A wedding ceremony is a collection of touching moments. Getting ready for the bride, blessing the parents, and, of course, the speech for registering the marriage. The bride and groom listen very carefully to every word and delve into their meaning. This speech should contain such expressions that the young people will realize the greatness and seriousness of the marriage process. The words depend on the style, venue and personal characteristics of the newlyweds. A speech will not be needed only when registering a marriage without a ceremony.
Organization of on-site marriage registration
A wedding is a memorable moment for every married couple, which they want to spend as pleasantly as possible. But not all registration authorities have a beautiful interior that matches the theme of the wedding ceremony. To do this, you can organize a wedding outside the walls of the registry office. But only marriage in the registry office will have legal force, since the registration book is prohibited from being removed from its walls.
Therefore, the newlyweds come to the registry office on any free day before the celebration, sign their names, and then carry out a symbolic marriage in a solemn atmosphere.
Documentation
To register a marriage in a solemn format, certain documents are required:
- passports of the parties;
- application for young people - it can be filled out either directly at the registry office or online;
- receipt of payment of state duty - one of the future spouses can pay for the services;
- pregnancy certificate - if necessary, legalize the relationship in a short time;
- consent of parents or guardianship authorities - if one or both newlyweds have not reached the legal age for marriage;
- divorce certificate – if we are talking about second and subsequent marriages.
Russian legislation sets the minimum age for marriage at 18 years, but exceptions are provided , for example, the pregnancy of the bride allows for a reduction in the return qualification of future spouses.
The couple appears at the registry office to receive a certificate by a certain date, but not earlier than 30 days from the date of submission of the relevant documents. For valid reasons, which include pregnancy, the birth of a child, the presence of a threat to the life or health of those entering into marriage, or conscription for military service, the process can be accelerated. In each case, additional documents will be required, for example, in case of pregnancy - a certificate from a doctor, in case of conscription - a summons from the military registration and enlistment office.
Where and how can off-site marriage registration take place?
The ceremonial registration can take place absolutely anywhere of the choice of the bride and groom. This is especially important if the celebration is moved out of town. Most often such a wedding is carried out:
- on the shore of the sea or lake;
- in a country mansion;
- in a noble estate;
- in a botanical garden, park or forest;
- on the roof of a high-rise building;
- in the mountains;
- on the air balloon;
- in the restaurant where the banquet will be held.
In any of the above options, the costs will be higher than standard registration with the registry office. Preparations for the event begin several months in advance to iron out all the details.
Decor
A difficult point in holding a wedding outside the registry office is the decorative design of the ceremony. Newlyweds will have to purchase or rent the following:
- Chairs or benches for guests. Chairs are decorated with flowers, fabric, and ribbons based on the wedding theme. So that guests know exactly who is sitting where, beautiful cards with names are placed on chairs or benches.
- A tent that will be needed if the wedding is taking place outdoors in the cool season.
- Decoration of the area for the newlyweds. To allocate space for the young, they use arches, as in American melodramas, or delicate openwork screens. In the area for the newlyweds, a fairly high table is placed on which there will be a pillow with rings and a certificate signed by the bride and groom to create a believable atmosphere.
- Fabric for draperies. Preference is given to materials such as veil, organza, chiffon, tulle, gauze, silk or velvet. The color scheme used is pastel: pink, soft lilac, pearl gray, beige, pale blue, pistachio.
- Classically beautiful roses, lush peonies, strict Japanese chrysanthemums, delicate anemones, spring tulips, spectacular ranunculus will complement and decorate any wedding ceremony.
- Candles, decorative garlands or lanterns if the ceremony will take place in the evening or at night.
- The path along which the newlyweds will go to the “altar”. You can buy a carpet or simply scatter flower petals.
Other props may be needed depending on the style of the ceremony and the script.
Musical accompaniment
Finding the right music for registration yourself is not a difficult task. You can use your favorite romantic compositions.
If you choose a song in a foreign language, then you need to take care of the translation in order to know exactly what is being sung.
For each stage of the celebration, its own musical accompaniment is selected. For example, a scenario for on-site marriage registration may include the following:
- for gathering guests - Joe Cocker “You Are So Beautiful”;
- for the newlyweds' entrance - Billy Joel "Just The Way You Are".
Some people prefer “live” music at their wedding and invite vocal and instrumental groups or DJs.
Photoshoot
Everyone wants to be photographed at a wedding. A specially equipped photo zone will be needed not only for the newlyweds, but also for the guests. To decorate it, banners, flower arches, fabric, balloons, swings, sofas, etc. are used. And the main character is a professional photographer, on whom it is better not to skimp.
Uniting wedding ceremonies
The text for newlyweds reflects the wedding style, theme and mood of the bride and groom.
- Touching speech. The text, imbued with feelings, is suitable for romantic newlyweds and weddings in eco, rustic, and shabby chic styles.
- Extraordinary texts. Used for themed parties in the styles of fantasy, fairy tales, movies, etc.
- Humorous text. Used for youth celebrations organized in comic styles.
Christ told us: “A wife must submit to her husband as well as to God.” Just as Christ is the head of the church, so the husband is the head of his wife. I, __________, give myself to you.
Start writing your vow a few months before the upcoming celebration, gradually you will be able to make adjustments to it and by the time of the wedding you will bring it to perfection. Here's a baby, try to unswaddle him, just don't miss anything you see, then read it out loud.
Field registration scenario
It is not so easy to develop a script for on-site marriage registration on your own. In addition to the design and musical accompaniment, you definitely need to work out such points as:
- registrar's speech;
- the appearance of the newlyweds;
- the moment of a staged wedding.
You also need to think about how congratulations from those invited will be received. Special time should be allocated to words from parents and close relatives. Next, the newlyweds accept congratulations from other guests. Performances should be separated from each other by small inserts, for example, music for dancing, so that the ceremony does not start to seem boring.
Recorder's Speech
A professional actor or simply an artistic acquaintance is invited to play the role of the official conducting the wedding ceremony. Some registry offices offer this service. The choice is up to the newlyweds based on financial capabilities and preferences.
For the European scenario of on-site marriage registration, we can offer the following option:
“Dear guests of the ceremony! We are very pleased to welcome you to the celebration in honor of the marriage of (names of the newlyweds). Love is a divine gift that Heaven presented to our heroes. Today their souls enter into a union, and a new family is born!”
Next, the registrar introduces the newlyweds’ closest relatives and invites two witnesses to the marriage. The more heartfelt and unusual the registrar’s speech, the greater the impression it will make on the newlyweds and those around them, and therefore will leave a deeper imprint in the memory.
Newlyweds coming out
The appearance of those entering into marriage is often played out in this way:
- The groom's friends appear first. Depending on the scenario, they may line up along the path to the altar or in a semicircle around the registration area.
- Then the bridesmaids appear and stand opposite the groom's friends.
- Next, the host of the ceremony announces the groom’s entrance. He walks along the path and stands opposite the registrar.
- The culminating moment is the bride walking down the path arm in arm with her father, older brother or other significant man in her life. The newlywed takes a seat opposite the groom.
When everyone takes their seats, the ceremonial registration begins.
Announcement as husband and wife
The bride and groom stand opposite each other with their sides facing the guests and the person conducting the ceremony. The registrar says:
“Today we have gathered here to witness a significant event in the lives of ___ and ___. Before our eyes, a new union of two people is being born, who will move forward in life together, overcoming all adversity and rejoicing in success. By creating a family, a man and a woman undertake to take care of each other in sorrow and joy. Before officially consolidating your union, I must ask whether your desire to marry is mutual and voluntary. I ask the bride to give an answer. I ask the groom to give an answer. In accordance with the law, you are declared husband and wife.”
Next, the newlyweds can make mutual promises and put rings on each other. The final touch is a kiss from the newlyweds.
Speech by the host for registering a marriage at the registry office
It is she who connects hearts and destinies, thoughts and aspirations on the way to achieving the great art of married life - living for the happiness of a loved one. It is Love that can work miracles and make possible what sometimes seems incredible to us. And we suddenly realize that there are no coincidences.
Arches are often used as the backwall of a ceremony. They can be made from flowers, and then you can’t do without florists or minimal knowledge in this area.
Is there anyone here who knows the reason why Arthur and Elizabeth cannot enter into a legal marriage?
There are many romantic things in the work of a receptionist, but there are also incidents. One day, the newlyweds forgot their registration rings. They got out of the situation with humor. We made rings from threads. It was funny. In the registry office, it is unlikely that the registrar can allow jokes at work, because this is a government agency. There are certain norms and rules.
Options
Depending on the wishes of the newlyweds, you can arrange the outdoor ceremony in a romantic, solemn, touching or other style.
Solemn
This scenario assumes the most luxurious classical design, the use of a large amount of decor, heavy draperies, reminiscent of the interior of a registry office.
The text of the exit marriage registration matches the registration - just as pompous and ponderous:
“On this significant day, we observe how the magical music of love united the hearts of (name of the groom) and (name of the bride) in an eternal dance. From now on, you walk through life hand in hand, overcoming adversity together. You are each other's support. Therefore, in full accordance with the Family Law of Russia, I declare you husband and wife and give you the first document of your life together - a marriage certificate.”
Romantic
This style involves a more delicate color palette, a lot of fresh flowers in the decor and draperies made of light translucent fabrics. The romantic text of the off-site marriage registration involves mutual assurances of the bride and groom of eternal love. Each of the newlyweds expresses their admiration for the other and vows to serve as support in all the difficulties of life's journey.
Touching
The scenario for on-site marriage registration with a touching text is as follows:
“Today a wonderful event will happen - your wedding. In our busy world, it is so difficult to meet someone who will appreciate every moment spent together, pay tribute to the merits and not notice the shortcomings. Starting a family is an important and respectable decision in your life. Then you will follow the same path, serving each other as support and support.”
You can come up with the text yourself or order it from qualified authors.
With humor
The scenario of on-site marriage registration with a humorous text is the most difficult. It is very important here not to slip into vulgarity. The text of the exit marriage registration with humor can present the newlyweds in a comic light. For example, the host can draw attention to the fact that the bride is “Miss charming dimples”, and the groom is the owner of the title “The most courageous eyebrows in the house”.
European style
A popular “Western” wedding ceremony design involves a male registrar dressed as a Catholic priest. The wedding venue is decorated with a traditional arch and a draped table with a cushion for rings. A large number of fresh flowers are used in the decor.
The script for the on-site marriage registration and the text in the European style are as touching and romantic as possible, with vows of love and assurances of eternal fidelity and support.
Official words of the registrar
Contrary to ideas, the solemn speech in different registry offices is compiled individually, so when compared, a significant difference is revealed. The words that the registrar pronounces within the walls of a government institution and at an off-site ceremony are also different.
Classic text
In most cases, among couples who decide to legalize their union, it is customary to get married in the registry office building. This choice is justified and convenient, since such registration has many advantages:
- Equipped room. There will be no additional expenses for the wedding ceremony.
- The presence of the registrar is not paid. Only an authorized employee has the right to sign, for whose travel outside the registry office you will have to pay.
- Organization of leisure time for guests. If a couple decides to get married outside a government institution, the number of guests who arrive at the wrong time increases. Organizers will have to plan the leisure time of those who arrived earlier and persuade guests to wait for those who are late.
The registry office employee at the classical ceremony will speak the memorized text. Usually the touching moments are well thought out and the reactions are predictable.
Example speech:
Good afternoon, dear guests! Today is a crucial moment for the newlyweds, because each of them has decided to take responsibility for their chosen one. Therefore, I want everyone to confirm this intention with consent. I ask the bride to answer (answers). I ask the groom to answer (answers). Since marriage registration is recorded in an official document, I ask the newlyweds to put their signatures on it to confirm the decision. Now each of you has become part of the whole. And to remember this moment, you can kiss each other. Now your ship called family is setting off on a long voyage. All those invited hope that it will be long. So let each of them personally congratulate the couple on their new status.
Speech for exit registration
The opportunity to invite an employee to a wedding at a certain time has appeared recently. This service allows couples to officially register their relationship without traveling to an inconvenient location, but you will have to pay for it. With detailed preparation, such innovations are convenient, and you can insert an oath or an appeal to your parents into your speech.
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The speech of the registry office employee in this case represents a joint project with the newlyweds. Example:
On this wonderful day, guests gathered here to attend an important event - marriage registration. Since this is an official event, I ask each of the spouses to express their consent out loud. Does the bride agree to this step? Does the groom agree? Now I ask you to say vows of fidelity to each other (the couple says the prepared text). To finish the official part, I ask everyone to sign your first general document (sign). Now I want to hand it over to the head of the family, because it was he who just became a support, a shoulder for support in difficult times.
I ask the bride to show her beloved that for him she has become a faithful and loving wife, firmly taking him by the hand. Now your lives, running in parallel, have united for a long time into one line that will last for many years. Let them be carefree and happy. And to remember this moment, let each of the invitees say warm words and parting words that will help you hear each other.
An unusual oath for on-site marriage registration
In an unusual oath, you can use humorous assurances. Thus, the bride promises her husband to always be cheerful and beautiful, not jealous, affectionate, to warm him up in the morning with more than just a mug of tea, not to throw an “old saucepan,” and to let him go to meet friends with a smile.
In turn, the groom promises to meet the dawn with his wife, get up before the first rooster to serve coffee in bed, bring a double catch from fishing, dress his wife in furs and diamonds.
The text can be more serious, taking into account the hobbies and work nuances of each of the newlyweds. For example, the bride may promise not to reprimand her husband for staying late at work or to let him go to a club with friends once a month. The groom can assure that he will always be in touch if he is delayed, or will not interfere with his beloved’s shopping with her friends.
To leave a holistic, pleasant impression of the ceremony, the script must be thought out from the first to the last minute, down to the smallest detail. Surprises always occur, but this way the risk that they will be unpleasant will be much less.
Bridal vows
Oaths when registering within the walls of a government institution are formal. The employee reads out the same list of mutual responsibilities of the spouses, then they give consent. However, European culture allows you to diversify the process. The bride and groom can write their own vows. It will be pleasant to listen to such confessions, because they sound sincere.
Example of a groom's vow:
I swear to my wife to love her, to talk about feelings more often. Hear what she wants and remain silent when necessary. Support, help, earn money and always be there, despite the circumstances and problems.
Bride's vow:
I vow to become the best woman for you - to love, support, do everything to make you feel good. I swear that I will do everything necessary to make you understand that no obstacles will separate us.
