Wedding, rings, kisses, and now the bride and groom move to a new status, the status of spouses. Basically, after the painting, the newlyweds go to take wedding photos, and then come to the restaurant, where they are met by their parents and guests. This is a special ritual that personifies the connection between generations and the transmission of family values. There are many variations of this ritual, everyone does it as they see fit. Let's take a closer look at how parents greet newlyweds after the registry office .
The role of rituals
Each culture has its own individual holidays, but in almost all of them a wedding is celebrated. Marriage traditions began to emerge in every nation even when it was just being formed, so countless variations have survived to this day. Find out more about Russian traditions.
Such customs form the invisible framework of the wedding scenario. Even if the bride and groom do not realize it, many of their actions are also a kind of tradition. A white wedding dress, a ransom, a wedding procession, an exchange of rings, a kiss that seals the marriage - all this has passed through the centuries, only minor details change.
Following traditions does not mean that the wedding will be the same as everyone else's. Now there is a tendency to either hold a wedding in a Western style, or completely abandon any customs in favor of a calm celebration in the family circle. Those couples who observe the long-standing traditions of their people at their wedding always look more original and natural.
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Congratulations to the newlyweds from their parents in their own words
- Young people, we worry and worry no less than you. It is important for us to see you happy, and we are glad that your hearts are now beating in unison. Congratulations on your wedding, you worked hard for this day and put in a lot of effort. We wish you endless happiness, prosperity and prosperity in your family nest.
- Finding love, feeling a person and understanding that you want to move in the same direction is not given to every couple, but you managed to find each other, understand and make the most important decision - to start a family. So let your feelings burn like fire, and let love become a boundless ocean. May life be cloudless and happiness unprincipled! Bitterly!
- Dear children! We wish you to live to see your diamond wedding without losing your tenderness and love! And let anything happen in life, you will overcome everything, because you are close, you are together! Don’t let anyone get into your family and destroy what you have collected bit by bit, keep love, trust each other, respect and appreciate every moment! Bitterly!
The role of baking at the holiday
Nowadays it is customary to treat wedding guests to a large and richly decorated cake, but in the past homemade cakes of all shapes and sizes were popular. The newlyweds themselves were also treated to a culinary masterpiece from the oven - a round, large loaf of bread, shining in the light, with patterns in the form of an ethnic ornament. Each element of such a design was carefully thought out and had a symbolic meaning:
- braids and weaving - sealing the destinies of the newlyweds and their future children into one common one;
- viburnum and roses - a wish for mutual love and respect;
- two swans - a symbol of the newlyweds themselves, who swore eternal fidelity to each other;
- grapes are a symbol of fertility, a wish for quick, strong and healthy offspring.
The loaf itself is unsweetened white bread, most often round in shape, since it symbolizes the sun. This wedding pastry represents the unity of two hearts, as well as fertility, prosperity and prosperity . It was with the loaf that the wedding feast began, and the salt served with it symbolized a comfortable life.
The wedding celebration begins with the meeting of the newlyweds with a loaf and the words of the parents. The newlyweds, after the official wedding ceremony, must break off or bite off a piece of this traditional wedding pastry. It is believed that the one who has more will be the head of the family. You can do with the rest of the loaf at your discretion: give it to guests, take it home with you to eat whole or dry.
In another variation of this tradition, the bride and groom break off a piece of baked goods, sprinkle it with salt and feed it to each other. It is believed that at this moment they can “annoy” each other for the last time, and after that they should live in harmony and peace. After this, the salt can be poured into a fabric bag to keep as a keepsake.
How to meet newlyweds after the registry office: the scenario of a Christian ritual
If the newlyweds and their parents adhere to Christian traditions and want the ceremony to take place exactly according to the rules, it is best to first consult with the priest of the church that the newlyweds attended. He will tell you how to greet the groom's young parents after the registry office, what icons should be in their hands and what words are best for them to say.
The blessing itself is carried out immediately before the room in which the wedding feast will take place. Guests and parents of the newlyweds arrive in advance. A young husband and wife, as a rule, go for a walk or a walk after the registry office. And if they immediately head to the banquet place, they should not rush so that all the invitees have time to get ready.
Features of the tradition
The wedding loaf was always baked in the groom's family, and this particular task went to a married relative who was happily married and had several healthy children. If the mother matched the description, then she took upon herself the responsibility of making a wedding masterpiece. Widows, single or childless relatives were not allowed to participate in this important stage, since it was believed that they could pass on some of their troubles to the newlyweds. While kneading the dough, the woman sang cheerful songs about love, happiness and peace, and when the bread went into the oven, she read prayers over it.
Sometimes the groom's male relatives also got to take part in making the loaf. When the dough was ready, a happily married man with numerous and strong offspring sent it to the oven, and then the woman came to the fore again.
Who holds the loaf when the newlyweds meet? The ceremony of meeting the newlyweds with a loaf of bread after the wedding was organized by the groom’s parents. His mother held a loaf of bread in her hands on a rushnik (towel) specially embroidered for this day. Most often, the decoration of this accessory was entrusted to the bride during preparations for the wedding, and the pattern could be made in any way. Doves were often depicted as a symbol of love, or roosters as the personification of the beginning of a new life for the newlyweds.
Previously, the meeting of the newlyweds with a loaf of bread after the wedding took place on the threshold of the house of the groom's parents, since it was there that the married couple was to settle. This is also due to the fact that the making of baked goods was entrusted to the family by the newlywed. Nowadays, newlyweds in most cases, after the official wedding, go to a banquet, and do not live with their parents at all, so the parents of the newlyweds meet them with a loaf, as a rule, at the entrance to a cafe or restaurant.
Guests also take part in this tradition: they form a kind of living corridor, standing on both sides of the road to the doors of the establishment, and shower the newlyweds with millet, oats, rice, coins, sweets or flower petals. This is how friends and relatives wish the newly-made spouses happiness and prosperity in the family.
The words of the mother-in-law when meeting the newlyweds with a loaf of bread must be prepared in advance, since the congratulatory speech must be coherent and come from the heart. It is not forbidden to read the text as written, but it will look more impressive if it is memorized.
Other parents also have their roles in this tradition. The mother of the bride holds two glasses of champagne or a soft drink in her hands. After the newlyweds try the loaf, they empty their glasses and break them, throwing them over their left shoulder for good luck. The mother-in-law can also accompany this process with words of congratulations. The words of the bride's mother for meeting the newlyweds with a loaf can also be prepared in advance. The groom's father usually holds an apple on a tray so that the newlyweds can snack on champagne, and the bride's father holds an icon for blessing.
How is it customary today to greet young people after the registry office?
Upon completion of marriage registration or after the wedding, already being husband and wife, the young couple meets their loved ones for the first time in the status of spouses. This meeting marks the acceptance of the groom's daughter-in-law into the family and includes three stages. The first stage is a rain of grains and petals. The second is a wedding loaf with salt. The third is breaking glasses for good luck.
Initially, the invited guests line up in two lines towards the threshold of the house (now most often it is a restaurant), where the parents stand. With words of wishes and congratulations, the guests arrange an unusual “rain” for the newlyweds. By the way, real rain on a wedding day is a very good omen, foreshadowing happiness and prosperity for the newlyweds. Guests shower the newly-made husband and wife with various grains (rice, buckwheat, millet) so that there are as many children in their house as there are grains in an ear of grain; money - for family security; candies - for the sweet life, rose petals and confetti - so that the newlyweds' life together is romantic and magical. “Rain” must be arranged carefully, otherwise there is a risk that young people and guests will take a long time to shake the grain out of their outfits and hairstyles.
Toastmaster's speech
If the toastmaster will be present at the wedding, then he needs to accompany with comments every stage of the celebration, including the meeting of the newlyweds at the door of a cafe or restaurant.
A professional toastmaster knows how to greet young people with a loaf of bread and what to say. After the registry office, the bride and groom usually go to a photo shoot, and guests wait for them at the banquet hall. The presenter makes sure that everyone stands in their place and knows what to do and say when the young people meet with the loaf. The words of the toastmaster during the performance of this tradition may be the following:
“Dear newlyweds (names of the bride and groom)! At this solemn hour, you are greeted by the people dearest to you - your parents. The groom’s mother has a delicious loaf of bread on her lovingly embroidered towel, baked as a symbol of love and prosperity, with the warmest feelings.
Newlyweds! Looking into each other's eyes, break off a piece of this wedding bread, salt it well and feed each other. You have a unique opportunity to annoy each other for the last time, and to the cheers of friends and relatives. And whoever gets the bigger piece will be the head and breadwinner of the family! Well done, groom (or bride), so you will have a difficult burden.”
How the newlyweds are met by their parents at the entrance to the cafe
Immediately after the painting, at the exit from the registry office, guests meet the newlyweds lining up in a long corridor. When the newlyweds walk, they throw candy, rice, rose petals, and coins at them. After this, everyone present goes to where the wedding will take place - in a cafe or at home, where their parents are already waiting for them. How does the meeting of the bride and groom take place?
As soon as the newlyweds approach their parents, no one should stand behind them. It will be impressive if the spouses’ friends line up in a tunnel with a rose in their hand, through which the heroes of the occasion will pass. The groom can carry his beloved in his arms, accompanied by shouts of “Congratulations” from those present.
As a rule, they must come up and bow to the father-in-law and mother-in-law from the waist. Parents meet the newlyweds at the entrance to the banquet hall. The groom’s mother stands with a loaf of bread and salt, and his father stands with an icon and a basket of change, wheat and sweets. When the heroes of the occasion approach the parents, they will shower them with the contents of the basket for a rich, happy, joyful life. As for the bride's parents, mom holds a plate with honey and a teaspoon, and dad holds glasses of wine or champagne. What icon can you use to greet children? An icon of the Mother of God, the Wonderworker, or the face of another saint would be suitable. These actions mean that the mother-in-law gives her blessing to the children for a happy life in abundance, and the groom’s father with the icon reminds of the sacredness of love, so that they take care of their family. It would be appropriate if the loaf was on a beautiful embroidered towel, and on it or next to it there would be a salt shaker. The newlyweds cross themselves, then break off a piece of the loaf. The one who breaks off the largest piece will make important decisions in the young family.
Next, they salt a piece and treat it to each other, agreeing not to salt each other again. It is advisable to eat these pieces, and given that the bride and groom will most likely be hungry, this will not be difficult. It is worth noting that today newlyweds order these holiday pastries not with salt, but with sugar or chocolate, so that their life will be sweet. Blessed by the groom's parents, the newlyweds listen to congratulations from the young wife's mother, who gives them a taste of honey and wishes them a sweet life and an endless honeymoon. After the bread is eaten and the honey is tasted, the bride and groom take glasses of wine from the bride's father and empty them completely. Some spouses break glasses when I drink from them to make life happy. Some people drink from these glasses throughout the wedding celebration, and break them at the end of the holiday. Others keep glasses as souvenirs. Here it’s as anyone wants. If you decide to break the glasses, then you should pay attention to the fragments. There is a sign that small fragments signify the birth of a daughter, and large fragments signify the birth of a son. Next, the spouses kiss their parents three times on the cheeks as a sign of gratitude. After this, the newlyweds, parents and guests go to the banquet hall to celebrate. If the wedding celebration is held at the groom's home, then the parents meet the newlyweds on the threshold of the apartment. After this, everyone present goes to the banquet hall or the place where they will celebrate the holiday.
Parents' speech
The words when the newlyweds meet with a loaf of bread mainly consist of congratulations and parting words. The mother-in-law can give her short speech in prose or poetry. It is desirable that the text comes from the heart, without pretense.
For example, congratulating the newlyweds during a meeting with a loaf of bread may look like this:
“Our dear children! We sincerely congratulate you on the starting point in your new life, on the birth of your family. I bless you for a long and happy married life, may there always be peace and order in your home!”
There is another option for the text of congratulations:
“Dear children! We are immensely glad that in this huge world your hearts found each other and merged together, and today we are all witnessing the triumph of your warm feelings for each other. Previously, I only had a son, but now I also have a wonderful daughter. I wish that harmony and mutual understanding reign in your home, so that the ringing laughter of children does not cease within the walls of your family nest. Love each other and be happy!”
You can link your congratulations directly to the loaf itself:
“Dear children! We bless you on your journey together and wish that the warmth in your hearts, like in this loaf, does not fade away, but warms you and everyone around you. May your home be full of joy, love and welcome guests. Happy holiday, my dears!”
How to meet newlyweds after the registry office: some deviations from traditions
It is not always possible to fully perform these rituals. In such cases, a young family can receive blessings in another way.
Immediately upon leaving the registry office building, the newlyweds may be greeted with a loaf of bread or simply with champagne and sprinkled with various symbolic objects. Also at this moment, many couples like to release doves.
Also, due to life circumstances, a husband’s parents cannot always bless him with a young wife. Then the oldest relative in the family takes on this function. In addition, the groom’s godparents can also give a blessing to the young family.
In addition, not everyone knows how to welcome newlyweds after the registry office at home, if this is not the case. And this is not surprising, because there can be a variety of rituals here. One of the traditions, for example, is seeing a young couple home, where, before entering the apartment or the house itself, the groom must carry his bride in his arms through a lock lying on the floor. After which, the eldest in the family closes this lock and throws away the key. This symbolizes the end of a man’s single life.
Following these customs, unfortunately, does not protect against problems in family life. However, creating a festive atmosphere at a wedding is impossible without them. And sincere wishes of love and happiness make this day even more special for the newlyweds.
Finally you are husband and wife! You answered each other “Yes!” in the face of the law and solemnly placed the rings on their ring fingers. It's time to leave the registry office to continue the wonderful, eventful, solemn wedding day. But you also need to be able to leave the registry office.
Leaving the registry office is a historical moment in the life of a young family. These are the origins - the very first minutes of the existence of a new married couple.
Who does the baking
If desired, the groom's family can follow the old tradition and make their own wedding cakes. Of course, this process has not been accompanied by songs and prayers for a long time, but it is better to observe the condition for a happily married woman. Many people believe that baking transmits positive energy from the person who cooks it .
Now there are options that are much simpler - anyone can order a loaf of bread in a bakery or in a special store for a relatively low price. At the same time, you can be sure that the baked goods will turn out tasty and beautiful. You can make any decorations on the loaf, it all depends on the wishes of the customer. In order not to purchase an additional salt shaker, you can order a loaf with a special recess in the middle where salt is poured. You need to order the loaf in advance so that the baker can bake it on the day of the holiday. In this case, it will be fresh, soft and aromatic.
Interesting! Find out how to make, decorate and use a towel for a loaf of bread at the holiday.
Who greets the newlyweds with bread and salt?
According to ancient custom, the groom's parents should greet the newlyweds . By treating them with bread and salt, they bless the new family and welcome the daughter-in-law into their home.
Unfortunately, there are situations when the groom's parents for some reason cannot attend the wedding. What to do in this case?
Other close relatives who took part in raising the groom can present the loaf. This can be done, for example, by his grandparents. If there are no suitable candidates on the part of the newly-made spouse, then you can ask the bride’s parents to participate.
Additional Tips
Each stage of pre-wedding preparation has certain nuances that need to be taken into account so that everyone is satisfied. Regarding the tradition of welcoming newlyweds with a wedding loaf, the following advice is given.
- Parents are not always present at weddings in full force. If necessary, the mother-in-law can be replaced by any relative on the groom's side or by any person close to the newlyweds.
- The loaf does not replace the wedding cake, despite the fact that this pastry was previously used for the dessert part of the banquet.
What to say when young people meet with a loaf of bread? When serving a loaf of bread, it is not so important what exactly the mother-in-law says, but what matters is how she does it. Even simple words can warm the soul if they are spoken with warm feelings and intentions. You can choose a ready-made version or write the text yourself, the main thing is that it pleases the newlyweds.
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Everyone knows the tradition of showering newlyweds with rose petals, rice, coins or candies. Most strive to do this at the exit from the registry office. However, this is a violation of Article 5.3 of the Lipetsk improvement rules. It entails a fine of up to 3,500 rubles for individuals. You are adults, so you should understand this perfectly. No one is canceling the tradition itself, but it should in no way be tied to the registry office. It doesn't make any sense other than "offensive." You can sprinkle the newlyweds with everything you want, for example, at home or at a restaurant. Of course, provided that you instruct one of your assistants to clean up everything after you.
Where to meet?
In Ancient Russia, the meeting of the newlyweds took place after the wedding ceremony on the threshold of the groom's house , where the newlyweds were later to settle. So the parents symbolically accepted the young mistress into their family.
Now this tradition has changed somewhat. Most couples limit themselves only to painting in the registry office, and the celebration of a modern wedding has moved to cafes and restaurants. Therefore, in order to save time, the meeting of the newlyweds is most often organized not at home, but at the entrance to a restaurant or any other place where the celebration is celebrated.
Icon for blessing newlyweds
Today, the icon of the Mother of God of Kazan and Christ the Savior is most often used to bless the young. Let's take a closer look at the icons for wedding blessings:
- And so, the Kazan Icon of the Mother of God is one of the most revered images of the Mother of God. Since ancient times, she was considered the intercessor and patroness of the entire people.
- Many different miracles and amazing salvations were attributed to her.
- It is also worth noting that it is this icon that is used for weddings in the church. It is especially important for women.
- Before her they pray for the birth of children, and ask for protection of the house from evil spirits.
- The icon of the Temperance of the Savior is the second icon that is used to bless the young. Before this image they pray for need and joy. Contact her with requests for the well-being of the whole family.
Today you can bless with both icons or with one of them. You can also buy a fold of these images in the icon shop.
Blessing of daughter (son) before wedding
The blessing of the daughter is carried out with the help of the face of the Kazan Mother of God. The father must give the icons to the mother. Moreover, it is very important that the mother holds towels, because it is not customary to take holy images with bare hands. The father holds a loaf of bread during the ceremony.
Parents take turns saying their wishes without interrupting each other. The parting words should be succinct, concise and simple. After pronouncing the speech, the daughter must be crossed three times and the image brought to her. She must also cross the image and kiss it. If the young woman does not have parents, then the ceremony can be performed by godparents.
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The blessing of a son before the wedding is carried out similarly to the ceremony with a daughter, only for this purpose the icon “Savior Temperance” is used.
Which parent holds the images of the saints and the loaf during the ceremony?
As a rule, when children decide to marry, parents are always unexpected. When planning a celebration and assigning “roles” for the blessing ceremony, it is always difficult. In fact, there is nothing complicated here. There are several options:
- The groom's father holds the icon, the young mother holds the loaf.
- Mothers of young people hold icons, and fathers hold champagne and a loaf of bread,
- One of the mothers holds images of saints, the other a loaf, and the fathers simply stand on the sides.
All diagrams should be viewed from left to right. You can use a special prayer during the ceremony. It is pronounced before the wishes of the parents themselves. If it is better not to memorize the wish, so as not to forget during excitement, then you should try to learn the prayer.
Wedding blessing prayer:
Lord Jesus Christ, Son of God, prayers for the sake of Thy Most Pure Mother, hear me, Thy sinful and unworthy servant. Lord, in the mercy of Your power my children (names), have mercy and save them for Your name’s sake. Lord, forgive them all the sins, voluntary and involuntary, that they committed before You. Lord, guide them on the true path of Your commandments and enlighten them and enlighten them with Your light of Christ, for the salvation of the soul and the healing of the body. Lord, bless them in the house, around the house, at school, in the field, at work and on the road, and in every place of Your possession. Lord, protect them under the shelter of Your Saints from a flying bullet, arrow, knife, sword, poison, fire, flood, from a deadly plague (atomic rays) and from vain death. Lord, protect them from visible and invisible enemies, from all troubles, evils and misfortunes. Lord, heal them from all diseases, cleanse them from all filth (wine, tobacco, drugs) and ease their mental suffering and sorrow. Lord, grant them the grace of Your Holy Spirit for many years of life, health and chastity. Lord, increase and strengthen their mental abilities and physical strength. Lord, give them Your blessing for a godly family life and godly childbearing. Lord, grant also to me, Thy unworthy and sinful servant, a parental blessing on my child at this time of morning, day, evening and night for the sake of Thy name, for Thy Kingdom is eternal, omnipotent and omnipotent. Amen.
