A wedding on the seashore, outdoor wedding ceremonies, professional wedding organizers and rehearsals for special events - all this is present in almost all American films. And it is these traditions and behavior patterns that are increasingly being adopted by our newlyweds. White doves and rose petals are increasingly appearing at our weddings, and during the wedding all the unmarried ladies line up in a row to catch the coveted bouquet from the hands of the bride. Also very popular is an innovation in the marriage ceremony, such as the oath of the newlyweds. We will talk about it further.
What is a vow for newlyweds?
An oath is a promise that newlyweds make to each other during the wedding ceremony. The text for this, relatively speaking, oath, as a rule, is drawn up by the young people themselves. Moreover, it is created by mutual consent and through joint efforts.
The newlyweds' oath is written on an ordinary piece of paper. If desired, it can be beautifully designed and written on a landscape sheet or whatman paper. Ideally, future newlyweds should learn the words of the promise by heart.
Often during the oath there is a priest who helps the newlyweds remember the text of the vow and asks leading questions, for example: “Are you, Ivan, ready to live happily ever after with your wife Elena in sorrow and joy, in wealth and poverty, in youth and old age, until death do you part?"
Honesty, reliability and sincerity
If you are married to an honest man, you can always be sure that he is not cheating on you. When he makes mistakes, he will not hide them, because he is a man of honor. In such a marriage, you will enjoy peace and feel protected. The same can be said about a modest person. Such a husband will value you more than himself. Don't forget about reliability. The husband is the head of the family, his responsibilities include ensuring confidence in the future and creating peace in the family. This is necessary for the normal development of relationships and for life in general. He must take into account the interests of all family members, not just his own. Mutual understanding in the family can only be achieved by the ability to listen and hear your chosen one. Basically, all quarrels and disagreements that arise in life together are due to the inability to listen. You need to pay attention to the presence of this quality in your chosen one long before the wedding. After all, it is almost impossible to change a man after marriage. Sincerity is the key to a strong and happy family; it promotes trust.
When is an oath used?
The wedding vows are pronounced during the marriage ceremony. This can be the oath of the newlyweds in the registry office, in the church, in the celebration hall, on a ship or boat, on the pier or on the beach during an outdoor ceremony and during a themed wedding.
As a rule, such an oath is pronounced in the presence of a large number of people. The newlyweds take turns answering each other’s or the priest’s questions, and then recite the text they prepared in advance.
When do you make a promise at a wedding?
In a traditional wedding ceremony at the registry office, it would not be appropriate to pronounce such main words. There are several reasons for this:
- little time for the ceremonial part;
- It’s best to say these words no longer under such tension as in the hall;
- The significance of the promise will become higher at an outdoor ceremony or in a celebration in the hall.
The newlyweds make a promise of fidelity and eternal love during the wedding. A special oath is designed for a vow to the Almighty and the newlyweds. At a wedding, there are several stages to read your vow to your partner:
- during the exchange of rings at an outdoor event;
- after the first mating dance;
- after the symbolic “lighting” of the hearth (lighting a family candle);
- before cutting the wedding cake.
The commitment will come at the right moment:
- all the guests calmed down a little;
- during mysterious calm music;
- when lovers are most ready to take an oath.
A special feature of the oath text is the sincere feelings of the newlyweds. The main components should be:
- personal relationships;
- independent selection of phrases;
- secret wishes.
An idea for writing a wedding vow can be gleaned from:
- remember the first emotions and impressions when you met;
- significant events related to your relationship;
- the best character traits of your spouse;
- what goals or dreams unite you;
- your wishes in a relationship.
The wedding oath does not have to be long; it is enough to make a few sentences and put all your thoughts and wishes into them. Your pledge will be concise, write it on a piece of paper:
- state everything you want to say;
- choose the main thing for you;
- add a lot of gentle and affectionate phrases to your sentences;
- periodically re-read what you have written and correct it;
- try to memorize the finished text;
- choose your best emotions;
- try to take an oath without worry, investing your love.
If you decide to write the vow separately, then at the celebration itself your emotions (regarding the girls) may be unpredictable. Think in advance if you need a surprise.
Brides are the most emotional and romantic; the text can be very long. Try to choose the most necessary and important things. Grooms can be unromantic, so their text is stingy with beautiful expressions.
What are the types of oaths?
A lot depends on what type of wedding the couple choose. In particular, it is the theme of the celebration that plays the main role. For example, standard vows are suitable for a classic wedding, but non-standard ones are suitable for a themed wedding.
In addition, the newlyweds’ oath in church can be written in prose and poetry. The last option will be the most advantageous, since words spoken in rhyme are remembered and perceived very easily. In addition, you can find a religious oath, as well as a kind of improvisation of a ready-made text from a popular youth series.
Don't ever do this!
Many love spells are done using blood, but this is from the section of what should not be done at all. A bewitched person becomes like a zombie - he loses his own will, and the consequences often become very dire. At a minimum, the bewitched person becomes a weak-willed alcoholic, and at maximum, a murderer of the one who bewitched him. The latter is usually a consequence of ordinary jealousy. Before performing magical rituals, think about the consequences. There are many examples when a love spell returns to the one who committed it. There is no mysticism in this; rather, it is the law of justice.
The newlyweds' oath: a comic variation
Do you want to make your wedding more original? A striking example of a non-standard approach to a wedding celebration is the newlyweds’ comic oath. Such a promise usually has a light humorous overtone and is pronounced during competitions in the celebration hall in front of guests. The text of such a vow may contain the following phrases:
- “Do you swear, Nikolai, to give your entire salary to your wife, to carry your mother-in-law in your arms, to regularly wash the dishes and clean the apartment?”
- “Do you promise, Alexandra, to let your husband go out for beer with friends on Saturdays, not to beat him at cards, to erase text messages from fans and to come home from work on time?”
Another example of a comic version of an oath:
Words of the bride: “I am Tatyana Vasilievna Ivanova. In front of the guests gathered here, I swear to “knit” tight ends for my husband, to take care of his upbringing, to take away every penny of his salary, including nest eggs and funds for cigarettes.”
Words of the groom: “I am Nikolai Ivanovich Ivanov. In front of the guests gathered here, I swear to praise her culinary masterpieces, even if it is impossible to eat them, to let her go for a walk with the dog and children; let her watch TV series and talk on the phone for hours.”
We will tell you further what the newlyweds' vows look like at off-site registration.
Finding a compromise
In a situation where the husband wants to watch a hockey match, and the wife is “addicted” to the series she likes, and the broadcast time of the programs coincides, then a compromise should be found. If the dispute has not escalated into a “battle of nations”, if the couple managed to come to an agreement peacefully, then there is no need to make a problem out of the blue. Concessions in marriage indicate mutual respect and a strong relationship.
Example of a traditional wedding vow
Here is an example of the text of a standard wedding promise. It usually says the following:
Words of the bride: “I (so-and-so) agree to take (so-and-so) as my husband and enter into a legal marriage with him. I promise to maintain love and fidelity, respect (spouse’s name) and listen to his opinion, remember and fulfill my duties. I swear to keep the promise I made, for richer and poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.”
Words of the groom: “I (so-and-so) agree to take (the name of the bride) as my lawful spouse, to love, respect and protect her throughout my life.”
Examples of touching vows of the bride and groom
Romantic vow
Groom: I will carry you through my whole life like a tender rose. I won’t let the petals fall, I won’t let the beauty fade, the leaves turn yellow. I will plant it in fertile soil, I will nurture and cherish it, protect it from wind and cold, keep it warm and good. Water abundantly with happiness and joy, fertilize with love and care. You will bloom stronger and become more beautiful.
Bride: I will make your life better, surround you with tenderness, hug you with soft petals, caress you and warm you. Our house will become a luxurious garden. Beautiful flowers will grow in the flowerbed, delighting us. Our family’s garden will be well-groomed, friendly and hospitable, it will be warm and cozy.
Oath with an appeal to parents
Groom: I want to say thank you to your parents for raising you, a real miracle. I promise to justify the trust by making their daughter happy. I am grateful to you that you reciprocated my feelings, believed in my sincerity and agreed to become my wife. I will be a strong support for you, a support for your parents, and I will preserve our feelings forever.
Bride: I'm happy to become your soulmate. I promise to share our joys and sorrows, be proud of our successes and support us in difficult times. I will surround you with care, and our home will be filled with comfort and kindness. Parents will be happy looking at us, and children will be proud of us.
Touching oath
Groom: I met the woman of my dreams. I admire your virtues and are touched by your flaws. I promise to love your weaknesses, indulge your whims, understand your mistakes and accept your mistakes. You are the embodiment of beauty, goodness and wisdom. I will make your life happy and cloudless, I will become your hope and support.
Bride: I met the man of my dreams. You are strong, smart, fair. I promise to multiply your strengths and not notice your shortcomings. We will complement each other, becoming better around each other. We will confidently go through life, holding hands, overcome difficulties and make our dreams come true.
A vow about the importance of meeting each other
Groom: I admire you. I want to match you, to be attentive, gentle and affectionate. A chance meeting with you changed my life, I’m scared to think that we wouldn’t have met if I hadn’t gotten off at the wrong stop that day. But this did not happen, thanks to Providence for this. I promise to all the accidents in the world to make you happy!
Bride: I'm happy that our chance meeting grew into love. I promise to preserve these feelings, to build a family on respect, understanding and support. I want to live next to you all my life, create our little empire, raise children, take care of my parents. I promise to all the accidents in the world to make you happy!
Oath of the newlyweds during exit registration
Another example of a wedding vow during an off-site registration. So, the newlyweds must take turns repeating the following words:
“I give you my hand and agree to become your wife (husband). I agree to sail with you in the same boat through life, overcoming all the rapids, bumps and gentle slopes. I will be with you in hot and cold, summer and winter, in thunderstorms and hail. With this ring I seal our union and agree to follow you wherever you go. In love and joy, in grief and sorrow, in sickness and in health, I will always be with you.”
Oath to the beautiful: wedding words to your loved one
If you are looking for inspiration or inspiration for a ready-made wedding vow text, our examples will help you! Choose the best topic suitable for words to reveal the fullness of your feelings. Supplement the original texts with your experiences and experiences to make them sound soulful.
Eternal Oath of Love
There is nothing more important in the world than to meet your love! The real one. Eternal. Big one.
I love you from the first of ours. meetings, your kiss increases my Every. your touch gives me the feeling that I am desired. Each word of yours points to the right path - together with you, in defiance of fate, or in agreement with it.
I promise to love you always. And even if I don’t have the strength to tell you about this, I will still love you more than anything in the world!
About fidelity
I know that from devotion to all betrayal there is a step.
But I want you to know: I will never take this step.
I promise to be your support and support. Enjoy happy moments together and fight difficulties together. You will have no reason to doubt me. No misfortune can kill my feelings and break your faith in Mine. Loyalty to myself is what I swear to you from now on and forever. Love you!
Beautiful words of gratitude
Darling! I thank God and fate that we met by chance. I am grateful to you for allowing me to feel what it is like to be truly loved.
I thank you for the tenderness that you only share with me. For the kisses that warm yours. For me, sincere words that inspire my unshakable faith in the best. Thank you for your rigor, reliability, gentleness. Because you are stubborn and affectionate, honest and proud. Thank you for being in my Accept! my faithful love to fate and remember: I will follow you always and everywhere, I will never support your decisions and will never betray your hopes!
What words are in the oath?
An oath is a kind of vow that young spouses make to each other. Consequently, in the text of the promise one can find words such as “you swear”, “you promise”, “you will, I agree (-sen)”, etc. The newlyweds' oath of fidelity contains direct speech, enumeration, interrogative and exclamatory sentences, and may also consist of questions and answers to them.
In a wedding vow, both spouses promise each other the following:
- to be faithful;
- love and protect;
- keep the warmth of the family hearth;
- live in peace and harmony;
- help each other in difficult times;
- respect each other;
- protect each other, etc.
The ability to laugh together
It is difficult to live with a person who does not understand your jokes and is constantly offended by your seemingly funny remarks. If people want to laugh cheerfully at the same things, if they have a sense of humor, then this unites and strengthens the family. Laughter and even a simple smile from one of the spouses instantly relieves tension in the relationship, thereby strengthening it.
How can vows differ?
If you look hard enough, you can always find a ready-made sample of the newlyweds’ vows. For example, you can do this using our article. However, most often the text for the oath is arbitrary and is created on an individual basis. Therefore, the difference between a wedding vow lies in its text.
In addition, when comparing oath promises, it is important to take into account the age component. For example, at the age of 18-20, a comic form of oath is more suitable for lovers. This interpretation will lift the spirits of both the newlyweds and the guests.
If two future spouses decide to sign at a later age (within 25-45 years), then the standard text composition scheme is ideal for them. Much less often, elderly people find themselves at the altar, for whom a short promise with a small number of standard questions will do. What is it, this vow of the newlyweds “When I am 85 years old”? We will answer this question below.
How to correctly compose the words for an oath?
Wedding vows are usually held publicly among guests, right before the moment of official registration. Both spouses must understand that pronouncing it is a solemn moment that will not be repeated, so the choice of words for speech should be taken seriously. In order for the oath to sound truly beautiful during the ceremony, you need to start writing it long before the wedding celebration. In addition to the fact that the written version will protect against unexpected forgetfulness if the words fly out of your head, the spouses will be able to keep the touching pieces of paper with the speech as a keepsake for a long time.
When deciding how to say an oath, you need to avoid overconfidence. Some young people may consider themselves great speakers and think that they can find words in any situation, so they choose to improvise during the oath speech. But even if this is the case, it won’t hurt to be on the safe side, because who guarantees that at such an exciting moment in life you won’t be left speechless? Uncertain muttering can slightly spoil the solemn moment of pronouncing a wedding vow, especially if the partner was much better prepared.
When choosing words for vows, the bride and groom need to remember that the speech should not be too protracted - only a few words are needed to say the most important thing. A short but succinct text that expresses sincere feelings can be remembered forever by those present
While pronouncing the oath, you should look into the eyes of the bride/groom, because these beautiful words are addressed to him/her. A few small recommendations that will help you write beautiful speeches for the bride and groom:
For the bride
When drawing up your wedding vows, you need to spend the evening in a calm environment, so that nothing distracts you from your own thoughts. When coming up with a text, you need to remember: how did you meet, was it love at first sight or a gradual realization that your future life cannot be imagined without this person? Remember the moments that made you happy - first dates, feeling in love, kissing.
Think about what changed in your life when your fiance appeared? Focusing on these thoughts, give them an outlet on a piece of paper. The first version of the words of the wedding vow will probably be too long, there may be a lot of repetition and emotional digressions, but do not worry. Over time, careful editing will help you choose the words that will become the most important - this will be the oath speech.
For the groom
Many men are not as emotional as women, but if you agreed to your wedding vows, you need to try. When coming up with a speech, you need to be sure to avoid awkward comparisons, for example: “You are the best woman I have ever known” or “You take care of me like a mother does.” Even if this is theoretically good news, the bride may not be happy about such words.
You need to focus on what makes the hero of the occasion your beloved, say a sincere oath, from the heart. Even if the wedding vow is not too poetic, it will definitely touch the hero of the occasion, because the best words are words spoken from the heart. Believe me, after many years she will remember sincere recognition coming from the heart.
