Wedding signs and beliefs about the best man and the witness

There are many superstitions associated with weddings. Some of the beliefs apply not only to young people, but also to witnesses.

In another way, the girl is also called the bride's friend. In ancient times, only those who were already married were brought in as witnesses. Today, on the contrary, this superstition is considered unlucky. Young people try to choose single girlfriends and friends as best men.

Modern signs of who should not be taken as a witness:

• a close relative - sister, mother;
• a woman who is already married;
• girlfriend if she was divorced or left a widow.

If a married lady becomes a witness, then according to a wedding sign she will soon find herself alone. A couple who calls divorced people as witnesses attracts trouble.

According to popular belief, a bridesmaid should:

• organize a bachelorette party;
• help a friend choose a dress.
• make sure that the groom does not see his beloved in a wedding dress before the ransom;
• help the bride with wedding preparations;
• shout “Sweet” when all the other guests are chanting “Bitter”;
• make sure that no one crosses the road for young people;
• make sure that the towel and glasses are taken from the registry office; hold the hem of the wedding dress so that it does not get dirty or tear.

A bridesmaid's responsibilities include choosing the appropriate wedding dress for herself. After all, the witness is a reflection of the happiness and joy of her best friend, and there are several signs on how she should dress:

• refuse too vulgar outfits;
• do not wear separate suits to the celebration;
• avoid dresses in white or milky tones, because they will blend in with the bride’s dress.

How to choose a witness for a wedding

To make the right choice in the direction of an interested girl, you need to carefully study the qualities of a potential bridesmaid. Ideal set: punctual, responsible and patient girl. The upcoming holiday should be no less important for her than for the bride herself.

Most often the choice falls on a close friend. But a trusting relationship between two women is not always the decisive factor for choosing a witness for a wedding.

A wedding is a holiday for a couple in love. Everything must be perfect. Concerns and organizational issues fall on the shoulders of the assistants. It is necessary to monitor the mood and beauty of the bride, correct shortcomings, and provide psychological support, because the bride is always nervous.

Therefore, if your close circle does not meet the selection criteria, you can and should turn to good friends. The solution can be explained correctly.

In addition to organizing the holiday and worries associated with the responsible approach of a potential witness, the bride is concerned about the issue of signs associated with the wedding.

Can the witness be married?

The modern choice is driven by practical considerations. Previously, it was believed that the assistant should be a young and unmarried girl. There is a sign that promises an unhappy marriage if the accompanying person is married. Today you don’t have to pay much attention to this sign. Cases where the assistant is married and far from young are common. The main thing is that she is a responsible and sensitive woman who wants the celebration to take place at the highest level no less than the bride wants it.

Can my sister be a witness?

When among your friends there is no worthy candidate for an important post, the choice may fall on your own sister. And in this case, the signs do not advise taking her as an accompanying person. This is a bad sign. They used to believe that the sister might be jealous of the bride’s happiness and take it away. Envy may be white, but it will work in the opposite direction. Therefore, it is better to leave the sisters as guests of honor at the wedding, and look for an important assistant among friends and acquaintances.

How many times can you be a witness?

There is no limit to the number of times a woman will take on such a responsible role. On the contrary, if a girl has more than once become a key figure in a bright day, it means that she knows how to organize the process and will probably not let you down.

What rituals will bring happiness to the witness?

A bridesmaid during a wedding can bring her own marriage closer or improve relationships with her other half. Bridesmaid rituals:

• during the feast, sit on a corner so that the future spouse “is with the corner”;
• in the dining room, discreetly pull the tablecloth towards you to bring the meeting with your betrothed closer or speed up the development of the relationship;
• sit on the bride’s chair for a short time (they do this unnoticed);
• take a piece of wedding cake from the bride’s hands;
• try to catch the wedding bouquet;
• quietly take some cutlery (spoon or fork) from the table and store it at home;
• make an accessory for your friend: a brooch or hairpin that she will wear during the ceremony.

If folk signs do not help you find personal happiness, then it is better to turn to healers and magicians. Perhaps the young girl has a curse or a “crown of celibacy” on her that needs to be removed.

Responsibilities of a witness

A huge list of to-dos falls on the girl’s shoulders. It all starts long before preparations for the wedding, and ends much later than the end of the celebration. In fact, for a woman this day is not a holiday when you can relax and get distracted. On the contrary, complete and every second combat training is needed.

What should a witness do before the wedding?

Before an important event, the assistant assists in choosing a dress and the image as a whole. This is not just everyday advice, but full participation.

Another important point is organizing a bachelorette party. Despite the fact that the assistant does everything:

1. Choosing a location for a bachelorette party.
2. Organization of competitions and gifts.
3. Menu development.
4. Choosing outfits for girlfriends.

It is also necessary to choose a wedding theme, toastmaster and develop a detailed script. All these troubles begin long before the appointed date of the celebration. The girl becomes a real right hand.

Duties of a witness at a wedding

On the wedding day, the assistant provides all possible assistance in decorating the hall and cars. The first person the bride sees early in the morning should be her friend. All the hassle of dressing the bride and providing moral support falls on the shoulders of the witness.

She must be inseparable from the bride throughout the wedding. It is necessary to help accept gifts, correct the young woman’s makeup, and accompany her to the ladies’ room. The witness is even required to ensure that the plate is full of food and the glass is full of drinks.

Boyar and friend - as it was in the old days

It’s amazing how humanity is able to transform beliefs invented in ancient times, adapting them to the modern way of life and principles of society. Using the example of the distribution of roles at a wedding, you can verify this fact for yourself.

Once upon a time in Rus', only men played the role of assistants to a married couple:

• senior boyar, also known as the thousand's manager or best man;
• best man, also known as groomsman;
• younger friend, he is also a “tertiary”.

The best man was always a married man with a good income, endowed with the ability to start a society and smooth out conflicts. His task was to oversee the entire wedding process, monitor compliance with traditions and customs, and enliven the guests with jokes and jokes. In fact, the thousand's manager was the main manager of the wedding.

The groomsmen at the wedding were chosen from young, free guys of two or more people. They were supposed to help the newlyweds get dressed, accompany the couple to and from the temple, give gifts to guests, take the young wife to the husband’s house...

Tretyak helped the senior boyar; according to custom, he became a boy of seven or eight years old. He also had the honorable duty of carrying the holy image before the bride as she entered the church.

In our time, the concepts of “boyar” and “best man” have become identical, and the role of groomsman began to belong to the girlfriend on the fiancée’s side.

Although a new fashion trend is noticeable - copying Western weddings - there are three bridesmaids on the girl's side, dressed in identical dresses, and the groom is assisted by a male best man (a close friend, cousin, brother or father). While this arrangement of wedding participants is rare, modern Slavic newlyweds still try to adhere to national traditions. However, who knows what priorities young lovers will give preference to in a hundred years?

Signs for a witness at a wedding

According to the sign, the witness should not be dressed in white or black. It is best if the color of the dress is pink, blue or gold.

When the witness helps the bride during the morning preparations, you cannot look in the mirror with the bride. Otherwise, the witness may steal the groom.

Before going to the registration hall and already leaving the house, the witness must pin a safety pin to the bride's dress to protect against the evil eye. The sign says that on the wedding day, a whole stream of energy and wishes falls on the bride. The aura may not withstand such an onslaught, but the pin will protect.

A witness at a wedding cannot walk in front of the bride, only behind or to the side. Also, the bridesmaid should carefully ensure that the bride does not touch the empty ring box. According to the sign, this promises an empty and poor life for the newlyweds.

Another sign is unfamiliar, but it was followed before. When all the guests shout “Bitter” to the young people, the witness should shout “Sweet!” It used to be believed that the witness was closest to the bride, and her wishes would be the first to come true.

Clothing style and behavior

The witness should also look appropriate at the wedding ceremony so that the newlyweds do not feel ashamed of him. The best man's appearance should be consistent with the chosen style of the wedding celebration, but still, the outfit is chosen according to his own taste.

• This could well be a black classic suit with a snow-white shirt and the right tie.
• A white suit will look festive, and a bow tie can be a very original accessory.
• Considering the fact that the best man at the wedding banquet will have to participate in many competitions and various types of entertainment, it is best to choose a dark-colored suit, and choose shoes to match the color of the suit itself.
• The outfit should be elegant and make a good impression, because the best man is the second person at the banquet after the groom. And the presence of a stylishly dressed witness nearby will oblige him to look great all the more.

The witness must behave decently - remain sober until the end of the celebration, because his help may be needed at any moment. The witness should also know that his behavior can directly affect the atmosphere of the entire holiday.

Witness at a wedding - signs to choose

Grooms are less excited about the wedding, but this does not mean that you can be careless in choosing a witness. The groom's witness is an equally important assistant.

The groom needs to remember that the witness must have a sparkling sense of humor and excellent speaking skills. After all, the bride price and other rituals will fall on the shoulders of the witness. In addition, the groom will also need help in organizing the celebration, and who else but the witness at the wedding will be the best adviser.

Is it possible for married people to be witnesses?

According to the sign, witnesses at a wedding should be unmarried and unfamiliar people. They can be in love with each other, but they should not be married. The sign came from ancient times and it was from there that the belief arose that witnesses at a wedding often become the next candidates for the newlyweds.

Wedding preparation

On the eve of the wedding, the witnesses organize a farewell party for the bride and groom. The groomsman's task is to gather friends for the bachelor party, and the groomsmen's task is to invite girlfriends for the bachelorette party. The holiday should be organized as fun and noisy, but, of course, within reason, so that you won’t be ashamed to remember.

Morning before the wedding

On the wedding day, witnesses must be on the threshold of the newlyweds' house in the morning. The bridesmaid gathers the bride, helps her get dressed, prepares towels for the ceremony, collects everything she needs for a walk in front of the restaurant, and helps prepare the bride for the photo shoot.

The witness is the main character, an assistant in the ransom of his friend's future wife. He must be prepared for surprises and surprises prepared by the bridesmaids. The main task of the honorary witness is to “sell” the bride at a higher price.

Actions at ransom

The bridesmaid carefully thinks through and prepares the ransom of her best friend, monitors the actions of the groom’s friends, and organizes the girls to help. The witness should not be confused in the presence of beautiful girls; he actively helps to win the bride away from her girlfriends, dances, answers questions, sings, gives a ransom, pours and distributes sweet gifts.

After the meeting of the bride and groom, the invitees are seated in cars and in a friendly cortege are sent to the registry office. Witnesses do not forget to make sure that the cars are decorated with balloons and ribbons.

Registration and wedding

You must arrive at the wedding building 15-20 minutes before registration starts. Witnesses give the newlyweds' passports to the registry office registrar, invite guests to the hall, and choose a melody that will accompany the ceremony. All actions are coordinated with the bride and groom.

When the ceremony begins, the witness takes the groom's side, and the witness takes a place next to the bride. He is given the right to hold the wedding rings of the newlyweds. Not so long ago, the marriage registration procedure was confirmed by witnesses with their signatures. Today, this measure is not necessary, but if the registrar asks to complete this formality, you should not object.

At the end of registration, the guests congratulate the newlyweds; the witnesses are the first to express their congratulations. The witness opens champagne and pours it for the bride and groom, the witness accepts flowers from the guests.

Many young couples want to seal their union with a wedding. You can get married in a church on your wedding day or at any other time. The duty of witnesses in the temple is to support the crown over the heads of the bride and groom. They must be believers and baptized. Now this ritual has already lost its relevance.

Responsibilities of a witness

The witness, just like the witness, begins preparing for the wedding long before the appointed date. He is the right hand, personal psychotherapist and manager all rolled into one.

On the wedding day, the groom's friend should help him get ready and make the last important calls to organize the celebration. It is the witness who goes to the restaurant on the eve of the wedding and checks the readiness of the hall and makes the final adjustments.

The tradition of taking assistants to a wedding is associated not only with signs, but also with a colossal workload, most of which is taken on by the witnesses at the wedding.

Who are the groom's friends?

The groom's friends are the closest comrades and male relatives one has. These are the people who, at a wedding, during preparation for it, bear the “burdens” of organizing and holding the celebration. In other words, these are the people who make the event lively, fun, coherent, and organized. The new practice of inviting not one, but several best men to a wedding came to us from Europe (UK) and quickly took root, helping to solve two big problems:

1. Ease the burden of the spouse and witness. With the advent of several friends, the volume of wedding troubles began to be divided equally among all the groomsmen, and therefore the load on one person decreased noticeably. This also applies to the division of material costs.
2. Don't offend the groom's friends. Under previous traditions, he had to single out the “best” friend from the rest, appointing him as a friend. Now close friends can become them.

The new tradition has made weddings more fun, carefree, and brighter. The groom at a wedding, where all his friends are groomsmen, feels more comfortable and confident. Therefore, such assistants should be truly congenial people, but even with a large scale event there should not be too many of them, ideally no more than ten.

Mutual functions of witnesses

The best man and witness at a wedding take on an important mission; there are a lot of subtleties that need to be thought through and resolved. And these are not just words of support, but actual help. They monitor the appearance of the bride and groom. They organize a bachelorette party and a bachelor party if they are included in the plans of the newlyweds. They decorate wedding processions and maintain a positive mood throughout the holiday. That is why witnesses at a wedding should have a light disposition, oratory skills and not be shy. The more activity, the better.

Why are there assistants at the celebration?

The custom of taking assistants has been known since the times of Ancient Greece and Rome. Have you noticed that they are dressed almost identically to the newlyweds? Just as solemnly beautiful. And there's a reason for that. If you believe in omens, a witness at a wedding, like a witness, is needed to confuse the evil spirits and prevent it from harming the new married couple.

According to English wedding rules, for these reasons, the newlyweds and witnesses still dress in the same outfit. But the practice of having several groomsmen was born in Rome as an attempt to prevent bride theft. This requirement for the ritual is even enshrined in the fundamental principles of Roman law (462 BC, Laws of the XII Tables).

In Ancient Greece, the best man and groomsman were dressed the same as the newlyweds, so that in the event of illness of the bride or groom, one of them could be replaced by witnesses. This backup option also worked if one of the spouses suddenly changed their decision to tie themselves with the knot of Hymen. In order for the family line to continue, the holiday must take place in any case, so witnesses were then selected who were physically healthy and attractive to both newlyweds.

In Rus', the groom accompanied the bride to the marriage bed. And her girlfriends sang ritual songs, dressed her up, and accompanied her throughout the holiday. In Rus', the boyar (friend) performed many functions that have remained with him to this day. This includes direct participation during matchmaking, conducting the bride's ransom, and responsibility for entertainment and wedding treats at the wedding. Helpers, as a rule, were close or trusted people.

Interesting!

Witnesses at a wedding - signs for the happiness of the newlyweds

Since ancient times, wedding assistants have been considered the guardians of the young. According to the sign, evil spirits will be nearby on the day of the celebration. And the task of the witnesses is to confuse and deceive her. Outwardly, the main assistants also look like a couple in love: they are festively dressed, cheerful and maybe even in love. The dark force will become entangled and will not be able to harm the newlyweds.

Not everyone believes in evil spirits today, but there is some truth in superstitions. A huge number of people gather at the wedding. Each of them directs their own flow of energy, even if it is positive. This is a big blow to the energy of the young couple, which is not easy to withstand.

Witnesses perform certain rituals and actions for the future happiness of the newlyweds. For example, the witness always keeps a white thread ready. It will be needed if the bride accidentally drops her engagement ring.

A friend places an open lock at the threshold of the newlyweds' house, and after the now husband carries his beloved into the house in his arms, he closes the lock with a key and throws it away. Thus, the happiness of lovers is under reliable protection.

In addition to the pin, the witness can hem the hem of the bride's dress with red thread for good luck. One inconspicuous stitch is enough.

Groomsmen Clothes

The groom and his companions perform at the celebration as a single team, so the outfits must have a single character, stylistic solution, or have common details. The clothes of the groom and groomsmen may be the same or slightly distinguish the groom from the crowd. The more original the husband’s team of friends looks, the more fun and beautiful the wedding will seem. The image of a male company should not go beyond the general concept of the wedding. Therefore, the outfit of the groom and friends is also a kind of attribute of creating the right atmosphere at the holiday.

Here are several options for creating a single original image for your husband’s team:

• Butterflies. Multi-colored or one color, for the young man and friends. The groom's bowtie can stand out in size or tone.
• All team representatives wear multi-colored socks.
• Suspender.
• Bowler hats or hats.
• Glasses.
• Boutonnieres, pocket squares.
• Checkered jackets or pants.
• Multi-colored ties of the same style with identical boutonnieres.
• Jackets of the same color, tone or material.
• No jackets.
• Vests.
• Costumes of the same style, theme, reproduction of the same era.

When choosing suits for friends and your future husband, you should consider the following points:

Comfort. The character of the costumes should be close to the groom and friends; the outfits should emphasize the state of mind. In addition, suits and shoes should be comfortable and convenient. Bright hues

If there is no thematic need, when choosing the color of the costumes, pay attention to light colors or blue, or try to dilute the image with bright shades so that the event does not look gloomy. Brightness and originality. Bright details and stylistic solutions will help make the wedding fun and memorable.

• Harmony. The costumes of friends should not only be included in the overall concept of the wedding, but also be combined with the outfits of the friends. Then there will be no aesthetic dissonance at the event or photographs.
• Children. If the groom or friends have a child or younger male brother, invite him to join the groom's team. This will not only allow the boy to feel responsible and grown-up, but will also add touchingness, reliability, and comfort to the team atmosphere.

Groom's friends in bow tie photo

A simple and always winning way to highlight the groom and team is butterflies. Here are some examples of how these accessories enliven the look of friends and the atmosphere of the wedding, see the photo below.

General information about friends

How the wedding celebration goes depends largely on the witnesses. They take on the main responsibilities for preparing pre-holiday events (bachelor and bachelorette parties), agree on transport, the location of the feast, keep order during the banquet, make toasts, congratulations, and help in organizing competitions. It's not as easy as it might seem. In fact, for witnesses, a wedding is a kind of job that they must do perfectly.

A little history

The tradition of inviting assistants to a wedding celebration dates back to ancient civilizations. This role was considered honorable (and remains so to this day) for every person. Initially, the witness was selected from only one side. It was the future husband who invited his friend to help in preparations for the celebration, the feast, and conducting the proper rituals. During Tsarist Russia there were two witnesses. Their task was to confirm the legality of the marriage with their signatures in a special book. They were the ones who held the crowns over the heads of the newlyweds. In addition, contrary to popular belief, the witnesses had to be married.

In 2000, the law on the mandatory presence of groomsmen was abolished in the Russian Federation, but it is simply impossible to imagine a wedding without a best man and bridesmaid. This tradition is followed by most young people to this day.

Features of choice

The second most important couple at a wedding are the witnesses. The level and quality of preparation for the long-awaited holiday depends on them, so it is extremely important for future spouses not to make a mistake in their choice. The main criteria are:

• having a sense of humor;
• sociability;
• cheerfulness;
• optimism;
• responsibility;
• high organization.

In order to comply with all traditions and not bring misfortune to their marriage, young people should also take into account some popular beliefs. The friend must be single, and the friend must not be getting married in the near future. You cannot take as witnesses:

1. Divorced - newlyweds will repeat their fate.
2. Widowed people will bring trouble to the family.
3. Married or married - unfortunately. In addition, some competitions may be unpleasant for your significant other.
4. Envious people and gossipers. The best man and bridesmaid should be sincerely happy for the newlyweds.
5. Shy or irresponsible people. If the former can simply spoil the atmosphere of the holiday a little, then the latter are quite capable of disrupting the celebration itself.

The age of the friends does not play any role. If the couple trusts them, then the witnesses can even be minors. The main thing is that the groomsman and best man are sincerely happy for the newlyweds and wish them only happiness. A best friend or girlfriend, sister or brother can be a witness at a wedding.

Preparation Responsibilities

The main assistants of the future husband and wife in preparation for the wedding celebration should not only provide moral support to the young couple, but also help in resolving all organizational issues. Each of them has their own responsibilities.

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• preparation and holding of a bachelor party;
• decoration of a wedding procession, banquet hall in a cafe or restaurant;
• assistance in compiling a list of invitees and sending out letters.

Buddy Responsibilities:

• assistance in choosing and purchasing a wedding dress;
• organizing an appointment with a makeup artist or hairdresser;
• organizing and holding a bachelorette party;
• collecting a “travel bag” with spare tights, cosmetics, threads and everything that can help out in a difficult moment.

In addition, if the bride is pregnant, then the help of a friend will be doubly valuable. Despite the joyful event, it will be difficult for a pregnant girl to prepare everything herself.

Are witnesses needed at a modern celebration?

If previously the witness and bridesmaid had to be present at the wedding, now this is a tribute to tradition. The current rules for marriage registration at the registry office allow the ceremony to be held without their presence.

But still, having a best man and groomsmen at a wedding will not be superfluous, because this is not only the observance of ancient traditions, but also a significant help to the newlyweds. On such an exciting day, a couple in love wants to enjoy their happiness, and not solve pressing problems. Witnesses will help with this.