A wedding is one of the events after which a new stage begins in people's lives. Of course, the marriage procedure itself is relatively conditional, since if the future spouses are already in the registry office, then with 99% probability they are ready to start a family and get married.
However, it is in the civil registration authorities that the legal process takes place, as a result of which the newlyweds officially cease to be strangers to each other (from a legislative point of view). During the ceremony, the registry office staff makes various speeches. All of them have key points that are spelled out by absolutely all employees of the registry office.
Mandatory fragments of speech by civil registry office employees
Regardless of whether the marriage is held in the format of a solemn ceremony or not, the speech of the registry office employee registering the marriage contains six mandatory key points. This:
- Greeting, date and current location.
- The purpose of the meeting with the mention of the names of the spouses (conclusion of a marriage union).
- Asking the groom a question about his consent to marry the bride and receiving an appropriate answer.
- Asking the bride about her consent to take the groom as her husband and receiving an appropriate answer. (at this stage, each of the future spouses affixes his signature, thereby confirming that he is ready to get married).
- Issuance of the first family document - a marriage certificate.
- Announcing the newlyweds as spouses and giving the groom permission to kiss the bride.
The speech itself can change. As a rule, each registry office uses its own speeches. Moreover, each employee of each registry office has in his stock several speeches that he knows by heart.
Words from the couple at the wedding ceremony
Traditionally, in registry offices, future spouses only answer the registrar’s question. No speech is made. But during the first dance or kiss at the wedding ceremony, you can personally say some nice words to your partner.
It is inappropriate to prepare a speech for a festive wedding ceremony, unless, of course, you have approved your wedding script in advance with the registry office staff.
In this case, you will be given the floor, and you can say whatever you see fit.
You can express gratitude to your parents, guests present, and say words of love to your spouse.
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Differences in speech depending on the type of ceremony
Previously, 10-15 years ago there were no alternatives in the Russian Federation. The marriage union was concluded only in the registry office as a regular legal procedure or in the format of a solemn ceremony.
Now many registry offices practice so-called away ceremonies. For a separate fee, future spouses can call a civil registry office employee to a specified location. This could be a restaurant and cafe, a picnic in nature, or even a country house. Everything is individual.
Accordingly, this may change the speeches that the registry office employees say. However, often the differences are expressed only in the welcome part.
On a note:
The obligations of the civil registry authorities do not include the provision of services for outdoor wedding ceremonies. That is, the management of each registry office office, at its own discretion, introduces this service and independently determines its cost.
As already mentioned, there are six key points in the speech of registry office employees during a marriage. However, in practice the following construction is used:
- greetings;
- indication of date and location;
- special warm words about starting a family;
- a primer on the need to obtain consent;
- alternately asking questions to the bride and groom and obtaining signatures from them agreeing to the marriage;
- announcement of newlyweds by spouses;
- issuance of a marriage registration certificate;
- giving the groom permission to kiss the bride;
- farewell and end of the ceremony.
It is impossible to accurately describe the speech that the registry office employee will use, since there are no restrictions in this matter. Each employee of the recording authorities has at least a dozen prepared speeches in his arsenal and uses them in turn.
Oath of the newlyweds during exit registration
Another example of a wedding vow during an off-site registration. So, the newlyweds must take turns repeating the following words:
“I give you my hand and agree to become your wife (husband). I agree to sail with you in the same boat through life, overcoming all the rapids, bumps and gentle slopes. I will be with you in hot and cold, summer and winter, in thunderstorms and hail. With this ring I seal our union and agree to follow you wherever you go. In love and joy, in grief and sorrow, in sickness and in health, I will always be with you.”
Examples of speeches by civil registry office employees about an upcoming marriage
Several examples of various speeches by civil registry office employees when registering a marriage.
Example 1:
Dear spouses! In the life of every person, memorable events happen that leave deepest warm impressions. Today we have gathered here at the “name of the registry office” to witness one of them. You will remember today for the rest of your life - this is the moment of creating your family.
Marriage is a serious step. I can't legitimize your relationship until I ask you. Do you agree to take “the name of the groom” as your legal wife? “The groom’s answer.” Do you agree to take “the name of the bride” as your legal husband? “The Bride's Answer.”
In the presence of parents, family members, and guests, I heard your answers. Based on them, I register your marriage. I ask you to come to me and sign.
My dear newlyweds. From now on, in accordance with the legislation of our country, I officially register your marriage and declare you husband and wife. You can congratulate each other and seal the relationship with a kiss. As a sign of confirmation of great and pure love, I ask you to exchange rings.
Dear “newlywed names”, you are now husband and wife. It is my pleasure to solemnly present you with your first family document - this is your marriage certificate.
Dear parents, family members, guests - today is a memorable day that you will remember for the rest of your life. You have witnessed the emergence of a new family. My dear newlyweds - in your new stage of life, take care of each other, give each other warmth, love and kindness and never forget about your soulmate. I want to sincerely wish you love and a happy family life. Good luck to you. Good luck.
Example 2:
Dear bride and groom. Today has come that long-awaited, desired and, at the same time, exciting day when your family will be created. You cannot express your feelings with simple words “I love you.” However, this is always helped by actions, actions and views that truly loving people have in common. You, dear spouses, are such.
In accordance with Russian law, I cannot register your marriage without first asking you about your readiness to take this step. Please answer honestly and sincerely. Do you agree to take “the name of the groom” as your legal wife? “The groom’s answer.” Do you agree to take “the name of the bride” as your legal husband? “The Bride's Answer.”
In the presence of parents, relatives and guests, I heard your answers. Please come to the table and sign.
Now is the time for the birth of a new family. Dear spouses. It is with pride and joy that I pronounce you husband and wife. Groom - you can kiss the bride. As a sign of love, gratitude and loyalty, I ask you to exchange rings.
Dear newlyweds. Remember, you met each other for a reason. I instruct you to take care of each other, love and always remember the day when you swore allegiance to each other. Wish you all the best.
Examples of text from the registrar for a destination wedding
Wedding registration, which is not carried out within the walls of the registry office, is an original and unique process. The registrar's text at a destination wedding is always drawn up in a specific, special order for a specific couple. Therefore, their main features and recommendations are taken into account.
Example one
A family union is an irresistible desire to go through the entire journey of life hand in hand with your loved one. This is a synthesis of the souls of two people who cannot imagine life without each other.
This is the case when two halves become one in order to give each other love, care and warmth every day. Show concern for each other with great care. To be able to share grief and sadness in half.
Cherish every moment together. Dear young people, you are gaining what many long for. This is Love. Only love can unite souls, hearts and thoughts, uniting it all in a family path.
Example two
Dear couples who love each other, this day is long-awaited and incredibly exciting.
Now what you have been working towards for a long time will happen, namely the birth of a new, strong, real family. Often it is impossible to express your feelings with just the words I love you. Phrases come to the aid of actions and views that help more accurately show the meaning and depth of sensuality of this phrase. You have been lucky in life, you have found happiness and learned the meaning of love. You have the honor of achieving the greatest art of the family journey - living for your loved one.
Remember the main thing, you met in order to help each other become better and happier in our world.
Vows of the newlyweds
In the Russian Federation, the practice is not yet widespread when future spouses take vows to each other before registering their marriage. According to general rules, the bride and groom are only required to say “yes.”
However, recently, solemn marriage ceremonies are becoming more and more common, during which future spouses take vows to each other. They can either prepare speeches in advance, or succumb to feelings and take an oath sincerely, based only on their thoughts.
On a note:
If future newlyweds wish to take vows to each other during the registration of their marriage, they are advised to inform the registry office staff in advance. The wedding host will modify his speech by inserting a moment with vows to each other.
It is impossible to describe universal oaths. Everything depends solely on the feelings and freedom of thought of the couple. A few examples:
Groom's oath:
I “name of the groom” swear to love you “name of the bride”, care for, protect and support you until the end of my days. I say YES, I agree to take you “in the name of the bride” as my lawful wife.
Bride's vow:
I “bride’s name” agree to take “groom’s name” as my husband. I promise and swear to love, be faithful and respect our family union. These are not just words. I will sincerely protect and care for our family until the end of our days.
The newlyweds' oath: a comic variation
Do you want to make your wedding more original? A striking example of a non-standard approach to a wedding celebration is the newlyweds’ comic oath. Such a promise usually has a light humorous overtone and is pronounced during competitions in the celebration hall in front of guests. The text of such a vow may contain the following phrases:
- “Do you swear, Nikolai, to give your entire salary to your wife, to carry your mother-in-law in your arms, to regularly wash the dishes and clean the apartment?”
- “Do you promise, Alexandra, to let your husband go out for beer with friends on Saturdays, not to beat him at cards, to erase text messages from fans and to come home from work on time?”
Another example of a comic version of an oath:
Words of the bride: “I am Tatyana Vasilievna Ivanova. In front of the guests gathered here, I swear to “knit” tight ends for my husband, to take care of his upbringing, to take away every penny of his salary, including nest eggs and funds for cigarettes.”
Words of the groom: “I am Nikolai Ivanovich Ivanov. In front of the guests gathered here, I swear to praise her culinary masterpieces, even if it is impossible to eat them, to let her go for a walk with the dog and children; let her watch TV series and talk on the phone for hours.”
We will tell you further what the newlyweds' vows look like at off-site registration.
The procedure for holding a wedding ceremony at the registry office
Registration at the registry office is not only the most solemn, but also, perhaps, the most exciting moment in a marriage.
Those who have ever attended someone else's wedding have an idea of what happens at this time. What should those who have never experienced this ceremony do?
Many newlyweds are very worried before these important minutes and may get lost, so it is better to know in advance what will happen, what speech the registrar will say, what should be said, where to stand and other nuances of the solemn official part of the marriage.
European style
The European wedding style is different from what we are used to, but it is gaining popularity among newlyweds precisely because of its brevity and elegance. In Europe, registration does not take place within the walls of a government agency, but in the open air.
The place where the words of the marital vow will be pronounced is decorated with an arch of greenery and flowers, balls, sculptures, and benches are placed for guests. A path leads to the arch along which the newlyweds will walk past the guests to the altar and back.
At the scheduled time, the registrar says welcome words and asks everyone to take their seats, music plays. The groom is the first to approach the altar, accompanied by his friends and witness. Then come the bridesmaids. This is followed by the exit of two children.
The girl must certainly be dressed up in a snow-white fluffy dress and carry a basket with pink petals, which she sprinkles on the path. The boy in the suit is entrusted with a pillow on which the wedding rings lie. The father walks last, accompanying his daughter to the altar. This is a very important moment, symbolizing that the relatives are handing over their girl into the hands of the future spouse.
If for some reason the bride's father is not at the ceremony, then there must be a man replacing him (stepfather, brother, uncle).
In France or England, the role of the steward belongs to the clergyman, who does not perform any religious manipulations and rituals; with a short speech and an oath, which the bride and groom will repeat, adding their consent, he marks the birth of the family.
In our country, this honorable mission belongs to the field registrar. However, in the face of the law, such a marriage is not valid, since according to the laws of the Russian Federation, it is strictly prohibited to remove the registration book from the walls of the registry office building, and without paintings in it, the marriage is not concluded.
You can prepare your own speech for the field registrar if you absolutely do not like any of the options he offers. To resolve this issue, the newlyweds can visit the registry office on the eve of the wedding and staged registration for registration, sign in the register without any ceremonial speeches and guests.
On the same day they will receive a marriage certificate.
Traditional style
If it was decided to register your marriage in the traditional way for our country, then you should drive up to the building where the registry office is located with a reserve of 30-40 minutes, this will allow the motorcade to park, save the newlyweds from unnecessary worries and fear of being late, and the photographer will be able to take several frames of the last “idle” minutes of the couple.
At this time, the boyfriend, boyfriend or parents give the registry office employee all the necessary attributes: passports, rings, a pillow for them, champagne, glasses, etc. The painting can take place solemnly or in a more prosaic version, they ask about this at the time of submitting the application.
But most often, those who are planning a lavish wedding choose the first option. Before registration begins, the bride and groom will be asked to go into the hall and then into the waiting rooms. They will be separate for the bride and groom, and groomsmen and groomsmen can also go there. The room usually contains an armchair or a small sofa and a floor-length mirror so that you can examine yourself again and correct your appearance if necessary.
Relatives and friends will be the first to be allowed into the hall where the main action of the day will take place.
Only after all the guests have entered and positioned themselves will Mendelssohn’s wedding march begin to play and the newlyweds and their witnesses will be invited to enter. The groom walks to the right of the bride, beautifully holding her arm.
In order for the appearance to look spectacular and solemn, they must enter on one foot and move at the same pace, so that everything works out exactly, it is worth practicing in advance. The witness should stand next to the bride, and the groomsman should stand next to the groom.
Having entered the hall, the young people and their witnesses should not come close to the registrar, but usually she herself tells the couple where to stop, it will be about 1-2 meters from her. All that is required next is simply to listen to the solemn speech and answer questions or take the necessary actions. But this turns out to be not an easy task for everyone. Many people worry so much that they stop adequately perceiving what is happening, hesitate to respond, or cannot put a ring on their significant other.
If you fall into the category of emotional and anxious people, take a proven sedative half an hour before the ceremony.
After the registrar makes a speech and you agree, you will need to document the fact of the marriage and put your signatures in the civil registration book, which lies at the registrar’s desk.
You should also go to it slowly and beautifully, but without unnecessary delays. The groom holds the bride's hand and she signs first. So that the bouquet does not interfere, it can be given to the witness.
Remember that the photographer is working, and these shots are some of the key ones, don’t slouch over the book too much, keep your posture, smile. The groom is the second to sign, after which the newlyweds leave, and their place is taken by the groom and groomsmen.
The next stage is the exchange of rings, which will be served on a pillow. Most often, women's ones are smaller in size, and this is noticeable to the eye, but if the difference is small or there is a fear of confusion, then you can buy engagement rings of different thicknesses. Here the order changes, and the right to be the first to put a ring on the finger of his other half belongs to the man. After this, the newly-made spouses are given a marriage registration certificate.
Try not to drop the ring, as it may roll somewhere and get lost, and the celebration will be ruined.
After the exchange of rings takes place, the registrar declares the newlyweds wife and husband and invites them to make their first kiss in this status. You should not abuse this offer, control yourself, a ceremonial kiss of 3-5 seconds will be more than enough.
And try to pose for the photographer even at this important moment. The final stage of registration at the registry office is the first dance of husband and wife. By default, it will just be a slow dance, but if you want to dance, say, a waltz, then you should warn the employees about this in advance.
And also think over the image so that the shoes and hem of the dress do not interfere with your demonstration performance. After the dance ends, the guests congratulate the couple and present flowers. Upon leaving the registry office, it is customary to celebrate the event with a small field buffet. The newlyweds are poured champagne into glasses, which they will break for good luck under the watchful eye of the photographer after the first toast.
Guests can easily take a sip from disposable cups; candies from a box and small sandwiches are usually offered as snacks.
Classic ceremony plan
Traditionally, field registration involves the following steps.
Groom coming out
- Usually the appearance of the groom is preceded by a company of his friends, who come out one at a time and line up in front of the wedding arch. Next, the groom walks along the carpet. He can walk to the applause of the guests or to the music;
- An exit to thematic music with appropriate body movements will look original. For example, you can act as a dashing guy, a ringleader. The groom moves to the rhythms of the fiery composition, greeting his friends with a clap on the hand;
- The groom's masculinity will be emphasized by acting as a superhero with a musical sketch from a film, for example, about James Bond. A stylish suit, fast confident movements, some kind of accessory reminiscent of a famous character (bow tie, gloves, hat). Approaching the arch itself, you can effectively turn to the audience, adjust your bow tie, pull on your gloves or salute with your hat as a sign of readiness to meet your beloved;
- Delicate classical compositions will bring a share of romance. The image is thoughtful, the step is slow. Greeting guests with a gallant bow.
Bride coming out
- The bride's exit is preceded by a procession of bridesmaids. They move in the same way as the groom's friends, stopping opposite them at the arch. Then the newlywed follows in their footsteps.
- The option looks beautiful and touching when a young woman is led to her betrothed by her father or brother;
- A bride's exit accompanied by small children looks tender and romantic. These smartly dressed young ladies and gentlemen may carry cute bouquets of flowers or scatter petals on the bride's path. It is no less beautiful when one of the kids leads the bride by the hand and hands it to the groom;
- The appearance of the bride can be played out in an original way using thematic music. The lively rhythm and well-choreographed dance movements will transform the girl into a playful coquette, conquering her chosen one.
What do guests do?
also perform their own special functions during check-in
- Friends of the newlyweds form a living corridor near the wedding arch, supporting the bride and groom with their presence. Their appearance anticipates the appearance of the newlyweds and creates a festive mood;
- The presence of children at the ceremony is very appropriate. Dressed up children showering the path with rose petals, carrying the bride's train or presenting rings to the newlyweds always touches the heart;
- The rest of the guests also actively participate in the event. They must be aware of the progress of the entire ceremony, because they not only observe the celebration, but also greet the main characters, shower them with flower petals after the “conclusion” of the marriage, congratulate them and take part in a photo shoot and buffet reception.
Recorder's Speech
The host's speech becomes the culmination of the wedding ceremony, so you need to take a very responsible approach to its preparation. It is better to familiarize yourself with its contents in advance and agree on what words should be spoken at the wedding. Make sure that the text is written in the spirit of your celebration.
GREAT SWIM
The cozy lower deck of the Crocus motor ship is a good place for a marriage ceremony: it can accommodate several dozen guests, and there will still be space for the newlyweds to make a spectacular exit to the registration table. Later, the happy couple, their friends and relatives can move to the upper deck and enjoy the view of the Moscow River.
Natalia and Alexander Popov were the first to celebrate their wedding in such an original way: they specially moved the day of marriage registration from July to June. When asked whether the choice of a new date interfered with their plans, the bride replied that she would have been ready to marry Alexander even yesterday - she was so confident in him.
“Sasha and I work in the same company in Krasnogorsk, we met while playing beach volleyball,” says the bride. “I’m an amateur, but he’s a real professional.” We have been together for seven years and trust each other completely.
The couple responded with enthusiasm to the proposal to have a wedding on a ship - they were pleased to become the pioneers of this form of work of the registry office.
“It’s a great honor for us to become the first newlyweds on the ship,” says the groom. – It’s nice that not only family and friends came to congratulate us. In addition, the idea itself is interesting and original, and we love everything new. Therefore, when they called us and offered us, we immediately agreed. Friends supported us.
Along with the young family, couples who have been married for more than 50 years also received their congratulations. The head of the Main Directorate of the Civil Registry Office of the Moscow Region, Elena Filatova, presented them with the honorary sign “Advice and Love.”
The Ozernikov family has been married for 52 years, they raised two sons and still live in harmony.
– We will show this sign to our grandchildren, we have four of them: two girls and two boys. They will be happy for us,” says Tamara Ozernikova.
What should a leader be like?
So, the speech is prepared. How to choose the ideal registrar who will “conclude” your marriage? What should you pay attention to?
- The responsible presenter will meet with the young people in advance , provide his version of the script, listen to their wishes;
- Feel free to ask about his experience in holding such events, ask for a portfolio, video, photo;
- Appearance is also important. The presenter’s pleasant appearance and sense of style in clothing will play in this person’s favor;
- Good voice quality (timbre, diction);
- Acting abilities, excellent memory, ability to improvise. A wedding ceremony always looks more natural if the registrar is fluent in the text rather than reading it from a piece of paper.
Take a responsible approach to choosing the registrar for your marriage, because he will become the most important person at the wedding. It is very important what the presenter says and how he approaches the organization of the process. In many ways, how your holiday will go will depend on it.
Price
It is impossible to say unambiguously what amount to prepare for the ceremonial registration. It depends on the wishes of the newlyweds regarding the specifics of the ceremony and on the region.
Only the cost of the state fee is known, which is paid when submitting the application. It is 350 rubles per couple , and it does not matter who pays - the bride or groom.
Important! Some categories of citizens, for example, disabled people, are exempt from paying state duty.
How much do additional services cost?
Employees of a state institution, which is the registry office, do not have the right to charge a fee for holding a ceremony , but companies involved in the professional organization of celebrations often offer their services at wedding palaces.
Their help often turns out to be indispensable, because an independent manager will meet guests and organize their placement in the hall, supervise photo and video shooting, hire musicians and serve the buffet. At the same time, the couple has the opportunity to take all the worries upon themselves and invite their own photographer and operator, as a result of which they can save a lot. On average, the solemn registration of marriage will cost young people from 500 to 3000 rubles.
Some registry offices offer ceremonial registration of marriage in the European style , when the bride is brought into the wedding hall by the father. This ceremony is often accompanied by live music. For obvious reasons, the price of such registration exceeds 2000 rubles.
Separately, we should mention such a service as on-site marriage registration. In this case, the ceremony is held outside the registry office. Employees of the government agency go to the specified place where the newlyweds decided to sign. The cost of such a ceremony starts from 3,000 rubles.
