An engagement ring is the cherished dream of almost every girl and her parents. But this piece of jewelry not only adorns a delicate hand, but also endows its owner with magical powers and protects the home from all troubles and misfortunes.
There are many superstitions about wedding rings. All of them relate mainly to family happiness. For those who wear the attributes of marriage or are just about to wear them, it would not hurt to study folk signs about wedding rings in order to choose and use them correctly.
Buying wedding rings
Signs and superstitions about wedding rings dictate what they should be like and how to buy them. Popular rumor claims that these nuances affect future married life.
When to buy?
Oddly enough, there are also superstitions about this:
- You need to buy wedding rings after the engagement, when the groom proposed and the bride and her parents accepted him.
- You cannot purchase marriage symbols on your wedding day.
- Both rings must be purchased at the same time from the same place.
If the groom wants to give a ring at the time of the marriage proposal, it should be an engagement ring. It has special power. If a girl gives her consent to marriage, then wearing an engagement symbol, she cannot flirt with young people.
Who should buy?
According to ancient traditions, the groom must choose and purchase it personally. Times have changed, the range of jewelry has expanded significantly, so the presence of the bride in a jewelry salon is acceptable. She can help with the choice, but the man must pay for the purchase.
How to choose?
In order for the family amulet to show all its strength, the wedding ring must be chosen correctly:
- It is better to opt for the simplest, smooth and even rings that will attract the same impeccable, calm family life.
- Do not engrave your wedding attributes so as not to put your future happiness to the test.
- Prefer products made of precious metals. The newlyweds' favorite is gold (yellow, white, red). This is a symbol of material wealth. Some newlyweds choose platinum as a symbol of the strength and inviolability of marriage. Silver is also allowed.
- It is customary for these paired jewelry to be made in the same style, from the same metal. If the rings are different, one is made of silver, the other is made of gold, then the spouse on whose finger the silver jewelry adorns will dominate the family.
- When choosing, trust your taste, pay less attention to fashion trends. Fashion changes quickly; a wedding attribute should decorate the hand for a long time.
- You need to be in a good mood when buying engagement rings. If it is not there, you should postpone the purchase.
If, when thinking about wedding rings, you imagine an accessory with stones, you need to know the signs about these additional inlay elements:
- Aquamarine is the keeper of the family hearth and will prevent adversity.
- Amethyst is the “catcher of happiness.”
- Turquoise is a symbol of fidelity and love.
- A diamond is a sign of strong family ties and represents the success of a person and a marriage.
- Pearls – health and longevity.
- Emerald is the stone of Venus (the goddess of love), enriches intimate relationships, and drives away disturbing thoughts.
- Moonstone is a protector from quarrels.
- Opal is a symbol of trust and sincere feelings.
- Ruby is a sign of eternal love, a protector from the evil eye.
- Sapphire - purity and morality, will help to remain faithful in a couple throughout life.
- Zircon is a deliverer from lovesickness.
There is one more useful sign. Upon returning home with a successful acquisition, say out loud at the doorstep: “To a happy life, to a strong family! Amen!"
Is it possible to take someone else's?
It is highly not recommended not only to use it for a wedding ritual, but also to simply try on used wedding rings. No matter how profitable it is to buy used rings, you should avoid it. You should also not accept wedding symbols as gifts or borrow them from friends.
Superstition on this matter states:
- Together with other people's jewelry, you can accept someone else's fate, most likely a bad one.
- Expensive things are ideal for causing damage. When a person gives away or throws away a piece of jewelry, together with it he strives to get rid of a serious illness or other misfortune, shifting the problems onto this thing.
Metal
When choosing one of the most significant wedding symbols, such nuances as appearance, quality, convenience, size, cost and compatibility with lifestyle and appearance are taken into account.
The metal from which the accessory is made is chosen based on the couple's tastes and budget. In addition, the likelihood of allergic reactions to certain impurities in the composition of the products is taken into account.
The classic option is gold. However, nowadays many people prefer silver rings because this metal is purer and has the title of ecclesiastical metal. It is important to remember that silver tends to turn black over time, and products made from it require special care.
White gold and platinum are popular. Metals are expensive, but this is compensated by the fact that the rings made from them are the most durable and resistant to damage and abrasion. Those who want to stand out opt for red, black, blue and rose gold.
Is it possible to try on wedding jewelry before the wedding?
According to signs, wedding rings after purchase cannot be worn until the marriage ceremony. Actually, there is no need for such a fitting, there is only simple curiosity. The magic of the wedding ritual lies in the novelty of sensations, so newlyweds put rings on each other for the first time in the registry office or during the wedding.
Signs about wedding rings do not say to wear these accessories until the wedding. It is recommended to fill them with water in a single container and freeze them. But if the bride wears a wedding ring, this means that the girl remains pure until the wedding. In this case, wearing a ring is acceptable.
Size
Which wedding rings to buy? Signs still do not have a primary role. The most important thing is the order of selection. Having decided on the metal, you should pay attention to the size, which is important to choose correctly.
The size of the accessory depends on the thickness of the finger:
- The diameter is measured in millimeters and varies from 15 to 23.
- The most popular men's sizes are 21-23, women's sizes are 17-18.
- There are also half sizes (18.5). They are the key to an extremely precisely selected decoration.
It is best to come to the fitting several times and do it together. Be sure to pay attention to the manufacturer (rings from well-known brands fit perfectly on your finger). The optimal time to visit a jewelry store is in the afternoon. It is worth considering the factors that affect the thickness of the finger: they swell from heat, and shrink from frost. It also makes sense to refrain from drinking large amounts of water and playing sports before trying on, as your fingers will swell.
What to do if the bride has lost her engagement ring?
Losing any ring is a bad sign. It's much worse when a wedding or engagement ring disappears. This suggests that the wedding may be upset, that the girl is unsure of her feelings, or that the young man made an insincere proposal. In this case, the bride and groom should listen to their feelings so as not to make an unfortunate mistake.
If a piece of jewelry accidentally falls off the bride’s finger, and the future newlyweds are confident in their desire to start a family, they urgently need to buy the same exact piece of jewelry as it was. The bride should continue to wear it.
How to handle wedding rings?
When you are married, wedding rings must be handled very carefully.
Is it allowed to rent or sell?
They cannot be pawned or sold, because this amounts to exchanging family happiness for money. You can also lose something very important in life if you sell the ring of your deceased spouse.
But after a divorce, the symbols of the former marriage are an obstacle to creating new relationships and finding other family happiness. They should be removed from the house (sold, donated, or even thrown away). Moreover, if you simply melt down the ring, it can preserve the energy of the broken union and continue to ruin life.
A wedding ring fell on a mural
This is a bad omen, foreshadowing an imminent separation, but it is easy to neutralize. To do this, the witness must pull a white thread through the ring, and the culprit of the incident (“the bungler” who dropped the attribute) must burn this thread with the words: “Fire, take all our troubles and sorrows.” It is believed that the thread will take over a bad omen, and the fire will completely destroy it.
Why shouldn't newlyweds touch an empty ring box?
After the main attributes of the wedding celebration are on the fingers of the newlyweds, the bride and groom should not pick up the box or pillow on which the betrothal symbols rested. This item should be taken by anyone who wants to get married as soon as possible (the girl can be one of the newlyweds’ friends or relatives).
A stand for rings (a box, a pillow, a saucer, etc.) has the same magical power as the bride’s bouquet, which is usually thrown into a crowd of bridesmaids at a wedding. An empty ring box becomes a kind of “catcher” for a new wedding.
Is it possible to put a ring on a glove?
This question interests brides for whom gloves are an integral attribute of their image, and newlyweds with various hand defects, serious or minor.
It is strictly forbidden to put a ring on a glove only during a wedding. When getting engaged at the registry office, there is no such strict prohibition. It is customary to remove the glove during the exchange of rings, even for reasons of practicality. To fit the decoration onto the fabric, it must be larger than necessary. Wearing such a ring in the future will be inconvenient, it will be easy to lose it, or you will have to hold it on your hand with a second one.
Is it possible to let other people try it on?
“A wedding ring is not a simple piece of jewelry...”, so you shouldn’t even let other people hold it, let alone try it on. Counts:
- If a stranger tries on your ring before the wedding, it can ruin all your wedding plans.
- If a stranger takes your marriage attribute after the wedding, he steals your family happiness.
In addition, until the celebration, it is not recommended to even show wedding attributes to anyone other than the closest relatives.
Is it possible to film?
In the old days, after the wedding, it was not customary to remove the attributes of marriage, because they are a symbol of love, a talisman against any shocks and serious illnesses. It was believed that when a person takes off his wedding ring, he and his significant other are left without protection.
But modern experts (medics and esotericists) do not recommend constantly wearing rings in order to avoid blocking the energy flow. In practice, you have to remove jewelry when performing wet work. It is recommended not to put on the wedding ring yourself - this should be done by the spouse each time. This will preserve the strength of the union.
Some women get scared when their husband doesn't wear a ring. Of course, you need to be vigilant. Suddenly a man does not want to reveal his marital status to his passion or mistress. But many representatives of the stronger sex simply do not like to wear jewelry; they are irritated by unnecessary elements on their hands.
Who chooses?
Choosing wedding rings is a rather difficult and very responsible task, since they become the couple’s companions for life. You should not put off this purchase; you need to think in advance how the future spouses see their rings: choose metal, classic or precious stones, the presence or absence of engraving. If lovers believe in omens, they should give preference to smooth rings.
Traditionally, the groom buys the rings. But the bride must also certainly be a participant in the choice. Not only should both people like jewelry, there are other nuances as well. For example, even the most accurate finger size can vary with different ring designs, so there is always a risk that during marriage registration the accessory will either slip off or simply cannot be put on the finger.
Losing a wedding ring is one of the worst signs for a man or a woman. It is believed that after this, either the loved one will leave the life of the owner of the item, or a serious illness will occur.
Which finger to wear the ring on
The placement of the ring on the hand is as important as the symbolic decoration itself. Traditionally, wedding and engagement rings are worn on the ring finger. Only in the USA and most European countries is the sign of marriage on the left hand, and in Russia - on the right. The reasons for such differences are unclear. After all, the ring finger of the left hand is directly connected to the heart. It is quite logical to wear a symbol of love and fidelity on it.
Women pay more attention to conventions. Therefore, you can find out about a lady’s marital status by the jewelry on her hands:
- The ring on the ring finger of the right hand is evidence of a woman’s marriage.
- Marriage attribute on the ring finger of the left hand - the lady is divorced. Sometimes widows or women dreaming of divorce wear a wedding ring on this finger.
- 2 wedding rings (one on the middle finger, the other on the ring finger) - a widowed woman remembers her husband and remains faithful to him. On her middle finger, a woman wears something belonging to her late husband. If such a combination of marriage attributes is on a lady’s hand while her husband is alive, this is a wish for death to the spouse.
- A wedding ring on the little finger is a desire to improve family relationships. Therefore, if the ring has become small, it can be worn on the little finger without harming the marriage.
All of the above rules apply to men as well. Only the stronger sex often does not wear wedding jewelry. But an experienced eye allows one to judge a man’s marital status even by the mark of the ring on his finger.
Can I use my parents' wedding rings?
The marriage attributes of older relatives can be passed on to subsequent generations if the parents’ marriage was long and happy (people lived at least until their silver wedding).
Family heirlooms can be worn or not worn, but they cannot be melted down so that the accumulated positive experience does not disappear. If the jewelry does not fit, it is better to carefully store it together in a box. This way they will bring more benefits to the new family.
Are those that were used by strangers suitable?
You should never use wedding rings that have already been worn by someone else. Even if it's expensive antique jewelry.
Any thing not only absorbs the energy of its owners, but also carries typos from fate.
A prerequisite when purchasing wedding rings is that they must be new.
If you decide to use used ones, you risk trying on the fate of their owners. If the ring is very old, then its energy may be tarnished.
Magical cleansing will not help in this case, just like consecration in the church. After all, it is almost impossible to remove all energy layers from an old object.
Other signs about wedding rings
There are many beliefs about wedding rings. For example, if a husband leaves home, the wife only needs to look after him through her wedding ring, and the man will definitely return. Wedding jewelry serves as a talisman for the whole family, and not just for the person to whom it belongs. For example, if a baby is sick, you can put his father or mother’s wedding ring under his pillow, the child will recover quickly.
The magical power of rings is obtained as a result of reading special spells over them, or during religious ceremonies (engagement, betrothal). It is clear that any troubles with such expensive items (broken, cracked, blackened) cause anxiety in their owner.
If the engagement or wedding ring is cracked, this indicates instability in the couple's relationship. There are several explanations:
- The item warns the owner about the infidelity of the spouse.
- A breakdown foreshadows a difficult period in the life of a family with the presentation of mutual claims and stormy showdowns.
- Damage to the ring indicates the appearance of an enemy who wants to quarrel between spouses and casts a spell against them.
In the latter case, the thing deteriorates, taking on other people's bad thoughts and averting trouble. Therefore, there is no need to torment your partner with suspicions. It's better to buy new rings and exchange them. Moreover, it is important to buy exactly 2 new jewelry so as not to break the pair. Old rings can be melted down into other jewelry.
If the wedding ring turns black, it brings sad thoughts. In fact, it is explained by the low quality of the metal. If the real gold ring or the finger underneath it darkens, this means that there is a lot of negativity around (envy, enemies), and the wedding attribute is taking it upon itself.
Divination
- Pour water into the glass two-thirds full.
- Place the hair band on your hair and pinch the ends with your fingers so that they are not visible.
- Dip the “pendulum” into water for 2-3 seconds.
- Then hold it level with the rim of the glass.
Ask questions to get answers:
- circular movements mean “yes.”
- swaying to the sides - “no”.
- stands still - there is no definite answer.
Of course, folk signs for wedding rings have been collected for centuries. Can you trust them? The Church will accept all superstitions. There must be faith in a happy destiny, love and respect in the family.
Other signs
- If the ring becomes small, you can “roll it out”. According to signs, increasing the size of rings prolongs the happy period of marriage.
- A lost ring is a sign of an upcoming major quarrel that could lead to divorce.
- Found a golden wedding ring - a harbinger of a repeat of a series of events that you have already gone through. It is advisable not to take or wear someone else’s item.
- It lies at a crossroads - it cannot be taken. Surely someone is casting a spell on him.
- If the gold ring is bent in your hands, you are about to become the culprit in creating problems with your spouse.
One of the main prohibitions is that you should not let anyone take the wedding ring off your finger! Then your marriage will last for decades.
