, at the level of instincts, strives to pass on its unique genetic code to as many descendants as possible. So it turns out that a wedding for the groom to some extent means danger, a ban on suppressing this natural instinct. It is not surprising that future grooms experience indescribable fear and excessive excitement on their wedding day.
The situation can be corrected when the bride comes out in an indescribably beautiful wedding dress - an image that was previously unknown to the groom. Fear is instantly replaced by a surge of positive emotions. In front of the man stands his beloved, but not as he is used to seeing her every day, and the “other” is in a beautiful dress, with an incredible hairstyle and uniquely delicate makeup. The solemn image of the bride includes the instincts of a hunter in the groom, giving him courage and inspiration to accomplish new feats. The future spouse, on a subconscious level, tries to win his woman again in order to possess her for the rest of his life.
Therefore, it is believed that even those women who do not believe in omens and superstitions should not ignore this ancient tradition and not show themselves to their chosen one in formal attire before the wedding. You should also refrain from jointly searching for a wedding dress and discussing its type. The relationship will benefit from the positive emotions evoked in a man by the sight of his chosen one in a white, indescribably beautiful wedding dress.
Why do they still show the groom the dress when choosing it?
- You can name many arguments based on which brides still show their wedding attire to their lovers. So, firstly, superstitions are a relic of the past and therefore it is simply not decent for girls who keep up with the times to pay attention to them.
- Secondly, the dress should please not only the bride, but also the groom. Although most men will be delighted with their beloved in whatever dress she wears. However, there are those who take this extremely seriously. Such people will be able to choose a fashionable outfit not only for their chosen one, but they will also dress their mother and find something to choose for the bridesmaid, so much so that everyone will have no choice but to admire his choice. Such a groom does not care what his future wife wears on the wedding day, so in any case he will have to choose an outfit only with him (so as not to offend him at least).
- Thirdly, in a relationship, dress and signs are not the most important thing. And any psychologist will confirm this. Family ties cannot be broken by signs, but by lack of feelings, misunderstandings, irresponsibility, betrayal, etc. - quite possible.
- Fourthly, the church does not recognize signs. Therefore, it is worth deciding what you believe in more. Well, fifthly, if you live in a civil marriage, hiding a dress in a shared closet is simply inconvenient.
Let everyone decide for themselves whether to show the dress or not, let’s say on our own that this is a little secret for the groom and for the guests - a surprise!
Wedding dress before the wedding
- No matter how much you would like to do it, you cannot wear the dress before the wedding.
- No one should ever try on your outfit - both before and after the celebration. You shouldn't try on someone else's either.
- A sign about a wedding dress that everyone knows about is that the groom should not see it before the wedding. In no case.
- If you believe in the evil eye, make a couple of invisible stitches on your dress to protect against it. And if you make stitches immediately after marriage, family life will be happy
- You can protect yourself from the evil eye by attaching a safety pin to the fabric with the head down.
How did the sign appear?
The sign, which states that the groom should not see the bride’s dress before the wedding, appeared in Ancient Rus' and was allegedly tested in specific cases. But we won’t be able to find out these “true” stories, because no one remembers them for a long time. However, according to the sign, if the groom saw the bride in a wedding dress, the marriage will be short-lived, weak, and there is even a possibility of a break in the relationship even before the ceremony. It sounds so intimidating that even non-superstitious girls do not dare to take such a step and diligently make sure that their future husband under no circumstances sees the wedding dress. Although the church strongly rejects such signs and beliefs. Psychologists share the same opinion, who believe that only our own fears and complexes become the culprits of all problems.
Let's try to sensibly assess this situation and understand whether it is worth hiding the dress from the groom or whether he should still take it calmly.
Wedding dress on your wedding day
- The bride should dress up not in her own home, but at the neighbors on the same side of the street. You cannot take a dressed up girl across the road.
- It is important to put on a dress over your head, not through your legs.
- Do not take jewelry made of iron or stone - life will be hard and full of tears.
- Once you're dressed up, don't look in the mirror fully dressed.
- We also have a sign about a wedding dress for pregnant women: tie a red ribbon under it to protect yourself and the child (red was considered the strongest amulet in Rus').
- A popular sign in Europe is also liked by many here - at a wedding there should be something new, something old, something rented and something blue.
- Tearing a wedding dress means a difficult relationship with your mother-in-law.
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Modern look
There is another, more modern version of why the groom should not see the bride in a wedding dress until the X-day.
The fact is that it is very difficult for men to get married. This is a very important step for them. Men seem to be saying goodbye to their freedom.
In this case, the wedding image will help bring positive emotions and relieve tension. After all, you want the day to be remembered for joyful events and positivity, and not for excessive excitement.
A man is used to seeing his chosen one in a certain form. And then on the wedding day the bride appears in a completely new image for him . The groom, of course, will show mercy to his beloved and enjoy her beautiful view.
You shouldn’t spare a man such joy and show your outfit ahead of time. Then he won't be able to be surprised.
Color and superstitions
There are also many signs associated with the color of a wedding dress, but all of them, of course, are modern. In ancient times, the wedding dress was red, since red is the color of the sun, new life, prosperity and happiness. Nowadays, as a rule, only very brave brides wear a red wedding dress.
Since 1840, when Queen Victoria appeared at her own wedding in a snow-white robe, wedding fashion has made this color the main color for brides. Nowadays, a white dress symbolizes innocence and purity.
But brides are increasingly choosing other colors. Each of them has its own signs associated with it. So, pink will give long and tender love, green promises lack of money, gold - wealth, yellow, blue and light blue - betrayal, silver and black - quarrels, early divorce or widowhood.
In Western traditions, on the contrary, green signifies wealth, yellow signifies joy, blue and cyan signify fidelity, and silver signifies purity.
Other signs
There are many other signs associated with wedding attire. For example, it is not allowed for it to consist of separate parts - a skirt and a corset. This promises a quick divorce. For the same reason, the dress should not be short. Sale and rental are prohibited.
The dress cannot be embroidered with pearls - this stone brings tears. If a girl wants healthy children to be born into the family and the birth to be easy, she needs to decorate her outfit with a brooch or pin, borrowed from a married friend who gave birth. Lovage leaves, hemmed from the inside out, promise long-term love. Safety pins pinned on the inside, as well as several invisible stitches along the bottom of the skirt, will help protect the bride from the evil eye. In order to protect the child from unkind eyes, a bride in this position should tie a red ribbon around her waist under her dress.
But, of course, these are just wedding signs, and whether to believe them or not is up to the young couple to decide. After all, the most important and effective amulet is mutual love.
The Church denies omens
Not only psychologists are skeptical about signs - the church does not accept them, since they are from paganism. Therefore, decide what you believe in more: in signs or church foundations, such as weddings, for example.
Hiding a dress is inconvenient
Dream dress for both
Dream dress for both
Many men will be delighted with any outfit of their chosen one, since for them all wedding dresses are equally white and beautiful. But there are more demanding men. Such people themselves can not only dress their girlfriend, but also advise their mother, sister, or friend - and so fashionably that you will only admire their innate sense of style.
If your man is one of those, there are no options. Because there is a risk of disappointing him with your choice. He doesn’t care what you wear, but this dress, after all, should be not only your dream, but also his.