In Europe, it is a widespread tradition to say vows during a wedding ceremony. This custom came to our country recently, but is rapidly gaining popularity. For many lovers, it is not enough to simply answer “Yes” to a standard question from a registry office employee. After all, registering a marriage is the first exciting step into a long life together. This is the most appropriate moment to say the warmest and most sincere words to each other and make the most important and valuable promises. The svadebka.ws portal team will share with you examples of vows and tips on how to write a wedding vow yourself.
Types of wedding vows
Before you write your wedding vows, there are a few things you need to clarify. Conventionally, they can be divided into:
- classic;
- religious;
- romantic;
- comic.
A wedding vow can be pronounced not only in prose, but also in the form of a song or poem. The oath-dialogue will sound original, during which the bride and groom take turns exchanging confessions and promises. To avoid any hitches, it is better to rehearse such an oath in advance.
The most common option is for the bride and groom to take an oath at the exit registration.
If you do not want to deviate from tradition, then you can hold a classic ceremony and say the oath during the wedding reception, for example, before the first dance or during the lighting ceremony.
Wedding vows are traditional in many countries. Each of them has its own characteristics. For example, in Japan, not only the newlyweds, but also their entire family are responsible for the vows given to each other. In Hinduism, it is customary to make 7 promises, taking 7 steps towards each other. In Pakistan, newlyweds make wedding promises and vows only on the third day of the wedding.
How to pronounce?
Once the speech is written, all that remains is to choose how to present it.
- The best option would be to learn by heart . In this case, speech will sound most natural. It’s okay if you get confused somewhere (those present will understand the degree of your excitement at these moments), the most important thing is that you will speak from the heart, sincerely;
- If you are not confident in your memory or are afraid that due to excitement you will forget all the words, then you can expressively read your message from a piece of paper . Try to take your eyes off the text from time to time and look at your partner.
Original presentation
- Make an interesting audio or video recording ;
- If you have good data, then this could be a song ;
- A romantic clip in the “love story” style is also a great option;
- The oath can be drawn up on large sheets of paper and presented sequentially;
- The most durable and memorable gift will be in the form of an oath, engraved , for example, on a small, neat box in which the rings can lie. A beautiful medallion or wide bracelet is also suitable for engraving. The most important words of the oath can be imprinted on them.
Thanks to these methods, your vows will last a long time, reminding you of the exciting event.
Use of humor in text
The oath can be written in different manners:
- in prose;
- in verse;
- in a serious manner;
- in a humorous manner;
- with elements of humor.
It is important that the speeches of the newlyweds overlap and sound in the same spirit.
Discuss in advance what the nature of the vows will be to avoid awkward situations. So, to the groom’s romantic speech there should be an equally romantic response; the bride's humorous remark should find a cheerful response from the groom.
Interesting examples of texts with a bit of humor can be borrowed from famous people:
Touching words of lovers are heard, for example, in the film “The Oath” , the TV series “Friends” , “Sex and the City” and others. Generally appropriate to the seriousness of the moment, these texts include cheerful phrases:
- about an unloved pie that they promise to try;
- about a hint of the unusual character of the chosen one, who does not let you get bored (strange in a good way);
- about the fun of dating (I never thought that I would be lucky enough to fall in love with my best friend).
Think, for sure, there will be something in your story that can be played out like that. This will emphasize the strength of your feelings and show your willingness to accept your partner with all his strengths and weaknesses.
Tips for newlyweds on writing their vows
Taking an impromptu wedding vow is a very risky undertaking. Even if you are confident in your abilities, you should be safe. Anxiety can let you down at the most crucial moment. The text needs to be prepared in advance and all the details discussed with your other half. If you are afraid of forgetting words, then prepare a cheat sheet with abstracts. You can arrange your speech in the form of a beautiful document and read it solemnly. This text will be kept by the newlyweds for many years and will remind them of a happy wedding day and bright mutual feelings. You can attach the text of the oath to balloons or doves, and then release them into the sky.
Try to write a short, meaningful text that will be interesting to listen to. Don't be shy to express your emotions. You can talk not only about what you undertake to do in your married life, but also about why you love your soulmate and why you are happy with her. To write a wedding vow, Svadebka.ws advises the bride:
- remember meeting and first dates with your lover;
- recall first sensations and emotions;
- think about how life has changed with the appearance of the groom.
For the wedding oath, the groom can list the qualities for which he loves the bride and his plans for life together. Absurd comparisons should be avoided. For example, saying that she is caring, like a mother, or beautiful, like a famous actress. The text of the oath should be simple, understandable, concise and sincere.
How to write vows for the bride and groom?
Of course, you can always take someone’s ready-made speech and pass it off as your own. Both the agency and the Internet will help with this. However, the oath drawn up by the newlyweds themselves is unique; the most sincere emotions are felt in it . It touches the soul and becomes the highlight of the ceremony.
What to write about?
Usually, the text of the newlyweds’ oath at exit registration must contain three parts :
- Recognition that a person is dear to you and you have decided to connect your life with him;
- Description of the beloved's virtues. Your attitude towards him (her);
- Promises for the future.
Each speech is individual, so there can be many variations. Creating text will require a special mood and a lot of time. This is best done in complete solitude, immersed in the memories of your history. Look at photos together, think about what interesting events you experienced together, what brought you closer together.
When making your first sketches, you may also want to mention:
- About the first meeting;
- About some unpleasant situation with a good ending that you once found yourself in;
- About habits, character traits that distinguish your chosen one (-tsu) from others.
Advice: It is quite understandable that on such an important day you want to say a lot, but the text should not be long (1-2 minutes), otherwise it will simply tire the guests.
What's not worth mentioning?
There are moments that are best avoided .
- Intimate details of your life;
- Negative aspects of relationships;
- Jokes on topics that are unpleasant to your partner.
Poem - oath
An alternative to prose can be an oath of the bride and groom in verse. If you don’t know how to write poetry, you can find them in ready-made wedding scripts. However, it is not at all necessary to completely memorize one of the examples. You can combine quatrains from different poems, choosing those promises that you like.
Bride's vow
My dear, today I dedicate an oath to you And in front of witnesses I promise forever: To be affectionate and faithful always, And to carry love through the years, And even if the path is difficult, I promise not to turn away from it. We will go through life together, you and I, with pure, tender and big love. I thank God for you. I will give you my care. I swear, I will try to live this life with you with dignity and happiness.
Groom's vow
Dear, my dear wife, I have found a beloved and a friend in you. I swear to protect you from troubles and pain, And to warm your soul with my love. I will be a reliable support for you. I’m ready to move all the mountains for you. I swear to always be faithful and patient. And our life with you will be happy. In your eyes I’m drowning like in the sea. I swear to love both in joy and in sorrow.
"Friends", Monica and Chandler
Monica: Three years ago, at another wedding, I turned to a friend for comfort. And instead I found everything I had been looking for all my life. And now there is us and our future is before us, and I want to spend it only with you, my prince, my soul mate, my friend. If only you want it.
Chandler: Monica, I thought this would be the hardest thing I've ever done. But when I saw you walking down that aisle, I realized how simple it is. I love you... You are the person I should have spent the rest of my life with. Do you want to know if I'm sure?
"Runaway Bride"
Maggie: “Listen, I guarantee there will be hard times. I guarantee...at some point one or both of us will want to quit this game. But I also guarantee that if I don't ask you to be mine, I will regret it for the rest of my life. Because I know in my heart... you are the only one for me.
Example of a romantic wedding vow
A wedding vow, which includes sweet stories from the lives of the bride and groom, declarations of love and touching words, will become especially exciting and memorable.
Groom's words
I am infinitely glad that I once met you. You are my sun and stars, my gentle angel, my fluffy bunny. With you, all the colors of the world become brighter. You inspire me to do crazy things, and only next to you I am truly happy. I love you with all my heart. I promise to do everything possible and impossible so that you are happy and never regret becoming my wife. I swear to protect you and our love from all problems and troubles.
Bride's words
My dear, my beloved (name of the groom). I am happy that you are in my life. Next to you I feel loved, desired and protected. Today I connect my life with you with full confidence that we will walk our path together with dignity, in love, joy and harmony. I promise to become the keeper of the family hearth, to give you care and affection, to create comfort for you. I will become the best wife for you and a loving mother for our children.
"If only"
Ian: I love you from the moment I saw you, but I didn’t let this feeling close to my heart until today. I always lived for tomorrow, made decisions based on fear. Today, thanks to you, what I learned from you... I chose differently and changed my life, and I realized that if you do this, then you breathe deeply. And it doesn’t matter how much time you have: 5 minutes or 50 years, if not for you, if not for today, I would never have known what love is. So thank you for teaching me to love and be loved.
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Comic wedding vows
When organizing a modern European-style wedding, many people remember the funny and original wedding vows that are often heard in Hollywood films. A bride and groom who have a good sense of humor may well write a cheerful wedding vow in their own words, but at the same time do not forget to express sincere feelings.
Cool groom's vow
I swear to love and respect you. I swear to give flowers and gifts not only on March 8th, but also on all other holidays. I swear to take you on vacation not only to the dacha, but also to the sea. I swear to remain faithful to you and not hide my stash.
Cool bride's vow
I vow to take care of you, love you and support you. I swear to let you go to friends on Saturdays so that you don’t interfere with cleaning the apartment. I vow to get cookbooks and indulge in delicious treats. I swear, even if I take up needlework, I will not sew “hedgehog gloves” for you. I will always be a faithful and loving wife.
Have all the words already been said?
It seems that so many words about love have already been said that nothing new can be invented. But this is only at first glance. Write down promises or just phrases that you liked: from books, songs, films. Describe in your own words what exactly you liked about these phrases. Then try to formulate it in your own words into one short phrase. You'll see, several successful options will definitely appear.
