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The tradition of holding a bachelorette party has its roots in the distant past. No one will say for sure when they began to “implement” this pre-wedding ritual. But the fact that the ritual of “having a bachelorette party” was mandatory is for sure!
Our ancestors believed that a bachelorette party was a necessary farewell ceremony for the bride to her young life and friends. Therefore, girls gathered in the house (no men were invited), sang songs, unbraided the bride’s braid, and washed her in the bathhouse. The whole celebration was led by a matchmaker.
The most active resident of the village, settlement or city was appointed to this role. She had to be married and live a fairly successful life as a woman. The matchmaker was trusted to replace the dough for the holiday loaf. It was believed that her hand was light. And with her light hand, a married girl will definitely be happy.
And the bride was supposed to cry at her bachelorette party. And the more tears shed from the bride’s eyes, the more successful her family life will be. The matchmaker said: “Cry, cry, girl, so that in family life you can only smile and laugh.”
The groom was not allowed to attend the bachelorette party. The appearance of the groom at the time of the ceremony was considered a bad omen. The girls brought their gifts to the bride. All bridesmaids were given towels (or scarves) at the end of the ceremony.
At the end of the holiday, the matchmaker said, turning to her girlfriends: “That’s it, girls, now go home. Don’t invite your girlfriend anywhere again. There's no time for her. Her betrothed husband will now be her girlfriend!” This is how girls were seen off in marriage in the old days.
New trends in holding a bachelorette party
Nowadays, a bachelorette party is a very fun ceremony.
New traditions say that the more fun the bachelorette party is, the stronger the bond between the bride and her future husband will be. The better the newlyweds’ family relationships will be. An “unrealistically” happy life awaits them.
This ceremony is carried out the day before, no closer than 7-10 days before the wedding. An interesting scenario is being prepared. It, and the whole holiday, is prepared by the best friends of the bride. A professional hired toastmaster – a cultural worker – can spend the evening.
Sometimes the bride doesn’t even know that such a surprise awaits her. All expenses for the bachelorette party are borne by the girlfriends. But the bride prepares “farewell” gifts for all her bridesmaids.
It can be:
- T-shirts with the holiday logo;
- framed photograph;
- figurines;
- umbrellas;
- exclusive mugs, etc.
As a digression, we would like to note that divorces after marriages have increased many times over these days.
Perhaps there is some connection between the bride’s crying before the wedding and peace in family life, as well as fun before marriage and disappointment after?
Should we be more attentive to the echoes of our ancestors? Think for yourself. The script for your event will be yours. In general, it’s up to you to decide whether the bride should be sad or laugh at her bachelorette party! And we will give several different recommendations regarding the construction of a modern pre-wedding ceremony called a “bachelorette party”. Maybe you will find something useful.
bachelorette party in Spain
Quite an ordinary and calm bachelorette party. First, the bride and her bridesmaids attend spa treatments in a beauty salon. But, the holiday and fun begin right here. The bride’s belongings are hidden while she is beautifying herself during the procedures, and she has no choice but to change into the revealing carnival costume suggested and prepared in advance by her bridesmaids. In this form, the bridesmaids and the bride, already dressed in appropriate costumes, head to the bar, where dishes with erotic, immodest overtones await her. Gifts for the bride are not very different from the theme of the menu.
Where to begin
1. Although holding a bachelorette party is the business of the bridesmaids, the bride should not remain in the dark.
Long before the intended event, the bride needs to think about which of her bridesmaids she would like to see at the celebration. Your closest friends are invited to this event. After all, there should be people around with whom you feel comfortable and have fun. These are people with whom you can truly “break away” and chat about everything (including intimate topics).
These are people with whom we have traveled many paths, joyful and sad. These are people who do not need to be persuaded and simple truths do not need to be explained to them for a long time. In general, with this, everything is clear!
2. Now think about where you most often spend time with this group or most of this group. Bar? Club? Gym? Bathhouse? Bowling? Decide if it would be appropriate to use a bachelorette party theme at this location?
In principle, you can hold a bachelorette party at home or in a rented apartment. There are a lot of suitable places. Just use your imagination and find a room where you and your friends can really “hang out” and maybe cry?! Original solutions, that is, those invented specifically for your company, are better remembered.
3. Next, clearly calculate the date for which it is better to schedule a bachelorette party.
Since this event is best held on the weekend or at the end of the week, say on Friday, set a time convenient for all invitees. Leave plenty of time before the wedding. Even if you hold the event two weeks or a month in advance, that will be fine. But in two days - no!
After all, no one knows how your bachelorette party will end, and preparations for the wedding require strength, attention and health. Remember this.
4. Invitations to a bachelorette party in their original form are also welcome! Exclusive handmade cards or ordered from a printing house according to your design. Maybe the invitations will be in the form of “bandanas” that your friends will put on their heads or hands when entering the intended place. You will greatly please and surprise your friends by ordering them T-shirts with an inscription like: “Bachelorette party. We gather at 19.00 at the “night” club on Friday!” Arrange the rest.
5. Consider your clothes and shoes.
It should be convenient, comfortable, beautiful. If you want to have a common identification mark at the bachelorette party (this is now, as they say, “in trend”), prepare it yourself or tell the girls that you are expecting everyone in red dresses, or in white blouses and blue jeans, etc.
6. Let the information about the planned bachelorette party for your future husband remain unnoticed. Best of all, prepare your future husband that for some good reason you will not be with him on the planned evening.
Maybe you want to prepare for exams, or get some sleep, or even go to the village for a couple of days…. It’s not good to lie, but practice shows that not all grooms respond adequately to their girlfriends’ fantasies about holding bachelorette parties. They can even ruin your plans. It is better that the day of the bachelorette party and bachelor party coincide. Everyone will be busy with their friends and plans. There will be no offense. That's for sure!
7. Well, once again about the organizer of the holiday. It’s good if it turns out to be the bride’s best friend under her strict guidance. This may also be necessary for the purpose of making excuses for arriving late, or some kind of prank. The groom and parents may not fully understand everything. And here is your phrase: “After all, I didn’t know anything, this was a surprise from my friends. How could I refuse?!”
Tips for girlfriends
When planning a bachelorette party, you need to consider some points that will help make this event bright and memorable.
It is best if the entire pre-wedding party scenario is kept secret from the bride and becomes a surprise for her.
Stock up in advance on the necessary accessories that you will need for your bachelorette party. For example, you can make an impromptu veil for the bride from taffeta, and to make it more interesting, make the same ones, but in a different color, for the bridesmaids. A good idea would be to order or make your own cool inscriptions on T-shirts such as “Bachelorette Party: The Last Sip of Freedom”, “Getting Married”, “Bridesmaid” or “Bride’s Gang”, “Coolest Bachelorette Party”. This will create the appropriate ambiance and give the party the effect of mischief.
Hang letters for her on the door of the bride's apartment, in the entrance and in the elevator, which will indicate what she should do. For example, have her read an oath that she will have fun and “have a blast all night.”
On the asphalt on the way to the party venue, you can write with chalk: “Welcome to the devichnik!”, “Let’s have a blast!”, “Forward to the bachelorette party!”, “The groom will not know!” and the like in the same spirit, this will allow you to get a charge of fun and mischief along the way. But in this case, you will have to refuse taxi services and go to the event on foot.
To make the evening memorable for everyone, you need to fill it with various competitions, even the most reckless ones, and come up with awards for winning them. It’s best if the souvenirs are related to the theme of the bachelorette party: cool photo frames, panties, stockings and other nice little things. A funny gift would be a wooden rolling pin with the inscription “Rolling Pin for Educator.”
So, hen party ideas
1. Night club. This is one of the most common places for such events.
Book a table for a group. The menu and table decoration are discussed in advance. Cheerful signs like “I’m hanging out with my friends for the last time!” are welcome! " I'm busy!" “I take advice in family life,” etc.
Friends should order a surprise for the bride. Jugglers, magicians, acrobats and circus performers.
A good gift would be a stripper who will give a private dance only for the hero of the occasion.
2. Bar or cafe. Here it is better to think about a costume party...
Dress up:
- Russian beauties;
- Japanese geishas;
- oriental divas;
- Greek women;
- robbers;
- Amazons, etc.
A party host (or presenter) is welcome who will devote a large amount of time to your company.
3. Entertainment center.
Here, as they say, three in one:
- bowling;
- billiards;
- slot machines;
- film show 7-D;
- lottery tickets, etc.
You can enable shopping before the event.
You announce that every girl can buy something green for up to 1000 rubles and wear it to a bachelorette party. Time is given - one hour and a meeting place is planned. The most original one will receive a prize from the bride.
4. Traveling together. It's no secret that traveling is every girl's dream.
What if fate turns out in such a way that you have to temporarily forget about traveling? There is an offer to go to some city to celebrate a bachelorette party. You can discuss expenses on tickets with your friends, and do what is convenient for everyone. Let's go for, say, one day. We create a program for the whole day.
Example: In the evening, boarding a train, in the morning, going to the cinema together, a sightseeing walk around the city and, of course, a cafe. And in the evening again on the train and home. The program may include a variety of exhibitions and walks along exclusive streets.
You can even collect recipes for a happy family life for the hero of the occasion from passers-by. Give a lottery ticket, or something else. This bachelorette party will be remembered forever!
5. Walk together on the water. If your city has such entertainment, why not take advantage of it? Beautiful surroundings, romance. Think through the scenario. Maybe you are going for sea treasures, and then conclude that the treasure for the bride was left at home.
Or do you go for a scarlet flower, find it, and the bride gets the coveted last petal? Music on the boat, treats and surprises are a must.
6. Going to the bathhouse. Well, here the bride can cry.
Who will soar the “newly made” with a broom? Knock all unpleasant thoughts and illnesses out of her head and body. Use masks, scrubs, castings and rubdowns. It would be appropriate to invite a guy (male) massage therapist as a gift. It is better to order a massage not for therapeutic purposes, but for relaxing or cosmetic ones.
You can also hold a party in a spa salon with candles, hot tea and wine. After such a bachelorette party, the bride will not only be happy, but will also glow like a “new penny.” It's true - forward to a new life!
7. Limousine rental. Those who like to travel by transport will find this bachelorette party venue interesting.
We order a car. We are thinking about stops. You can even take a ride through these places in advance and leave interesting tasks.
Think about a gift for the birthday girl. Perhaps it will be an artist (or someone else) who will sit in your car at the next stop, drive with you, sing a song for the bride, and give the company a lot of pleasure. Don't forget to stock up on champagne and fruit.
8. Conducting a photo shoot. A bachelorette party is a bright event that will leave many memories.
So why not “plan” these moments? Friends invite the bride to the appointed place. You might even be intrigued. Like: “(name) come alone to (place) in the most beautiful dress, the most beautiful shoes, with an incredible hairstyle, in a great mood... A surprise is guaranteed!”
A professional photographer will pick out the “little things” and find the right shot, which after many years of family life will definitely bring a smile to the face of the former bride and her family.
On this day you can do without the services of a photographer. Just start the game “Models and Photographers”. First, photographers and models are selected, then the roles change. At the end we can summarize. The winner receives a gift from the bride.
9. Home evening gatherings. For homely, modest people who love comfort and home warmth, this type of bachelorette party is suitable.
The bride discusses the details with her friends, inviting her to her house for the night. A mandatory requirement is “suit - pajamas”. On this night, the bride's parents leave or simply spend the night outside the house. Script required. It can include playing various games, watching “non-children’s films,” various fortune telling and pranks.
Play the “Frank Answer” game for everyone present. Here you can cry (perhaps from laughter). Prepare in advance collages for the bride with the style “My Bridal World”. The most candid photos with friends will be collected here. A gift for the bride - an erotic nightgown.
In the morning, prepare a friendship pie together and drink tea together. Such gatherings leave a romantic mood for a long time.
10. Extreme – traveling on a ball. Flying in a balloon is not a cheap pleasure.
This gift is not for the timid. Only the bravest brides will appreciate this type of celebration. You can take a camera and binoculars with you. Let a ribbon be tied to the ball with the inscription “Flight to a happy life for a girl (Name letter) at a bachelorette party.”
Upon arrival, visit the cafe, or you can set a table right on the picturesque lawn. A globe would be a good gift.
Let your husband and I find the time and finances to travel more often!
Scenario
We offer a classic scenario for a bachelorette party. Let's think that this party is just a formal event, obligatory in a company called “Wedding Preparations”
Details: cards for invitations, children's photographs, rope, clothespins, photographs of the bride and groom together, gifts for girls (set of candles).
Venue: bride's apartment. Time: 20.00-24.00. Saturday. Guests: The bride's best friends. Decoration: The room is decorated with toys, feminine attributes, candles, photographs of the bride and her friends. Wall newspaper “Beloved girlfriends. I’ll miss you...”(preparing the bride’s best friend) Presenter: Childhood friend.
The bride prepares cards for inviting her friends. There is a number on each postcard; a lottery will be held for this number at the end of the holiday. The bride in elegant clothes meets everyone at the scheduled time.
Presenter:
“Girls! There are two pieces of news in our family today. One is good, the other is bad. Let's start with the bad. My closest friend (name) will no longer spend every day and evening with us, she is leaving us. The second is good: Our friend is in love. And this is serious. So serious that she's getting married. The wedding is scheduled for (date). Our task is to prepare our friend well and give her the necessary recommendations.”
The first competition is “Housewife.” The blindfolded bride will have to recognize household items by touch.
Second competition - “Our (name)” The most interesting incidents in the life of a little bride are recalled. She can also tell some cases. I remember the first spoken words, the first love in kindergarten, school. Along the way, children's photographs of the bride are hung on ropes and clothespins.
Third competition “Acquaintance Story” The bride shows a photo with her groom and asks to guess how their first meeting could have happened. At the end of the competition, he sums up the results and tells the real story.
Competition "Tips for a wedding." (prepared in advance) Friends take turns giving good advice, warning against the “roughness” of marriage. At the end, the bride sums up the best advice - a gift.
Fortune telling “On plates” is foreseen. The bride breaks the plate with all her might.
More fragments are desirable - fortunately! How many large fragments there are – so many children there will be! General lottery, comic lottery - fortune telling by invitation numbers. 1. A great journey awaits. 2. New housing. 3. Meet your love soon. 4. Buy a car. 5. Receive a large cash reward. 6. Meet a person who will change your destiny, etc.
R.S. Everything is accompanied by a feast. The bride can please her friends with her signature dish, which she will then surprise her husband with. The bridesmaids give the bride their recipes for quick preparation of delicious dishes. At the end, candles are lit, friends say goodbye...
