An important and responsible step in the life of any couple in love is the decision about the upcoming marriage. The moment when a woman and a man decide to get married is usually called engagement. This is considered a modern European trend. In Russia, in ancient times, everything was somewhat different.
Before the official ceremony, it was customary to arrange matchmaking, a special custom. The young groom went with his in-laws to the house of the girl he had chosen.
After the girl’s family and the bride herself responded positively, that is, with consent, it was customary to accept congratulations on the matchmaking from each other.
Congratulations on matchmaking
We hasten to congratulate our newlyweds on their matchmaking! We wish you an endlessly happy future, unquenchable love, unexpected and pleasant surprises and bright impressions from life together! I wish you happiness, mutual understanding and a joyful wedding!
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Congratulations to the future newlyweds on successfully completing their first step towards living together! We are glad that a positive response has been received, and we hasten to wish great happiness for two loving and ardent hearts. May your lives merge together, may you be inspired for future joint achievements! We wish you harmony and beauty!
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Our dear young people, please accept congratulations on your matchmaking! We wish that this important step will make your life happy and rich, prosperous and joyful, magical and unique. Love and appreciate each other always, good luck!
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My heartfelt congratulations to the parents of our future newlyweds! A great and responsible task has been done; only great happiness and good luck await them ahead. I wish you a calm and fruitful preparation for your wedding, deep and comprehensive love, and energy to overcome all possible adversities. May mutual understanding, kindness and tenderness be with you.
Such congratulations are addressed to both young people and their parents. They may be shorter than toasts, but this does not affect the overall atmosphere of the matchmaking.
Congratulations to the newlyweds on their engagement
The main characters at an engagement party are always young people. They are truly happy for the moments happening in their lives. The couple decided to take a serious and responsible step that would change their entire future fate. All that remains is to rejoice and sincerely admire the young spouses.
- Every person knows that matchmaking is a responsible act. This is what our groom decided on on his own. He was miraculously able to organize the entire celebration, thereby pleasing his chosen one. Today the young man found his chosen one, indicating to everyone that they are ready to be together forever. Along with this, the young man also has a new family, namely wonderful parents who are ready to give their love. I would like to sincerely congratulate the young people and wish them more interesting and serious decisions in their lives. Let your plans come true and your dreams come true.
- Today an important event happened before us. The guys, having made a serious decision, will be engaged very soon. It remains for you to wish to preserve your family union, woven from love, mutual understanding, trust and tenderness, for as long as possible.
- Your hearts are filled with light and love. Looking into the eyes, you can read only happiness. From now on, I would like to wish you to forever keep the warmth in your soul and the sparks of love in your eyes. Let them illuminate your family union, making it more interesting and brighter day by day.
Matchmaking toasts from the outside
We walked under the windows, matched the bride. All the fences were covered with: “Tili-tili-dough.” For the young!
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On your engagement day I wish you only happiness, smiles, fun, endless, deep love and a long road together!
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Divide everything in half Joy and bad weather, One for both of you, But great happiness.
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We congratulate you on your engagement and wish you warmth in your soul. So that troubles do not upset you, Soon you will be a family.
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I want to wish that happiness does not end, that what is planned can come true, that everything in life works out successfully, and that you will certainly be lucky!
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Engagement is the first step Towards family life, Towards new discoveries, What? Marriage is soon? This is nothing! After all, two souls stood side by side today.
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You are my prince from a fairy tale, I have been waiting for you, I dreamed about you and cherished my dreams. You are the kindest angel, I am grateful to fate, That I got engaged to you, It’s like I’m with you in a dream.
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Newlyweds, we sincerely congratulate you on the happiest, best hour in your life! We wish you prosperity and joy, a family contribution to the budget in an envelope from us! We want to tell you!
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Congratulations on your engagement, you found each other cleverly, live just as cleverly, and die together one day!
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We believed that this day would come when you would announce your engagement to us. When the shadow of loss disappears in your eyes, And you open your soul to each other.
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My toast to the engagement, Let love not die, But only strengthen growth And allow you to fly in the skies!
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- I drink to your engagement with pleasure, Let there be more fun at the wedding, I wish you to preserve love, respect and live many more years together!
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Congratulations on your engagement day, We wish you warmth in the family. So that every day is kinder, And so that the lights burn in the house.
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Today you gave Declarations of Love! And together you are going to go through life! We are happy to congratulate you on this wonderful day! And no matter what happens, you remember him!
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I will never leave you, I will always be by your side. I congratulate you on your engagement and I want you to be mine!
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- I didn’t imagine you like this, You are the happiest on earth. I'm so glad that you weren't afraid and trusted this dream.
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It is so important in this complex world to find great love! And we need to congratulate you on this. You were able to find each other!
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We congratulate you on your engagement, And we look forward to your wedding, May love in your hearts Live not a day, not an hour, And eternity will be ahead, And you will fly, soar, bloom!
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My toast to an unexpected engagement, but, of course, very welcome, So that your love leads to the altar, For this, friends, I drink with pleasure.
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Tenderness and affection. Joy and happiness. Loyalty, attention and kindness. Be the most beautiful family! May the honeymoon always last!
Half a century ago, it all began not with an agreement between young people, but with a meeting of matchmakers in the bride’s house. All candidates for the role of future wife were always on their account.
The right words are important
On the part of the betrothed, a number of tasks and tricky questions can also be prepared to test the skills of the candidate for husband. Here, as they say, you can have a lot of fun.
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Meet the matchmakers, Open the gates, We want to marry your girl.
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Our groom is a handsome man, you can’t look for anything like this, you can’t let him out of your hands.
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- For your beauty, she will move the Mountains, and at her word, she will turn the Rivers back.
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Let it be only “Yes!” The bride will answer, She will become the happiest in the world.
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We came to you for a girl. Smart, kind and beautiful, We have a good groom, Life will make her happy.
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Let the decision that two families were cemented today be the start of a new life, joy, great love.
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Here, they have wooed the bride. Congratulations guys. A proposal was made - This is a significant date.
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Let the anticipation of your wedding be pleasant, let the love between you and each other grow stronger, kindness and understanding.
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We really need your product, The merchant can’t do without it, Without it he often grieves, Goes to bed on an empty stomach!
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Do you agree? That’s great: You have become matchmakers for us, We will prepare the wedding properly, We will prepare here and there!
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You have decided to take an important step, and soon you will become a family! We wish you only the best, mutual and great love!
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Let your life be full of prosperity, So that you don’t need anything! We wish you everything in order, so that you have a bright wedding!
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You are not a family yet, but very soon you will become one. Impatience and joy in your soul, The thought of the future warms your heart.
Let the wedding be beautiful, Only your feelings will grow stronger, I wish you happiness and tenderness, Don’t take your eyes off in love.
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Take care of your sensitivity, understanding, kindness. Let our hearts give each other only tenderness and warmth.
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Soon you will become a family, I wish you to enter a new life with positivity, a sea of joy and love.
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Be devoted to your relationship, Go together to joint decisions, Have a happy life, wonderful moments, Always have the best and best impressions!
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Let your love illuminate your path, Now you are the bride and groom. And may Faith and wonderful hope live with you in your heart.
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Respect each other, Appreciate, understand, Share all the joys, Go to your dream together!
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Life is like a fairy tale for you. Keep your tenderness and affection. Let there be joy, peace, success! Let there be children's laughter soon!
Funny toasts for matchmaking
The more original and funny your toasts are at the matchmaking ceremony, the less tense the atmosphere will reign at your meeting. Smile and speak from the heart.
Oh, what a handsome groom! Well, just a sight for sore eyes: the figure of an athlete, the look of an eagle, the mane of a lion! And what a beauty the bride is - everyone really likes such firebirds. Graceful like a doe, affectionate like a cat! Dear young people, let's drink to your wonderful couple!
There is a wonderful fresh loaf of bread on the table, with a salt shaker in the middle. I would like to wish the young people that their home will always be a full cup, so that they do not overdo it with promises and do not overdo it with quarrels. May everything in your family be sweet and smooth!
Trousers with outstretched knees, a robe and curlers on the head, life from paycheck to paycheck, a rolling pin and tasteless borscht... do we really want such a life for our couple in love? No!? So let's raise our glasses so that life is a real fairy tale, and not a horror film!
Toast parables for matchmaking
If you like to tell wedding toasts in prose, you can practice during matchmaking and prepare some interesting parable that will not only cheer up the young couple in love and guests, but will also carry an important and deep meaning.
Once upon a time there lived a handsome young prince in a castle, and he was about to get married. Princesses from all over the kingdom came to his palace: everyone wanted to woo the prince. For a long time the prince chose among the beauties: one was smart, the other was economical, and the third was beautiful. A month later, he finally found the one and only one. And it turned out to be a simple girl Alyonushka from the village. And the prince fell in love with her because she combined all the qualities at once. You, dear groom, are very lucky to have your bride, because she is smart, beautiful and thrifty. Take care of her, because she is a real diamond! Let's raise our glasses to the fact that our prince has finally found his princess!
Once upon a time there was a young couple who constantly quarreled over petty things. They were tired of living in eternal disputes and decided to go to the sage to help them sort out the conflict. They scolded each other for a long time in front of the sage, until he stopped them and said the word: “Tell me, my dears, do you remember the day of your first meeting? What feelings did you have for each other? How long has it been since you hugged tightly and did something nice for each other?” The couple silently lowered their heads. And the sage continued: “If you want to save your family, you should always remember why you once fell in love with a person. Don’t look for flaws in each other: try to see only the good, the things that bring you together!” So let's drink so that our future family never forgets its first bright feelings, and at the moment of a quarrel remembers that we should not see the shortcomings, but always highlight the advantages!
Matchmaking today
Matchmaking is, in essence, the official consent of the bride and groom, as well as their families, to enter into marriage. There is no universal scenario or rules for performing this ritual, since even in ancient times, matchmaking traditions differed greatly not only in different countries, but also in different regions of Rus'. In this article we will look at the main features, current echoes of past traditions and interesting ideas regarding matchmaking.
Matchmaking today
Modern matchmaking in most cases is simple and prosaic, especially in urban areas. Matchmakers, whose roles are most often played by the groom's closest relatives, rarely burden themselves with learning long poems and theatrical performances (except for the common phrase: “you have a product, we have a merchant”). However, certain etiquette is still observed. So, upon arrival at the bride’s house, the groom always gives the women flowers (if the future wife has grandmothers or sisters, they will also be pleased to receive a bouquet along with the bride and her mother). Matchmakers bring gifts with them, most often these are: sweets, fruit baskets, alcohol. In addition, the groom (or his mother) can give the bride some expensive gift, for example, jewelry or something significant for his family. Some special gifts can be presented to the bride's parents. It is better to discuss what to give to your future father-in-law and mother-in-law in advance with the bride - she probably knows their preferences. Alternatively, it could be: a talisman for the home, a photo album (with a promise to fill it soon with photographs of grandchildren), a beautiful carved candle (as a symbol of light and warmth), etc. After the welcoming speeches, everyone goes to the table, where they discuss in detail the subject of the meeting - the wedding of the newlyweds.
What words to say during matchmaking
While the bride's relatives can act impromptu, the groom's matchmakers will have to prepare some kind of opening speech. The essence of this speech usually boils down to the following: we know that a beautiful girl lives here, we have a smart/generous/wealthy groom for her, who, moreover, is endlessly in love with her, do you agree to put her in his reliable hands ? This traditional preamble can be formulated in either prose or verse. Here are some short poetic options:
We brought you a great guy! The merchant is excellent for your product! Dressed to the nines - looks decent, has its own corner and personal transport. There is money - not poor, easy character - character is not harmful. How's it going with your fiancee? Are you ready for marriage yet?
We came to your house for a reason. One dream brought us - to give away a child to a happy marriage, and to hug our grandchildren as soon as possible. And if our thoughts are similar, Let's put everything aside, So that we can discuss the wedding together And open the way to happiness for the children.
You have one girl: Modest, beautiful, young. We have a groom who is a match for her: He has the intelligence to become. We propose to connect their two destinies into one thread.
Hello, nice family! Meet a prominent man. We will immediately say without concealment - He is a glorious groom, rank after rank! And lead you to the altar He desires your maiden.
We were lucky to find out that your product is expensive. Good in everything, give or take. Our merchant is golden. Just look for something like this! Handsome, smart, daring. He'll make a great husband and son-in-law! So give us a straight answer - Are you ready to give away the goods?
We have come to your glorious home With a first-class groom! Give it a little time - we’ll tell you everything about it.
Scenarios of modern matchmaking
We will not present matchmaking scenarios in verse (there are quite a few of them on the Internet). Let us note only the key stages of this ritual. It all starts with the opening speech of the matchmakers (mentioned above). Further, matchmakers may ask the bride to perform a number of comic tasks to ensure that she will be a thrifty wife. For example, answer the following questions:
Matchmaking wishes in your own words
If you are suddenly asked to make a toast, you can say congratulations on the matchmaking to the bride and groom in your own words.
Our dears! Congratulations on such an important decision - to link your hearts for life and create a wonderful family. We wish you to walk hand in hand with pure intentions and good thoughts!
It’s great that you decided to start a family! A little more - and we will have great fun at your magnificent wedding, and we wish you to enjoy every minute of preparation for this unforgettable day!
Our dears, very soon you will become husband and wife, but for now we wish you to enjoy your new status as bride and groom! Hooray!
If you don’t know how to properly say parting words or how to bless the newlyweds, just try not to skimp on kind words for the young couple who have decided to take such an important step in their lives. Let your matchmaking take place in a positive and sincere atmosphere, so that further preparation for the celebration will bring only joy to the newlyweds.
Toasts
Today it is not so easy to meet your true love in this ever-changing world. Such luck really only comes to a select few. So let our groom get a lucky ticket and he will find the woman of his life! Let's drink to those who control such luck - to the parents!
Our life can be compared to an interesting and exciting movie. Today the main role is played by the groom. According to the script, it is planned that his life with his beloved will be long and happy, that their wealth will grow, and their feelings will only strengthen. Let's raise a toast to the bride's parents, who are the creators of the only suitable main character of this film!
Today brought with it incredible warmth, comparable to a hot July day. All because matchmakers appeared in this house, sent for the hand and heart of the future bride. So let this warmth warm everyone present and help parents make the right decision to make their daughter absolutely happy and find her betrothed!
As a rule, most of these toasts are addressed to the parents of the future newlywed in order to appease them and help them agree to the marriage proposal after matchmaking. Toasts in the form of a parable are also suitable here, which also praise their best qualities in an allegorical form.
So that guests don't get bored
Usually, not only the greeting procedure itself takes place in a constrained atmosphere, but also when the guests sit down at the table, it is necessary to help them relax and start communicating. Toasts from the parents, friends and relatives of the bride are very good for this at matchmaking. They, as the owners of the house, start this tradition, and then the guests from the other side pick it up. It would be very helpful if you captured all your wishes on video.
Sample options for table toasts:
- “With all my heart I want to wish that the right notes are always present in your union:
- “Do you know why many families live until their silver, gold and diamond weddings? Their secret is simple - over the years they do not forget to pay attention to each other. Constant interest in the affairs of the spouse, warmth in relationships and understanding in the eyes - these are the main points of family life. Likewise, I want to wish you to be attentive to your soul mate, always love each other, treat each other with understanding in everything and everywhere!”
- to – goodness, love and happiness!;
- si – systemic replenishment of the treasury;
- la – wish for yourself;
- salt – a refrigerator full of food;
- fa - fantastic luck in everything;
- mi - minimum quarrels;
- re – regular vacation together;
- to – prosperity in everything;
- “It is very difficult to find the embodiment of the second “I” in this world. It’s ideal when your woman complements you in everything, understands and loves you. Then you are ready to answer her in kind and even exalt everything a hundredfold. We want to wish the groom good luck, and may his marriage proposal succeed today! And we offer a drink for those who control fortune - for the parents!”
Sources
- https://svadebka.ws/article/tosty-na-svatovstvo/
- https://prazdnikmir.ru/tosty-na-svatovstvo-so-storony/
- https://svadbagolik.ru/article/tosty-na-svatovstvo/
- https://ladyspecial.ru/otnosheniya/on-i-ona/svadba/svatovstvo-so-storony-nevesty-chto-govorit-stsenarij-i-tosty
Invitation poems to the bride's house
Well, everyone was pleased, it seems... We announce in front of the people - We have such a maiden. Go straight, left here. Here she is, her little room, Here the daughter-in-law is languishing.
The bride appears and the parents address the groom
Take care of the bride, groom, from adversity and dashing storms. So that it blossoms, so that it bears fruit, The happiness in it is yours - take care of it! Well, we’re all here in droves, Let’s pour some glasses together.
All guests are invited to the table.
This is how you can carry out such an exciting event as meeting parents and matchmaking in a fun and humorous way.
