Although many modern couples say that they do not believe in omens and superstitions, considering them wedding stereotypes and prejudices, most of them think differently in their hearts, especially when it comes to their own happiness.
Brides often do not show their dress to the groom before the wedding, newlyweds are afraid to drop their rings at the wedding - many couples in love believe in these and other signs for fear of ruining their happiness. What other signs exist, what can be done at the wedding and before it, and what cannot be done, the Svadebka.ws portal will tell you.
Wedding omens and wedding superstitions – why do we believe in superstitions?
Despite the 21st century, wedding superstitions are still alive and well
. Even if in everyday life we don't care about a black cat on our way, sometimes common sense prevails when it comes to our own wedding. Why is this happening?
Your wedding day with your loved one is so important that we often prefer to be on the safe side.
, even if our beliefs and faith do not allow us to believe in superstitions. As a result, we study ancient wedding superstitions and, armed with warning signs, choose to keep evil spirits at bay so that they do not accidentally bring misfortune upon us.
Even if we are skeptical, we must admit that such “protective” objects and actions can be touching. Some people care so much about the happiness of their marriage that they are willing to make difficult decisions or make playful moves. Examples? Already in the next paragraph!
How to make wedding rituals more relevant
When compiling a guest list, newlyweds often know which of them will come with a couple and which will come alone. Passing the wedding baton is a favorite story. To successfully conduct the competition, you can count single girlfriends and friends, and then play their numbers at auction.
In addition to the bride's attribute, such as a garter, guests are also given a piece of a tie, which acts as an anti-garter. The one who catches her, according to tradition, will not have time to get married within a year. This ritual will be especially in demand among single men with a good sense of humor.
You shouldn’t refuse a young person’s first dance even if you have no skills, because you can get help from a professional . A choreographer or director will add professional ones to amateur movements. A special atmosphere for the room is given by the team or bright props.
First wedding dance of the newlyweds
Another option is to perform the song as a duet. The first live wedding video is not prohibited from being performed with a soundtrack. Guests are unlikely to expect this, so it is joyful to be surprised in any case.
Wedding omens - popular, less known and funny - worth knowing
Some of them have deep roots in our traditions and remain with us from generation to generation. Others have sunk into oblivion, but are worth remembering. Find out about wedding superstitions that frighten the hearts of young couples, and those superstitions that are remembered with a smile on their faces:
(Before) wedding superstitions
Superstition
: You must get married in a month that has the letter “R” in its name: March, January, February, April, September, October, December.
Meaning
: A wedding in the month starting with the letter “r” is happiness for the future spouses.
Superstition
: If the wedding is in May and November, bad luck.
Meaning
: May has historically been burdened with various unfavorable events and beliefs, incl. May is the month when the spirits of the dead descend to earth; There is also a superstition that the spouses will suffer all their lives.
Wedding omens and wedding superstitions – believe it or not?
Superstition
: happy days of marriage for Christians will be the holidays: Christmas and Easter.
Meaning
: Both holidays mark joyful events and symbolize respectively: love, fertility, good omen and life, purification, faith and a new beginning.
Superstition
: Advent and Lent will be bad times for marriage for Christians.
Meaning
: both periods are associated with restrictions, reflections - then there is no need to celebrate and throw grand parties.
Superstition
: You shouldn’t change your wedding date even once.
Meaning
: Changing the wedding date means the impermanence of marriage and changeability of feelings.
Superstition
: The wedding should take place in the bride's home parish.
Meaning
: Having a wedding in your own parish will help the bride take on a new role in life as a wife and mother.
Superstition
: A woman must marry a man with initials other than her own.
Meaning
: The different initials of the bride and groom are meant to make their marriage successful.
Superstition
: The witness and witness should not be a couple.
Meaning
: Witnesses who are a married couple can dissolve the marriage they are witnessing.
Superstition
: The bride should not try on other women's wedding rings before the wedding.
Meaning
: This gesture foreshadows infidelity in her future marriage.
Superstition
: A virgin should not use her future husband's surname until marriage.
Meaning
: Using your future name before marriage may lead to separation.
When is the wedding?
- The optimal days for weddings and paintings are Saturday and Sunday. By the way, Americans prefer Monday for such events. In terms of time frames, the second half of the day is most successful.
- Getting married in May means a lot of toil.
- Previously, weddings had never taken place on the days of fasting: the Great, Rozhdestvensky, Uspensky and Petrov fasts. Christmastide (from the Nativity of Christ - January 7 - to Epiphany - January 20) was also not recommended for marriage.
- Odd numbers are considered the best for marriage - 3rd, 5th, 7th, 9th and those that add up to the above.
- You can't schedule a wedding for the 13th.
Wedding superstitions regarding the outfits of the bride and groom
Beware of superstitious people! There are many tricky elements hidden in a wedding wardrobe. Get ready!
Superstition
: The groom should not see the bride in a dress before the wedding.
Meaning
: If before the ceremony the groom sees his beloved in a wedding dress, quarrels and disagreements will arise in their marriage.
Superstition: the groom may see the bride in a dress shortly before the wedding
Superstition
: The bride on her wedding day should wear something white, something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue.
Meaning
: Something white signifies purity and innocence. Something old symbolizes the continuation of old acquaintances - so you can rely on family and friends. Something new means abundance for the bride. Something borrowed means the blessing of the groom's family. Something blue portends fidelity to your future husband.
Superstition
: The groom must buy the bride's shoes for the wedding.
Meaning
: The groom buys the bride's shoes to make their relationship happy.
Superstition
: The bride's wedding shoes should be closed.
Meaning
: Happiness can escape through exposed toes or heels.
Superstition
: The bride's shoes should be on the windowsill from purchase until the wedding day.
Meaning
: At this time, happiness will “enter” the wedding shoes.
Superstition
: The bride should not wear pearls on her wedding day.
Meaning
: Pearls at a wedding can bring tears of sadness to the bride.
Superstition: pearls at a wedding are bad luck
Superstition
: A virgin, widow or divorcee should not try on the dress of the future bride.
Meaning:
Dress fitting by unmarried women marks the bride's virginity - the wedding may not take place or she will quickly become a bride again after the wedding.
Superstition
: You need to sew a crumb of bread and a few grains of sugar into your wedding dress.
Meaning
: Bread and sugar are meant for the prosperity of future marriage.
Superstition
: The bride must buy the groom a shirt.
Meaning
: a shirt bought from the groom is the key to happiness in a future marriage.
Modern traditions at a wedding
A traditional wedding ceremony in Russia begins with a meeting . Usually she goes with a loaf to the wedding. As a rule, the mother of the groom prepares a pound of salt for the wedding for the newlyweds. Since Soviet times, champagne has been added to bread, although in some regions they pour vodka the old fashioned way.
These traditions are very subjective depending on the values of the bride and groom's family
In fact, there are a huge number of variations of meeting young people, and they may include:
- icons;
- honey;
- admiration;
- breaking;
- sprinkling the young;
- biting.
After the hospitable meeting, the bride's hands are tied with a red ribbon. Her father does this, and by the number of knots he orders the number of grandchildren. To protect the young family from strife, parents hammer in a stake at the wedding.
Tradition with bread and salt
Next, the order of the wedding requires the installation of a slingshot. This is most often called a bride price , but sometimes a “slingshot” is considered when relatives of a couple block the road in order to demand money for travel. At the wedding, all cars honk at the newlyweds to congratulate them on their celebration.
Wedding rituals in our time have begun to differ from the ancient ones mainly only in the preceding days before the wedding. Previously, the day before, the bride was obliged to visit the bathhouse with her friends, who carried with them a broom with colorful rags. It was believed that the one who managed to whip herself with the bride’s bath broom would also soon get married.
Now, for this purpose, girlfriends catch the newlywed’s bouquet immediately after the wedding ceremony. Hen and stag parties in modern times are needed only to say goodbye to bachelor life.
Modern wedding
Increasingly, at the banquet part of the holiday, they began to guess the gender of the first-born . To do this, pink and blue sliders are distributed to guests so that money can be placed in them. Thus, if the amount in blue is greater than in pink, then a boy will be born.
Traditions are giving way to comfort these days. Modern organizers are sure that, for example, driving around the city for hours makes guests bored and takes up too much time.
Wedding superstitions
Just before the wedding, during the ceremony and even on the way back - look who can!
Superstition
: beautiful weather = wonderful life after marriage. Bad weather = unhappy marriage.
Meaning
: Sunny weather on the wedding day will bring happiness and joy to the bride and groom. However, there are conflicting forecasts regarding rain during the wedding. Some sources say that rain is a prediction of wealth and fertility. Other sources say that rain means tears and a miserable life. Other sources say that light rain foretells prosperity and numerous offspring, while heavy rain foretells trouble. However, when a rainbow appears after a storm, it is a prediction of lasting happiness.
Superstition related to the weather on your wedding day
Superstition
: Avoid stops on the way to the wedding.
Meaning
: a stop on the way to a wedding ceremony foreshadows an unsuccessful marriage.
Superstition
: On the way to the wedding ceremony, the bride and groom should look for birds of “luck”.
Meaning
: pigeons and magpies will bring happiness to the young, and crows will bring bad luck.
Superstition
: a wedding bouquet should not consist of roses.
Meaning
: Pink thorns foretell a thorny life.
Superstition
: If an engagement ring is dropped during a wedding ceremony, it cannot be picked up in person. This must be done by a witness or priest.
Meaning
: If the bride or groom picks up the ring on their own after the wedding ring slips out, it will be a sign of financial problems.
Superstition
: You can't trip on your way to the altar.
Meaning
: Stumbling means quarrels in marriage.
Superstition
: When walking down the aisle, you need to smile.
Meaning
: With this gesture the marriage will also be full of smiles and joy.
Superstition
: The groom must ensure that the wedding dress does not cover his shoes even for a moment during the ceremony.
Meaning
: if at least the hem of the bride’s dress covers the groom’s shoe, the newlywed’s husband will be “under the shoe” of his wife.
Superstition
: The bride should stand to the left of the groom.
Meaning
: The groom leads his beloved to the left because his right hand has the power to drive away any evil forces from them.
Superstition
: A mistake in marriage vows is a good omen.
Meaning
: Contrary to appearances, mispronounced words of an oath should bring happiness to the newlyweds.
Signs of a wedding day
Superstition
: After the marriage vow, the bride and groom must kiss each other passionately.
Meaning
: a sincere, passionate kiss after a wedding means sincerity of feelings and fidelity of the spouses.
Superstition
: It is important who turns away from the altar first after the wedding ceremony.
Meaning
: The first one will rule the marriage.
Superstition
: Fortunately, after the wedding ceremony, the bride and groom are showered with rice and coins.
Meaning
: Rice is supposed to bring fertility and health to offspring and money for prosperity, but also financial dominance for whoever collects the most coins.
Superstition
: Gender order and people's choices are important when making wishes for newlyweds.
Meaning
: In order for wedding wishes to come true, the man must be the first to fulfill them, and there must also be someone outside the bride and groom.
Superstition
: When presenting the bride and groom with a bouquet, make sure there is an odd number of flowers. The same goes for the bride's wedding bouquet.
Meaning
: for funeral bouquets, an even number of flowers is prepared - this number in the bouquet should bring the marriage to disintegration.
Superstition
: flowers in the bride's and guests' bouquets should not be yellow.
Meaning
: Yellow flowers symbolize betrayal.
Superstition
: The path of the newlyweds after the wedding should be different from the wedding.
Meaning
: Thanks to this, misfortune will confuse the road and will not find the bride and groom.
Present
Wedding gifts are considered an important aspect of the special day. Signs regarding this part of the important day read:
- You cannot give sharp objects: knives, forks, which carry aggressive energy that can fill a new family. If such a gift was nevertheless presented, the donor should be given a handful of coins so that there will be no troubles in life.
- You cannot give a watch, because it will count down the minutes and seconds of your life together, and it will last as long as the gift will work.
- Spouses are advised to choose their own bed linen, because intimate life is a private matter, not a public one.
- You cannot present towels and handkerchiefs, so as not to condemn the newlyweds to tears and sadness.
- Icons can only be given by the closest people: parents, grandmothers, godparents, because it is with such a valuable gift that the energy of the family is partially transferred into the hands of the young. If one of the invitees decided to make such a present, then the icon must first be consecrated in the church.
- You also cannot give antiques that retain the energy of their previous owners. After all, they will influence the young family in their own way, and such influence may not always be good.
- You cannot give a mirror. This is a magical object, and what is reflected in it is an astral projection of everything that a person sees in reality. As a wedding gift, the mirror will become a door to a parallel world (illusionary), which will provoke the newlyweds to lead a double lifestyle.
- You cannot present pearl jewelry to the bride, otherwise the latter will often cry and grieve in her family life.
- Also, guests should not give rings or cufflinks with amber, the energy of which can cause failure in their career. It is recommended to re-gift such gifts immediately.
- For a smooth path in life, the bride should be given a white tablecloth as a gift.
- You cannot give red roses. It is better for them to prefer a bouquet of wildflowers from daisies, cornflowers, lungwort and others, symbolizing love and tenderness. Lilies of the valley will be original as a wedding bouquet - a symbol of romance, happiness and fidelity. You can opt for violet - a flower that symbolizes the purity of soul and thoughts.
Wedding signs
You also need to keep your fingers crossed at a wedding. What superstitions await the bride and groom, as well as participants during the party? Let's check!
Superstition
: In order for a prosperous newly formed family to reign, the bride and groom must be greeted with bread and salt.
Meaning
: Their parents should greet the bride and groom with bread and salt after they return from church - this is an old custom. Bread symbolizes prosperity and fertility, and salt symbolizes healing and cleansing. The bride and groom must kiss the loaf of bread and taste a piece as a sign of respect and blessing so that the newlyweds never run out of bread.
Wedding customs: welcoming the newlyweds with bread and salt
Superstition
: greeting with bread and salt, the newlyweds drink a glass of vodka, and then throw the glass behind them over their left shoulder.
Meaning
: Broken glass should bring happiness to the bride and groom. The more glass is broken, the better.
Superstition
: When welcoming the bride and groom, one glass is filled with vodka and the other with water. The newlyweds take a glass at random and taste its contents to find out who will rule the wedding.
Meaning
: The one who chooses a glass of vodka will lead the relationship. The one who reaches for the water will be the submissive party.
Superstition
: The groom must carry his new wife over the threshold. This usually happens when leaving the church or entering the wedding hall.
Meaning
: A man carries a woman so that she does not trip, which would be a bad omen. It used to be believed that the guardian spirits of the house had power over the threshold. If the bride hit her foot on the threshold in the aisle, she disturbed the peace of the spirits, who in revenge could bring misfortune to the young couple.
Superstition
: Confusing your first dance is a bad omen.
Meaning
: The newlyweds' feet get tangled during their first dance - a sign that they will go in different directions in the relationship.
Feast
- Before entering the hall, the newlyweds treat each other with salty bread. This should be the last time they hurt each other.
- After the registry office, the most revered relative leads the newlyweds around the festive table three times, this symbolizes the inextricable bond of the married couple.
- You should definitely break the first glass of champagne - for good luck! If dishes break at a wedding, it is fortunate.
- At the wedding table, the newlyweds are required to sit not on chairs, but on the same bench, so that family life can be friendly.
- There is such an interesting sign: if the bride accidentally drinks from her betrothed’s glass, it means that she will take his entire salary.
- So that the newlyweds always have money, the newlyweds place a scarf with dry cockroaches under the bench.
- If one of the guests drops a piece of food on the floor, the young people will always have a lot of treats.
- If the bride's friend accidentally stepped on the hem of her wedding dress, it means she will soon be married.
- If the young woman knocks back a full glass, the husband will drink.
- If there are many children at the wedding, this means a fun and noisy family life.
- A special decoration of the table is the wedding cake. The bride needs to cut it, and the groom supports the knife. The young people are treated to the first piece of cake - for good luck.
Wedding superstitions
Are all wedding signs and wedding superstitions under control? That's not all! It turns out that after the wedding you need to check a few things so that happiness fully serves you.
Superstition
: Wedding rings should not be removed immediately after the wedding.
Meaning
: Taking off your wedding rings after marriage can mean getting rid of them forever.
Superstition
: You cannot dry a wedding bouquet or flowers received from guests.
Meaning
: They say that when flowers wither, love fades.
Wedding superstitions
Superstition
: You should not wear a wedding ring on your middle finger.
Meaning
: Wearing a wedding ring on your middle finger can lead to your spouse cheating on you.
Advice
: Are you already dizzy with superstitions, but would you like to live up to some of them? Contact a professional wedding planner for help.
Wedding: signs for an ancient ritual
Today, a wedding is not a mandatory ritual, but it is better to carry it out. After him, the couple will be under the protection of the Lord, and he will begin to protect the union of lovers.
It is impossible to dissolve this union, since it was concluded not in the mortal world, but in heaven. There are a number of signs that must be followed during the wedding:
- under no circumstances should those who hold crowns over the heads of young people lower or change hands;
- the bride should not change her shoes during the ceremony (especially if this is done by a stranger);
- whose candle of the couple burns out first will have a shorter life;
- The newlyweds must blow out both candles together, then they will have a long life together.
What brings happiness on your wedding day?
They say that happiness must be helped. If you are of the same opinion, let's summarize in one place everything that should bring us success on your wedding day:
- wedding in the month with the letter “R” in the name
- your wedding at Christmas or Easter
- wedding in the parish where the bride is baptized
- marry someone who has different initials than us
- witnesses who are not a couple
- distribution of all wedding invitations (so that no one is left at home)
- choosing a wedding dress with your mother or friend
- something white, something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue - in the form of a bride
- bride's wedding shoes bought by the groom
- groom's shirt bought by the bride
- bride's shoes that stand on the windowsill until the wedding day
- a crumb of bread and a grain of sugar sewn into a wedding dress
- coin in the bride's shoe
- banknote in the groom's pocket
- see a pigeon or magpie on the way to a wedding
- bride to the left of the groom
- right foot crosses the threshold of the church
- smiling while walking down the aisle
- mistake during marriage vows
- sincere, passionate kiss after marriage vows
- shower the newlyweds with rice and coins
- the man was the first to wish the newlyweds
- a stranger makes wishes to a young couple
- greeting with bread and salt
- newlyweds breaking glasses during their meeting at the wedding
- carrying the bride over the threshold by the groom
- perfect first dance
- sweet wedding cake.
Wedding superstitions related to the bride
The bride's bouquet
- Wedding signs (what young people can and cannot do) clearly state that under no circumstances should the groom give his beloved’s bouquet to anyone until he himself gives it to him.
- The bride must protect her bouquet throughout the festive evening; if he is released, happiness will fly away. At the wedding feast, you can put it on the table in front of you, and if there is a great need, then give it to the groom or your mother to hold.
- A wedding bouquet fell on the floor - there will be another wedding in this house.
- The one of the bride's friends who catches the wedding bouquet will be the next to get married.
Why are you unlucky on your wedding day?
An even less pleasant list that will allow you to protect yourself from bad luck. Unhappiness in marriage can result from:
- marry someone who has the same initials as us
- wedding in a month, the name of which does not have the letter “R”
- your wedding in May and November
- wedding in Lent, Advent, April Fool's Day
- wedding outside the bride's home
- change of wedding date after agreement
- using husband's name before marriage
- trying on the wedding rings of other married women before the wedding
- witnesses who are a couple
- sewing a wedding dress for the bride herself
- looking in the mirror in full dress before the wedding
- putting on a dress before the wedding (except trying on)
- Mother preparing the bride
- putting a veil on a bride by a woman who is not the bride
- see the bride in a dress before her wedding day
- outdoor bride shoe model
- pearls in the bride's dress
- other brides trying on wedding dresses
- stops on the way to a wedding
- return home on the way to the wedding (if the bride and groom forget something, the witnesses must return)
- see a raven on the way to the wedding
- wedding bouquet of roses with thorns or yellow flowers
- stumble on the way to the altar
- removal of a wedding ring by the bride or groom during a wedding
- The bride looks back at the altar
- tears of emotion during the wedding ceremony
- an even number of flowers in the wedding bouquet and a bouquet from guests
- the bride to the right of the groom
- first dance with crazy steps
- sew up a torn wedding dress (secure with a safety pin!)
- veil twice during shooting
- no wedding cake
- photos of wedding rings immediately after the wedding
- loss of wedding rings
- drying a wedding bouquet or flowers from guests
- wear a wedding ring on your middle finger.
Advice
: To help you fulfill the wedding customs that are important to you and keep each one in mind during preparation, add them as wedding tasks to your wedding checklist.
What should guests and family do?
A banquet usually does not allow those gathered to get bored. But people also have beliefs reserved for them:
- Parents must witness the signature. Their presence at the Wedding Palace is mandatory.
- As soon as the daughter-in-law leaves the house, the sister/aunt washes the floor. Don't touch the threshold! This is necessary so that the girl does not return to her parents disgraced.
- The mother gives her daughter a family heirloom before registration. You need to carry the little thing with you and keep it dear.
- Whoever gets to sit on the corner of the wedding table will buy his own home this year.
If guests sneeze often, then the young people will live a long, harmonious, joyful life.
Removing the veil
The newly-made mother-in-law frees her daughter-in-law from the snow-white cloud in the evening. This is how a new member is accepted into a large family.
Important: the veil, dress, and accessories cannot be sold, given away, or given away. Keeping them means protecting love.
Wedding superstitions and some “successful” tips
Nowadays, wedding superstitions are no longer considered as a kind of
marriage
necessity
and inevitable prophecies of ancestors. Agree, even if you believe in superstitions, you will not be able to satisfy all their demands. You will have to do nothing all day except watch what you do, say and wear. And this only creates additional stress and even leads to even less necessary arguments.
Wedding superstitions or wedding customs?
Instead, break away from these habits. Treat superstitions more like customs stemming from our culture,
and - if you are going to practice them - without panic over the loss of happiness, only with a sense of preserving wedding traditions.
Even if you take the preconceptions from a distance, you can skillfully weave them into your wedding script, subtly integrate them into the party theme, and even make them a great introduction to wedding games and attractions. After all, he’s prudent and always insured, right? Or should I say superstitious, always insured?
