What is a wedding for? Is a wedding necessary?

Civil marriage - a solution or a dead end?

In the modern world, more and more couples prefer civil marriage. This does not limit the rights of partners and makes it possible to experience all the nuances of life together. At least, this is what most people do before deciding to get married. And others don’t think about the stamp in their passport at all. After all, the main thing is that your loved one is nearby. In fact, the relationship between a man and a woman does not depend in any way on whether there was a wedding and what kind of wedding it was - magnificent or modest, etc. You can have a luxurious party according to all the rules and canons and even go through a wedding ceremony, and then never see happiness in life. There are also situations when, instead of a wedding, there was a modest painting, without a table and a cortege, and the relationship only blossoms and strengthens. If the happiness of a family does not depend on celebrating its birth, then what is a wedding for?

Interesting Facts

• The first Wedding Palace for pets was opened in Budapest. Instead of wedding rings, the “newlyweds” wear jewelry bracelets ordered from the best craftsmen on their paws.
• An unmarried girl from Sweden, Susan Svenson, wanting to find her soulmate, threw a bottle with her photograph and address into the Baltic Sea. A few months later, twenty-three crew members of a fishing seiner stood on her doorstep. Susan married the captain, although the marriage did not last long.
• In 1855, the Englishman Beamich, by court decision, received the right to marry himself.
• A 42-year-old Melbourne resident, after two failed marriages, became disillusioned with women and married his own TV. The wedding ceremony took place in his home, where his relatives and even a priest were present.

What does this solemn event mean for a girl?

According to statistics, girls, of course, want to experience all the charm of the celebration. After all, from childhood, representatives of the fair sex know from fairy tales about princesses in magnificent decorations, about luxurious weddings in the palace and certainly with princes. Likewise, in real life, every girl wants to wear a wedding dress and experience all the benefits of being a bride. Veil, jewelry, bouquet, guests, music and fun - all these attributes will take your breath away just by listing them. The celebration itself serves as a kind of realization of an old childhood dream.

That's what a girl's wedding is for in most cases. Also, many ladies are in a hurry to cross the line of free life and devote themselves to family and raising children. They see this as their purpose and are ready to implement themselves in this direction without delay. That is why more and more often the initiative comes from the fair sex. The celebration is also a great opportunity to be the center of attention.

Content

• 1 A little bit of history
• 2 Wedding participants. Their responsibilities 2.1 Responsibilities of the bride
• 2.2 Responsibilities of the groom
• 2.3 Responsibilities of the mother of the bride
• 2.4 Responsibilities of the father of the bride
• 2.5 Responsibilities of the mother and father of the groom
• 2.6 Responsibilities of the bridesmaid (witness)
• 2.7 Obligations of a witness

Parents wanted

What is a wedding for? Sometimes the decision to hold a celebration is made by the parents of the boy and girl. After all, the past generation grew up on certain rules of society. And when people wanted to be together, they usually got married. It is sometimes difficult for parents to understand why their children do not live in an official marriage. After all, before this would have been considered a shame. But time moves forward, and many standards of society have long changed their guidelines. Now people pay attention primarily to self-realization. If starting a family does not run counter to their personal plans, then they tie the knot.

What if a guy and a girl have been dating for a long time or even live together. Why do they need a wedding? You need to understand each situation separately.

Opinions of outsiders

The first reason why celebrations of various formats are held is the official announcement of the creation of a young family. After all, relationships are not always advertised, and a wedding is a good reason to show your significant other to your many relatives. So we should not miss the fact that public opinion still matters. When, for example, a couple has been dating for a long time, sooner or later young people hear from acquaintances, relatives and friends the question of when is the wedding. And both the guy and the girl feel uneasy. Until this moment, they were happy with everything, they enjoyed the feelings and did not think about why the wedding was needed. Human psychology is structured in such a way that, having heard an opinion from the outside, he involuntarily begins to analyze it. Girls are more subject to the pressure of public opinion.

That is why they begin to give hints to their boyfriends in every possible way, and sometimes directly explain why they need a wedding. Often this results in strong marriages, and it also happens that everything ends before it even begins. Therefore, before getting married, you should get to know your partner well and observe his actions in different situations. The candy-bouquet period is, of course, good, but real life makes its own, sometimes not entirely pleasant, adjustments. You need to learn to live with your partner.

How to turn wedding preparations into a family rehearsal

Discussing the wedding budget will be easy if by now you have reached an agreement on the family budget. A wedding is your first family holiday, and the budget for it should be formed in the same way as for any other family holiday. The same applies to purchasing wedding dresses and jewelry.

If, as you prepare for your wedding, you see that budgeting or decision-making agreements are not being followed or are not comfortable, it's time to make adjustments. It is better to enter family life with a real working model.

• Listen carefully to the groom and watch him. How willing is he to honor the agreements you come to? Preparing for a wedding is the first episode of long-term joint planning. It will be very revealing.
• Don't worry if the groom leaves decisions about the location, decorations, menu and music up to you. If you agree on the main thing - the goals and objectives of the holiday, have discussed and approved the concept as a whole, the details no longer matter to a man. Unless, of course, they critically affect the overall budget of the event.
• The most important thing is to maintain a warm relationship during the preparation period and give your love the opportunity to grow. Memories of the wedding will help this. Therefore, treat it as an important, significant, but not terrible event. Act as if you are preparing for a vacation - anticipate, rejoice, think about the details.

After all, a wedding is a transition from one state to another, from single life to family life. In Rus', part of the wedding ceremony was the unweaving, washing and funeral service of the bride - she died as a girl and was born in a new capacity as a wife. I recommend that you also hold a symbolic farewell to your bachelor life.

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Conscious decision

What is a wedding for? The second reason for holding an identity ceremony is a conscious and final decision to be with a certain person. This step is especially difficult for men to take. After all, you need to take care of the family’s wealth, be able to provide for your wife and children, and also be confident in your own choice. Sometimes it happens that girls think for a long time. Of course, when entering into marriage, no one can give one hundred percent guarantees of its success and longevity. However, this is what life is given for, to comprehend it together with a loved one. You should not create a family as some kind of burden that will reduce personal opportunities or limit your own space.

Rather, you need to perceive this as a new stage in your life. Perhaps even expanding your own capabilities, because together it is not only more fun, but also easier to go through life’s journey.

Moving to a new level of relationship

Sometimes people wonder why a wedding is necessary if the relationship is fine and life suits both. The fact is that this can serve as a transition to a qualitatively new level of perception of both yourself and your partner. No matter what the experienced people say, life still changes after the wedding. A special sense of responsibility appears, which is the norm for some, but emotionally depressing for others. Therefore, it often happens that a couple who lived together in a civil marriage completely loses mutual understanding after a stamp in their passport. This is, rather, the result of an incorrect interpretation of responsibilities in the family.

For some reason, society has an opinion that life ends after marriage. There are even many jokes about this. But in reality it doesn't come to humor. Family is a new format of life.

Greater confidence

So what is a wedding for and for whom? For young people or those around them? The answer may seem ambiguous to some, but those who have experienced this situation themselves will certainly agree. A wedding is needed to gain greater confidence in your own environment. For example, when a guy and a girl meet, almost no one close to them takes their choice seriously. This is especially true for parents.

After the wedding, things are different. The daughter-in-law is no longer perceived as just a son's girlfriend, and the son-in-law becomes something more than the daughter's boyfriend. This principle changes a lot in the relationship between people around and the couple. The atmosphere within the union between the young may remain the same, especially if everything was good before. But others perceive the couple as a single whole, that is, a family.

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1. Review by Alex Axler

A different format of celebration is an excellent alternative to the usual wedding

Young people, due to their insolvency, often wonder why a wedding must necessarily be traditional with many guests, a good table and attributes that are usually present at such celebrations. After all, you can come up with something more interesting, while saving a considerable budget, which can be spent on the needs of a young family. From a practical point of view, this is the correct approach.

What if this wedding becomes the only one in your life? It would be unreasonable to miss such an event and replace it with a symbolic painting. Maybe it’s not worth throwing a fancy buffet. But you should try to celebrate this day in such a way that it will be remembered for a lifetime. Moreover, a wedding is a beautiful ritual of uniting the destinies of people who have decided to walk the path of life together.

The oath is also of great importance. Pronounced in the presence of close people, it acquires the greatest significance for the bride and groom. After all, these are the words that one often has to remember in later family life. Sometimes the memory of your own oath helps you make the right decision in favor of your family when difficult times come.

What style to have a wedding

Having come to an agreement on the goals and objectives of the wedding, it is time to discuss the concept and style with the groom. You can call on magazines, the Internet and films about weddings to help.

Professional wedding planners can offer interesting concept options. I strongly recommend contacting them, even if you are planning to invite only a dozen guests. Someone will still have to monitor the timing, communicate with the restaurant, be in charge of the music, give the floor to congratulators, gather everyone for a photo and give instructions to the operator. It’s better if it’s not you or your loved ones - after all, they will come to rest.