Many couples wish to register a family union in a non-official setting. Various reasons may influence this decision. The most common is the desire to save the family budget.
However, the method of registering a marriage does not at all affect the family relationships of the spouses, so there is no need to worry about the lack of a formal atmosphere and guests.
In the article we will look at the features of the procedure for concluding a marriage without a celebration, its advantages and disadvantages, what clothes to choose for the bride and groom, what days are celebrated in a non-celebratory atmosphere, how to celebrate a wedding, answers to common questions.
Peculiarities
Non-ceremonial registration is much faster than traditional registration - it rarely lasts more than 15 minutes, but regular registration will take at least half an hour. The queue for the simplified procedure is shorter, and this is often very important when choosing a specific date.
Simple registration requires practically nothing - no luxurious dress, no hairstyle, no bouquet or rings, or other mandatory wedding attributes. You can only come to it together. Moreover, in some registry offices, guests, even the closest relatives and parents, will not be allowed into the office where the painting is taking place.
You will quickly receive the necessary documents with stamps and will be able to celebrate the way you want - at an outdoor ceremony, banquet or honeymoon. At the non-ceremonial ceremony, no speeches will be read to you, except for a very brief congratulation , there will be no poetry or music, and it will not take place in a decorated large hall, but in an ordinary office.
Do you need witnesses for a non-ceremonial painting? No, their presence is not necessary, because they are not required to sign in the book, but no one can forbid you to bring your two best friends to the registry office.
Important! The simplified procedure is carried out only in regional registry offices. Due to their specific nature, Wedding Palaces do not provide such a service. Only lavish ceremonial events are held there.
How it differs from a formal one: pros and cons
Among the objective advantages of the simplified ceremony are:
- budget , you will have to spend money exclusively on state fees;
- efficiency - just 15 minutes, and you are already married;
- the ability to reschedule the celebration itself to any day and arrange an off-site registration in a beautiful place in nature, a banquet in a cozy restaurant, or go on a trip;
- lack of regulations on appearance or the presence of accessories (you can even do without rings);
- no difficulties with accommodating guests if you are not getting married in your hometown;
- informality , if for some reason you do not like the traditional wedding fuss.
However, it cannot be said that a non-ceremonial ceremony is without its disadvantages:
- many newlyweds lack the touchingness of the moment; the procedure seems too formal, crumpled, and uninteresting;
- elderly conservative relatives will definitely not approve of this option;
- and other acquaintances may begin to whisper about the reasons for the lack of a magnificent celebration;
- lovely traditions, gifts, congratulations - all this will also be cut down, but only if you do not plan to organize a celebration for friends and relatives later.
If you want the painting procedure to be seen by all your loved ones, the event will be surrounded by festive surroundings, music, the registry office employees will say prepared congratulations, and the bride and groom will look like in the picture, then it is better to choose a solemn option.
If you prefer warm words from loved ones rather than from strangers, do not want formalities, do not perceive the registry office as a place where you can sincerely have fun, or are simply going to save money and time, then your option is a simplified procedure.
Accommodation without temporary registration
If a person lives in another region for more than 90 days and has not completed temporary registration, he may be fined. But this does not apply to those who are staying in an apartment that belongs to his close relative, and the owner himself is registered in it. If you cohabitate, a fine of the Code of Administrative Offenses of the Russian Federation, Article 19.15.1 “Residence of a citizen of the Russian Federation at the place of stay or at the place of residence in a residential building without registration” cannot be avoided.
What are the disadvantages
None.
How is it going at the registry office?
Unlike a formal ceremony, such registration takes place not in a decorated hall, but in an ordinary office, and is more reminiscent of concluding a business agreement:
- The couple arrives at the appointed time and gives their passports to the employee;
- He checks the relevance of the data and prints out a form with a registration act - a special document with a unique number that will be stored in the registry office;
- Then, in some units, a short congratulatory speech is given;
- The bride and groom are asked a question about consent. If the answers are positive, a stamp is placed in both passports, as well as on the registration form. Brides who change their last name receive another note on the first page of their passport - stating that the document must be replaced within a month;
- Next, you need to put signatures: the head of the registry office - on the form, and the newlyweds - in the registration book;
- Newlyweds receive a completed marriage certificate and their passports.
Registration ends here, and the rest of the celebration is no longer regulated, but it is held behind the walls of the registry office.
Advice! If you plan to meet with relatives and friends after the painting, remember that by law, drinking alcoholic beverages near government institutions is prohibited, and the traditional glass of champagne, unfortunately, is no exception. So it’s better to wait for seating in cars, or even better, for a banquet in a restaurant.
Documentation
For the painting itself, you will only need your passports. Just in case, you can bring a copy of the receipt for payment of the state fee, but since you already submitted it when submitting the application, it is unlikely to be needed.
Days
The ceremony is scheduled for a free date, one month after submitting the application. If necessary, the period can be increased to two months.
Usually these days are from Thursday to Sunday - the least busy days in the registry offices. If necessary or if you choose a date a couple of months in advance, you can agree on another day.
Price
The painting procedure itself is free, but you are required to pay a state fee of 350 rubles. Moreover, you pay it once, for a couple, and not each separately.
The fee is paid in advance at a Sberbank branch or online using a card. The receipt is included in the package of documents that must be submitted along with the application. It is not necessary to bring it to the painting itself.
Buffet
The buffet awaits guests outside the marriage registration hall: in a room specially designated for this purpose or outdoors. You can skip this part of the celebration if immediately after the registry office everyone goes to the banquet hall of the selected restaurant. If there is a long period of time between painting and dinner, guests should be pampered with modest snacks.
Advice! For an outdoor buffet, don't forget to take trash bags. Even on a holiday, you cannot remember the cleanliness of your hometown.
You can entrust the preparation of the buffet to a catering company, but it is cheaper to arrange a small snack yourself. For the buffet you will need symbolic treats: sandwiches, sweets, fruit and champagne. Don't forget that there are often small children among the guests. You should prepare juice or baby champagne for them.
You can place the snack on the hood of the car or on the parapet. There is no need to bring expensive dishes. Disposable cups and plates are fine.
After the buffet reception, the newlyweds go on a festive walk around the city.
Is there a difference in filing an application?
Legally, a non-solemn ceremony is no different from a solemn one. You also submit an application and a package of necessary documents. The application form is issued at the registry office or can be found and printed from the Internet.
The form must be filled out legibly and neatly with a blue or black pen. Errors in the data will lead to documents being invalidated and will force you to go through the entire procedure again, which means a loss of time.
In addition to the application, the package of documents includes:
- passports or other identification documents (military ID, diplomatic passport, driver's license);
- for those who remarry - a document on the dissolution of the previous marriage;
- a receipt for payment of a fee in the amount of 350 rubles (one per couple of newlyweds);
- if one of the future spouses is under 18 years old, then a document certifying the possibility of this marriage (permission of parents or guardians);
- If you are getting married to a foreigner, you will need a visa confirming the legality of your stay on the territory of the Russian Federation, as well as a notarized translation of documents confirming that there are no reasons preventing your wedding.
Interesting! Only one of the young people can submit a personal application, bringing both packages of documents along with a notarized permission from the second. But registration itself requires the presence of both spouses.
Through State Services
You can submit your application in person at the branch of your choice or online on the State Services website. To do this, you need to register on it, select the tab about registering relationships, and then follow the instructions:
- choose a suitable registry office;
- date, time;
- enter personal data;
- pay the state fee.
Submitting an application online allows you to sign up six months in advance, but does not allow you to indicate that you are choosing a non-celebratory ceremony. Therefore, closer to the point, you still need to visit the registry office and warn employees about the simplified ceremony.
Public services are provided online 24 hours a day, so submitting an application to the Civil Registry Office via the Internet will not cause any problems. The video explains in detail how to do this:
Emergency painting
There are circumstances that can speed up the processing of your application. If there are documents confirming these circumstances, you are required to sign up within 1 to 5 days after their submission.
You are eligible for expedited registration if:
- the bride is pregnant (valid if the pregnancy is more than 10 weeks, and with a certificate from a gynecologist);
- there is a danger to the life of one of the future spouses (serious illness or, for example, a contract in a hot spot);
- one of the newlyweds will have to go on a long business trip (diplomat, military man, astronaut);
- the couple has just had a child (in this case, registering the marriage makes it easier to register paternity).
What to wear?
There are no wishes regarding the appearance of the participants in the non-ceremonial registration. You can even come in jeans and T-shirts - some newlyweds choose just this option, appearing at the registry office in T-shirts with humorous inscriptions, for example, “my husband” or “my wife.” Casual clothes look no less creative, but with a flirty veil, or identical white shirts with jeans.
If you are going to be photographed after marriage, then the appearance should still be thought out more carefully. The bride can wear a cocktail dress, and any length and color are acceptable. You can get a more unconventional look if you choose a skirt and blouse or even a pantsuit. And, of course, good old casual would be a great option.
Hairstyle, accessories, makeup can be absolutely anything, depending on your taste. If you are planning to go to an outdoor or other celebration after registration, then nothing prevents you from coming in full dress; if not, you can get by with a regular bun or ponytail.
The groom can also wear either a formal suit or something more informal. An ensemble of trousers and a shirt will look great, perhaps with additional accessories - a tie, vest, suspenders. The combination of a jacket and jeans is very stylish, but at the same time looks free.
Which side of the groom is the bride on?
During the wedding ceremony in the registry office, the bride should stand to the left of the groom . According to legend, a woman should always be on the left of a man, so that with his right hand he can always protect his beloved from danger.
Until recently, registry office employees insisted that the groom stand on the left and the bride on the right. Only in the case where the groom was a military man was the reverse situation allowed. Because the newlywed had to salute with his right hand.
Photo of non-celebratory marriage registration
Attributes
There are no rules regarding traditional wedding attributes either. You can exchange rings, however, most likely, you will not have enough time to do this directly in the office. Nothing, however, prevents you from performing this ritual later, already leaving the office or even at an evening dinner.
It is better to check with the employees of a particular department in advance about the possibility of photo and video shooting. Usually this is not prohibited, but it is better to make sure, since in some registry offices no one except the newlyweds are allowed into the non-ceremonial ceremony.
If it was possible to agree on filming, then this important responsibility is usually assigned to the witness.
Advice! Remember that there will be very little time for photos and videos, so it is better if the chosen person is fluent in using a camera and can do everything quickly but beautifully.
Photo
The moment of the birth of a new family is one of the main events in the life of loving hearts. And it is not so important how the marriage is registered; only those feelings that the newly-made spouses experience at this solemn moment are significant. Photos will help you preserve wonderful moments:
Right to inheritance
The spouse is the heir of the first priority by default. A cohabitant without a will cannot receive anything.
Let's say a couple bought an apartment in half. If something happens to one of the partners, his share will be divided between his parents and children. And in their absence, brothers, sisters, grandparents will get involved. In general, everything except the roommate.
What are the disadvantages
In the event of death, everything that belonged to the person during his lifetime will be divided among the heirs. And as a result, the process may not go the way the deceased originally wanted.
Let's say the wife received an apartment as a gift from her grandmother. She would like to later give this property to her child from her first marriage. If she dies without leaving a will, and the heirs cannot reach an agreement, then the housing can easily be divided equally between the husband and all the children.
How to resolve the issue without registering a marriage
A will should be written by a person of any age if he has any property. The document can also be challenged. But this is not as easy to do as is commonly believed. In addition, this is an official expression of will, which, at least, will not leave the possibility of speculating on the writings of what a person “really” would like.
You can also bequeath property to anyone, regardless of family ties, including your cohabitant.
