Loaf for a wedding, words from parents, meeting newlyweds with a loaf, words from mother

The meeting of the bride and groom is an important and solemn event, because it is held by the parents of the newlyweds. They offer warm wishes to their children, bless the new family and offer parting words. Most often, the parents’ speech is touching and serious, but the meeting can also take place in a comic form with ditties and songs. According to the wedding day plan, the blessing ceremony takes place before the start of the celebration in the restaurant. Almost no meeting of newlyweds is complete without a wedding loaf, which symbolizes the wealth and benefits that the spouses will need to create a lasting and strong union. The newlyweds eat a piece of bread, drink a sip of wine and break glasses - now they can go to the celebration hall to celebrate!

On the wedding portal svadebka.ws you will learn how the meeting of the newlyweds takes place after registration at the registry office, as well as what traditions and customs parents adhere to when meeting their beloved children.

What is the modern rite of blessing?

Much time has passed since then, and now no one asks their mother and father for permission to choose a life partner.
Young people meet, date, and get married, regardless of whether their parents like their significant other or not. But some of the ancient Russian rituals still remain and are used in our time:

On the wedding day, when the bride is already ready and the groom is about to come for her, the girl receives the first blessing of her daughter from her parents before the wedding.
Then the groom arrives with his retinue, and a noisy and cheerful ransom of the bride takes place. Before the couple leaves home and goes to register their marriage, the bride’s mother has a second blessing of both children.
After the ceremonial registration at the registry office, the newlyweds come to the groom’s house, where his parents must bless the newlyweds with an icon (however, now they increasingly prefer to perform this action at the entrance to the banquet hall in which the wedding celebration will take place).
When the words of blessing have been said to the newlyweds, they and the guests go into the hall for the festive event, and towels with icons are placed on the table of the newlyweds. At the end of the festivities, the icons should be carefully wrapped in towels and taken to the house where the newlyweds will live.

The blessing ceremony can be performed in two ways:

Orthodox. It follows certain rules. In this ritual, if one of the participants (parents or young people) is not baptized, then you must first cross yourself, and only then carry out the blessing. There must also be icons here. We will look at what icons are used for these purposes below. The whole ritual takes place with the help of icons. But still, in order to conduct the ceremony accurately and correctly, you need to clarify all the nuances with the priest the day before.
Modern. This type of blessing is used quite often at modern weddings. It is used by young people who are not ready for a serious ceremony, and it has a purely formal look. It can also be performed by non-baptized people. To carry out the ceremony, it is enough to simply ask the parents to prepare a parting speech in advance.

After the blessing ceremony, parents ask the guests to bless their children for a happy life. After the words “God bless,” all the guests accompany the newlyweds to the wedding procession and, having sat in their cars, go to the registry office.

Ritual of blessing a son before the wedding: history, rules, details and nuances

Blessing a son before a wedding is a very ancient ritual. Having come to us from time immemorial, it has changed, shrunk, lost such significance as it had in the old days, but remained true to itself - to be the parental amulet of a young family, its spiritual protection from troubles and misfortunes.

Recognizing that conducting this ritual is an important and significant action for all its participants, the leading Internet information resource 4banket.ru will tell you in detail about it. How, why and when exactly do parents bless their son? Who plays what role and what parting words are given? Stay with us and you will learn the rules for conducting an ancient and beautiful ritual in all its details.

What are the rules for greeting young people with a loaf of bread?

Wedding ceremony - meeting the newlyweds with a loaf

A person celebrates the most joyful and significant events in his life with his closest and dearest people. In this way we share our happiness and good fortune with our dear loved ones and friends. A wedding celebration combines several emotions:

the joy of creating a new family;
state of holiday;
the beauty and originality of traditions and rituals inherent in the birth of the union of two loving hearts.

By observing the centuries-old customs of our ancestors, we thereby pay tribute to our rich history.

When honoring certain traditions, newlyweds must understand the deep meaning that tradition conveys, the symbolism that can ensure the well-being of a young family.

In order for the ceremony to most accurately comply with the old canons and to be carried out correctly, it is necessary to consult with the clergyman of the temple where the wedding ceremony was held

A spiritual mentor will suggest many points:

how to properly meet newlyweds after church and the registry office;
what icons need to be held in your hands;
what parting words should be said to the newlyweds.

The blessing of the newlyweds takes place on the threshold of the room where the festive feast will take place. Parents arrive there in advance, preparing to meet the newlyweds after a photo shoot and pleasure ride in cars. Guests also come a little earlier to meet the newlyweds and congratulate them on their legal marriage.

Pieces of loaf in the hands of the newlyweds

Both the parents of the groom and the parents of the bride can present bread and salt. The newlyweds may be greeted at the wedding in a comic form, for example, in poetry or funny prose. Where else can you joke and laugh, rejoice and wish happiness from the heart, if not at a wedding. You can take advantage of this and set the tone for the entire celebration at the very beginning.

Blessing of the Young

In the old days, there were no weddings without parental blessing. This simple ritual was very important, as it carried the wisdom of older generations and showed children’s respect for them. If the parents did not agree to a wedding in church, then the young couple, disobeying the ban, bore the heavy cross of renouncing their family all their lives. Their family relationships did not work out and they were often unhappy.

Before the registry office, parents will bless their children separately. The young family receives a second blessing after the wedding and before the wedding banquet. Traditionally, the icon of Christ the Savior or the icon of the Kazan Mother of God is used. She is also held on a special towel.

After parental parting words, the young people kiss the icon. But it would be more correct to first make the sign of the cross before doing this. Later, the icon participating in the meeting of the bride and groom is handed over to the young family.

What to tell the groom's parents

Parents, meeting a young couple, should bless them for many years of family life and wish them happiness and prosperity. The speech may consist of congratulations and parting words. Usually, the floor is given to the parents of the bride and groom in turn.

The blessing of parents can be in prose or in poetry. And the main words should be: “blessings”, “congratulations”, “advice and love”

It is advisable to think over your speech in advance so that in a moment of great excitement you do not miss all the most important things.

The speech of the groom's parents should be a parting word on the path that the newlyweds will take together from now on. Wish the newlyweds a pure relationship, happiness, and understanding of each other. Give them your love and blessing, so that the bride and groom feel the support of their closest people at such an important moment.

During the ceremony of welcoming the newlyweds, the groom's parents can say the following words:

Our dear children! Congratulations on your new family. Please accept our blessing for a long and happy life together. Bring that bright feeling that connected you throughout your life. Love and respect each other. Don't quarrel over trifles and be happy!
God has united you! We, parents, bless this marriage for many years of joy. Now walk along the road of life together, without separating your hands. Take care of each other, appreciate, trust, care. Let the winds of adversity and storms of failure not swirl in your family home. Divide both grief and happiness in half. Give us grandchildren as soon as possible. Advice and love to you!
Blessings for your marriage and happy life! Live your life in such a way that you are grateful for every day you have together. May your home always be light and clean! Let only joyful children's laughter be heard in it and tears never flow! And so that after many years you can also stand side by side, hand in hand, and bless your grown children for marriage. Happiness to you, our children!

For more information on how to congratulate newlyweds, read this article.

After the rituals have been completed, the toastmaster or wedding director invites everyone to go into the hall and take a seat at the festive table. The newlyweds go first.

All! The single life is over, there is no turning back. The castle itself is given to the eldest person in the family with orders to take care of it and to guide the newlyweds on the right path.

The procedure for parental blessing of a son

The process includes two stages.

The first blessing is before the registry office (wedding), before leaving the parental home.

It is performed in the absence of strangers. The parents stand opposite their son. Father holds an icon. He is the first to baptize his kneeling son three times, after which he passes the icon to his mother . She also baptizes her son with it three times. Then the son-groom must cross himself and kiss the holy face.

Note: according to Orthodox canons, the sign of the cross is always done three times and from top to bottom, from right to left.

If parents do not observe religious rituals, the ritual with icons is replaced with an oral blessing. In this case, the parents give a short parting speech, wishing their son well and happiness.

The second blessing is after the registry office (wedding).

In this case, parents greet with bread and salt (loaf) along with his young wife. The bride and groom receive a blessing together as a couple - without prayers, but with parting speeches and congratulations on their marriage.

The newlyweds are invited to “break bread” - to taste the wedding loaf by biting or breaking off a piece of it. According to tradition, the bride and groom treat each other with their pieces, having first dipped them in salt. It is believed that in this way they make a promise not to “salt” each other anymore, that is, not to upset each other.

Those present at this ceremony usually keep a vigilant eye on whose piece was larger and who ate it faster. According to signs, he will rule in the house and become the head of the family.

In the old days, after breaking the wedding bread, the newlyweds divided the loaf among the guests. Parents were treated first, then close relatives. The bottom of the loaf with coins baked in it was given to the musicians. And all that was left was for the “Cossacks” - children and teenagers who did not participate in the wedding feast, being outside the threshold of the house.

Note : if the groom does not have one of the parents, godparents can play their role. If the newlyweds do not live with the groom’s parents in their home, then the blessing ceremony is held in front of the restaurant where the wedding banquet is organized.

Who greets the newlyweds with a loaf of bread at a wedding?

Before the arrival of the newlyweds, the toastmaster organizes the guests, building a “living” corridor. Packages with wheat, buckwheat, coins and rose petals are distributed. It is worth warning those who meet you that it is better to throw solid objects at the level of the young people’s waist, as if covering their life’s path with wealth, prosperity and wishing for a new addition to the family. Flower petals, on the contrary, are thrown upward over the heads of the newlyweds, creating a rain of light and fragrant leaves.

The newlyweds walk along this corridor and at the end, on the threshold of the building, the groom's parents meet the newlyweds. Previously, the girl came to her husband’s house, where she was met by the boy’s parents and all his relatives.

The bride was accepted into the family and blessed with an icon and a loaf of bread

If families decide to adhere to traditions, then when the newlyweds meet, the groom’s mother holds a loaf of bread at the wedding on a beautiful towel, embroidered in wedding traditions, and the groom’s father holds an icon. In addition, the bride's parents can hold a tray with champagne glasses and apple halves for snacking.

Then the newlyweds drink champagne and break the glasses for good luck. By the fragments you can determine who will be the first-born - a boy or a girl. If there are more large fragments, then a son will be born, if there are more small ones, then a daughter. After this, the young people bow to their parents, thanking them for their care and science, and their parents say parting words and congratulations. The parents' speech should not be too long so as not to tire those present, since there will still be an opportunity to say words of congratulations during the banquet.

Photo of a meeting between young people and a loaf of bread

If the celebration will be celebrated in the groom’s house, or the newlyweds, after the registry office and a small buffet, are leaving for a wedding tour, then meeting the bride and groom with a loaf at the entrance is the optimal scenario for the ceremony. The presence of an icon in this rite is mandatory, since it is a symbol of faith and unity of the older and younger generations, a symbol of the blessing of parents for a happy family life for their children. The young man's parents should hold the icon; as a rule, this is the groom's father. It was the father's blessing for marriage that was considered important in Christianity.

When entering into marriage, a young family strives to live separately, so it becomes unimportant whose parents hold the loaf at the wedding, and who will greet the newlyweds after the registry office with an icon and bread and salt

All this can be discussed in advance and a plan for carrying out the ceremony that is most convenient for everyone can be found.

When the newlyweds approach their parents, the groom’s mother serves a loaf of bread with a parting speech. The mother-in-law brings bread and salt, wishing happiness in family life. The young break off a piece of bread, salt it and feed it to each other, symbolizing care in family life, and salt is used so as not to salt each other in the future.

What to do with the loaf after the newlyweds meet? After the ceremony, the groom's mother brings the loaf into the banquet hall and places it on the newlyweds' table. The bride and groom can cut it and treat each invitee to a piece of the wedding loaf, as if sharing their happiness and joy. Guests can take a piece of loaf home to share with their family, passing on a piece of happiness from the bride and groom. Young people can also take the loaf home and eat it themselves.

Mother of the groom with a loaf of bread

Blessing of daughter (son) before wedding

The blessing of the daughter is carried out with the help of the face of the Kazan Mother of God. The father must give the icons to the mother. Moreover, it is very important that the mother holds towels, because it is not customary to take holy images with bare hands. The father holds a loaf of bread during the ceremony.

Parents take turns saying their wishes without interrupting each other. The parting words should be succinct, concise and simple. After pronouncing the speech, the daughter must be crossed three times and the image brought to her. She must also cross the image and kiss it. If the young woman does not have parents, then the ceremony can be performed by godparents.

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The blessing of a son before the wedding is carried out similarly to the ceremony with a daughter, only for this purpose the icon “Savior Temperance” is used.

Which parent holds the images of the saints and the loaf during the ceremony?

As a rule, when children decide to marry, parents are always unexpected. When planning a celebration and assigning “roles” for the blessing ceremony, it is always difficult. In fact, there is nothing complicated here. There are several options:

The groom's father holds the icon, the young mother holds the loaf.
Mothers of young people hold icons, and fathers hold champagne and a loaf of bread,
One of the mothers holds images of saints, the other a loaf, and the fathers simply stand on the sides.

Words from the groom's parents at the banquet

The father of the groom may speak first. His speech is most often short, but succinct.

Example 1. Dear children! When I got married and was preparing to become the head of my family, my father gave me valuable advice: “In difficult times, just shut up and count to 100.” If my wife and I quarreled, then in order not to say too much to her, I used my father’s advice, and it always worked. Maybe this is also why my mother and I have been living in perfect harmony for decades! I wish you to live a happy and long life, not to accumulate grievances - they destroy, to work on your relationships every day. Love each other, respect and appreciate every moment spent together! Congratulations!

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Example 2. Son, today you are standing on the threshold of a new life. As the popular wisdom says, “Seek your happiness, and if you find it, take care.” You have chosen a wonderful companion, and your first duty is to make her happy. When you first picked up a hammer and hit your finger instead of a nail, you didn’t cry. To your mother’s questions you answered “it doesn’t hurt, I’m a man.” I hope you will prove with every action that you are a real man and the head of the family. Children, I wish you to live a happy and long life, without knowing sorrows and insults. We wish you well-being, prosperity and joy! Congratulations!

Moms are always more sentimental, but still try to pull yourself together.

Example 1. Dear son! Today there is great joy in our family - my dad and I have a daughter. Your meeting is a gift from heaven, but now the main thing is to preserve feelings and fire in your hearts. Family is work, but it is rewarded. Love in the eyes of your soul mate, children's laughter, tears of pride from parents. Be happy, our dear children. Plant trees, raise wonderful children, strengthen your relationships! Your happiness is more valuable to us than all gifts! May there always be prosperity and harmony in your home, and may your love illuminate your path and be your best advisor! May you live happily ever after!

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Example 2. My beloved son. A wise man was once asked what riches should be valued in life. And he answered: the first thing is health, because you can’t buy it for any amount of wealth. And the second is a person who is always nearby. You, son, are very lucky, because you met a wonderful girl. Make sure that she is behind you, like behind a stone wall, so that bitterness and resentment never appear in her eyes, and the smile never leaves her lips. Daughter, support and guide your spouse, become his guiding star - and he will move mountains for you! I congratulate you from the bottom of my heart! I wish happiness, luck and prosperity to settle in your home for a long time. Take care of each other, and keep the flame that you lit today! Bitterly.

Mom and dad can say congratulations one by one, in the form of a dialogue. For example:

Mom: - Our dear son!

Dad: - And daughter!

Mom: - Despite the fact that today you will follow your own path in life, this does not mean that our paths have diverged. Dad and I will always be there when needed. Let us help you with advice

Dad: - And by the way. Walk hand in hand, respect and appreciate each other.

Mom: - May life smile at you and give you only pleasant surprises.

Dad: - Happiness, prosperity, good luck to your young family!

Mom: - May the union be long and strong, together you will reach those heights that cannot be conquered separately.

Dad: - Advice and love!

Mom: - We love you very much, children! Bitterly!

This day is certainly important and exciting for you, but you knew that it would come someday. Rejoice and be proud of your child, and leave worries for later.

Mother's words at her daughter's wedding
Wedding congratulations from the groom's parents
Mother of the groom at the wedding

How to prepare for a performance

At a wedding reception, parents are given the second or third toast. Then they give the floor to grandparents, and only then to friends.
Your congratulations may not be limited only to wishes, it should include parental advice and words of support.
It’s better if the groom’s mother says the first words. If she has prepared poetry, it’s time to read it. The guests are not yet tired, and all attention will be focused on the speakers. Dads are often taciturn; they may speak later.
Try to rehearse your speech: no one will listen to a ballad, even an interesting one, for a long time. The optimal speaking time is 3-5 minutes.
If one of the parents is embarrassed to speak in front of the audience, the other can congratulate on his behalf.
Do not try to supplement your speech with an abundance of quotes or fanciful comparisons. A simple but sincere congratulation sounds much better and more correct, and leave the beauty to the toastmaster.
Refrain from criticism and moralizing. There should be no ambiguity in your speech. Humor should not offend anyone present. Your speech should not include stories that could make the groom feel uncomfortable.
From experience, we can advise you to avoid poetry, because it all comes down to “congratulations, we wish you happiness and joy.” They should be written for your son's wedding and reflect the characteristics of the couple.
You can address your son in your congratulations, but be sure to mention his wife, because from now on they are family, do not offend your chosen one with inattention.
Don’t memorize the text, speak in your own words, take pauses. Chatting or faltering and remaining silent are the worst qualities of a speaker. Never sight read.

The most popular wedding ritual

Many wedding traditions have been lost, others have lost relevance. However, the custom of greeting newlyweds with a loaf of bread has survived to this day, even while living in modern cities. Not all couples include it in their program, although the ritual has many advantages as a stage of the celebration:

Takes little time. Provides potential for improvisation. It evokes a feeling of importance of the step you have just taken into a new life. Allows you to feel harmony and joy in the family.

Thus, this ritual, coupled with other customs, helps young spouses once again understand that they are already husband and wife. Skeptics ask a reasonable question: why are all these traditions needed? The fact is that the ancestors of the Russians and peoples close to them were practical, and rituals were performed with deep meaning. The first meeting of parents and newlyweds in a new status is no exception.

It is still preserved and is present at almost all weddings. What's special about it? What nuances do you need to know when organizing a loaf ritual?

According to ancient custom, the groom's parents should greet the newlyweds

. By treating them with bread and salt, they bless the new family and welcome the daughter-in-law into their home.

Unfortunately, there are situations when the groom's parents for some reason cannot attend the wedding. What to do in this case?

Other close relatives who took part in raising the groom can present the loaf. This can be done, for example, by his grandparents. If there are no suitable candidates on the part of the newly-made spouse, then you can ask the bride’s parents to participate.

Patron images of a married couple

Holy image of the Lord Savior Jesus Christ

This icon is used to bless the groom. She will help guide her future husband on the right path, protect and preserve the family. The image of Christ has always been revered by Orthodox people. The icon fills the soul with light, conveys peace, grace and obedience.

Icon of the Most Holy Theotokos: Vladimir, Kazan, Feodorovskaya, Icon of the Unfading Color and others.

The image of the Mother of God is used to bless the bride. Any of these miraculous icons will help save a marriage, impart wisdom and support in difficult times.

Icon of Peter and Fevronia of Murom

Saints Peter and Fevronia are the patrons of the family and an example of Christian marriage. This couple had to go through many trials, but they coped with the troubles and preserved their love and family union. The image of the saints helps in finding one’s soul mate, for maintaining peace in a union, for those who are bearing a child and subsequently protecting the child.

Martyrs Adrian and Natalia

Saints patronize fidelity in marriage and eliminate the negative atmosphere between spouses. When a third person comes between close people, this icon helps clear thoughts and turn to the family.

Holy Righteous Joachim and Anna

The righteous endow the future family with patience and hope. It is in patience

lies the key to family happiness and well-being.

St. Matrona Moscow

Matronushka is one of the saints who protects the family and patronizes

material wealth.

Since ancient times, blessing the parents of their children with an icon before the wedding was considered obligatory; It was impossible to walk down the aisle without parental blessing, and this was done only in exceptional cases.

The significance of parental blessing was very great; it served as a kind of moral support for a young family

In our time of widespread proliferation of so-called civil marriages, that is, marriages without registration, it sometimes seems that the blessing of the newlyweds with an icon, and indeed the parental blessing in general, has lost its meaning, but this is not true. More and more couples, after officially registering their marriage in the registry office, are getting married in the temple of God, even those whose family history goes back many years.

In former times, in every house there were icons in the red corner, in front of which they prayed and with which parents blessed their children during engagement (betrothal), that is, a preliminary agreement on marriage. Then the groom put a wedding ring on the bride’s finger, and the parents took out the icons from the red corner and blessed them.

It should be recalled that even today an icon for blessing the newlyweds must certainly be consecrated in the church

In addition, icons for a wedding blessing cannot be held with bare hands; they must be covered with a towel.

What to say?

It is better if parents adhere to a specific plan. A well-thought-out script will prevent awkward moments.
Despite the fact that the congratulations should be short, you should not skimp on words. The bride will be pleased to hear gentle, kind words of approval and support.

For newlyweds, the wedding day is a very important one; they experience a lot of emotions. The task of parents is to help, support and be there. Correctly chosen words evoke pleasant and tender feelings; they remain in memory for many years.

Meeting the newlyweds with a loaf of toast, the words of the toastmaster in verse at the wedding.

The meeting of the bride and groom after registration with a loaf and salt is an ancient wedding ritual that came to us from our ancestors and has been preserved almost in its original form.

A Slavic wedding was never complete without a meeting with a loaf of newlyweds who arrived from the church after the wedding. The newlyweds were greeted on the threshold of the groom's parents' house by the father and mother of the young spouse. The groom's father held an icon, which was used to bless the newlyweds for a happy life together, and the mother held a loaf of bread and a salt shaker. The young people bowed to their parents, accepted their blessing and kissed their father and mother three times in turn. Since the newlyweds most often went to live with their husband’s parents, the meeting with bread and salt was conducted by the owners of the house. Nowadays, young people do not always go to live with their husband’s parents. In this regard, at some weddings, the loaf is held not only by the mother of the groom, but also by the mother of the bride.

The ruddy loaf is not held with bare hands, but always on a beautifully embroidered new towel. A depression is made in the middle of the loaf, and a salt shaker with salt is placed. According to tradition, the young must break off or bite off a piece of the loaf. Whoever breaks off or bites off a larger piece will dominate the family. The broken pieces are dipped in salt. The groom gives his broken piece of salt to the bride to try with his hand, and the bride gives it to the groom. This symbolizes the joint overcoming of troubles and sorrows that arise in a young family. After exchanging salty pieces, the couple takes a sip of champagne or wine from a glass, which can then be broken for good luck.

Speech on a loaf at a wedding.

Mom, holding a loaf of bread, gives a parting speech to the young couple. There is no point in saying too long a parting word, since the guests and newlyweds have been on their feet for a long time and everyone is eager to sit down at the banquet tables. You can prepare words in poetic form in advance, or you can say them yourself. If you think through or learn the words before the wedding, you will feel more confident and the ceremony will go smoothly.

The meaning of a speech on a loaf at a wedding is to wish a happy family life, strong relationships and a cloudless life path that the young people now have to go through hand in hand.

We offer you several options for speeches for a loaf at a wedding.

“Our dears, happiness and strong love to you for many years to come! Let the years pass, but your hearts will remain reverent towards each other. Let the doors of your home always be open for guests and family, let your table be bursting with dishes, and let your house be filled with the happy laughter of your children! May you live happily ever after!" “We welcome you with bread, salt and parental love, so that you will always be together for many years!”

If both mothers are holding the loaf, you can say the following poetic speech:

Mother of the bride: “We want to treat you to some difficult bread and bless you with parting words.” Mother of the groom: “We hand over the shrine to our daughter and son so that you can break off a piece for yourself.” Take a bite, son. Mother of the bride: “You try too, daughter.” Let this loaf be the key to health! The key to happy and joyful years! Mother of the groom: - You will now be your beloved daughter-in-law, (name of the bride). Many victories await you, (name of the groom)! Mother of the bride: - Appreciate each other, and honor us. Raise your kids without any hassle. Mother of the groom: “And may this piece of holy loaf bless you and lead you to happiness!”

At the end of the parting speech and all actions with the loaf, the young people are blessed with an icon. After the blessing, the newlyweds and after them all the guests go to the hall where the wedding banquet will take place. The loaf must be broken into pieces and distributed to all guests present.

The words of the meeting of the newlyweds with a loaf at the wedding and the origins of this ancient tradition.

A wedding is a magnificent celebration, rich in a variety of customs and beliefs. One of the favorite ancient wedding rituals that has survived to this day is the meeting of the newlyweds with a loaf of bread. What words need to be spoken at this moment? How to organize it? And what is the essence of the ritual? Let's look at it below.

How to properly bless your daughter before the wedding

The cheerful ransom with jokes and tasks for the groom is already over, the time for a touching ritual comes. Only the bride, groom and her parents remain in the room. You can still be godparents. There is no place for outsiders here: the ritual should become a holy sacrament, seeing off the child into adult family life. If you want to capture a memorable moment for you, you can ask your godparents to say parting words.

This moment is not just trivial words. With their blessing, the parents accompany the bride into her future family life and release her from her native nest. In other words, adults agree that their daughter will be taken by her future husband to start his new family

It is important to know how to bless your daughter before the wedding correctly and with what icon, in order to do it not only sincerely, but also according to all the rules

What is needed for the ceremony

In order for everything to work out sincerely, without nervous thoughts that you didn’t buy something, you need to think through and prepare everything in advance. An important list includes:

the blessing speech, it must be written and remembered;
towel – to hold the image;
icon.

Take time to write sincere words. This way you can think through everything carefully and address not only your daughter, but her future spouse, their family as a whole, thank them, wish them health, love, and prosperity. A wise wife should be able to smooth out family conflicts, so remind your daughter that she is the family’s talisman. Don’t try to rant for a long time; it’s better to keep your speech concise and not too long.

It is not customary to touch the image with bare hands, so prepare a towel. A towel (rushnik) can be purchased, but if it is embroidered by the caring hands of the mother, it will be an enhanced manifestation of attention and love. What icon should I use to bless my daughter before the wedding so that the ceremony is as correct as possible? The most suitable image is the image of the Kazan Mother of God or Jesus Christ, who is held by the mother, and the father gives her an icon in a towel.

Blessing of the mother of the bride

The groom's mother meets the newly-made family, and you are given the mission of guiding the newlyweds on this journey. When wishing young people, every woman should be responsive and wish well from the heart. Remember that the girl chose the man for herself, so you should respect her choice and not reproach or argue with him. Your opinion in this matter has already faded into the background for the bride, so listen to her thoughts and calm your worries. Thank your daughter’s chosen one for the fact that you were lucky enough to give her into caring hands who will take care of her just like you and your father.

Presentation of a loaf

We welcome you with bread and salt and treat you in Russian!

Here it is, a fragrant bread with a crunchy twisted crust. The bread is amber, golden, as if filled with sunshine!

Specify, presentation of a loaf at a wedding, holiday, ceremony. If for a wedding, then here are two options:

Dear newlyweds! According to tradition, the people dearest to you - your parents - meet you here. Mom is holding a wedding loaf in her hands as a symbol of well-being and prosperity. Newlyweds! Break off a piece of bread and salt it properly! You have the opportunity to annoy each other for the last time. Yes, add more salt: Now exchange pieces of bread. Look at each other with tenderness and feed each other!

Dear newlyweds, your family ship is setting off on a long voyage and each of the guests present sincerely wishes you that your ship will not experience any storms or heavy winds, may the sun always shine above you, as warm and kind as this wedding loaf in the hands of your parents . Break off a piece and dip in honey so that your life is as sweet as honey and dip in butter (melted butter) so that the wife rolls around behind her husband like cheese in butter. Now feed each other because you will take care of each other.

If the loaf is presented at a wedding, then I can offer this option:

The most precious people in your life stand in front of you - your parents. Bow down to them three times from the white face to the mother earth. From the white of your face, may God grant you to meet them face to face for many years only with joy. And bow down to the ground so that God will give you long years of life. Dear __________ and __________, listen to the words of the holy blessing of your parents We greet you with bread and salt, We wish you to live in harmony. We welcome the bonding of your parental blessing. — Our people have a good old tradition: to greet dear people close to our hearts with bread and salt. Bread is a symbol of peace, life, prosperity, a symbol of great work. And people also say: to taste bread with a person on the road means to take an oath of allegiance and friendship. Keep this in mind when accepting your first family loaf. Try it! Well, let's see who will be the head of your family. Salt your pieces from the heart, sparing no salt... feed each other. May you annoy each other today for the first and last time in your life!

Life is given to us only once. and we must live it as positively as possible. So, LET'S SMILE!

If the loaf is not presented at a wedding, but when a delegation of guests meets from afar, you can briefly and succinctly:

Our good land is famous for its hospitality and cordiality! For guests there are Russian songs, And a fragrant loaf!

And naturally we hand over bread and salt and eat some toast.

Watch the presentation of wedding loaves in the Weddings topic. Rituals

Meeting the young with bread and salt.

There are not many large-scale and public events in our lives, and there are generally a limited number of such events as weddings. And it is quite reasonable to want this event and all its phases to be held at the highest level. A wedding is a separate step, separate emotions, separate obligations. Today, fewer and fewer couples want to get married traditionally, all rituals are becoming a thing of the past, and they are being replaced by weddings of a different kind. You can get married underwater and in the air, on black bikes or light green Cossacks with gypsies on the roof. The main thing is the idea. If a young couple does not want to have an eccentric show wedding, then there is only one option left - to turn to traditions.

Today we will talk about one important and fairly traditional procedure, which is called “meeting the newlyweds with bread and salt.” Regardless of what wedding format the newlyweds choose, parents and close relatives are always invited to the celebration

And it is the parents who meet the couple at the house with a loaf of bread. More and more often, the porch of the native monastery is happily replaced by the bright vaults of various cafes and restaurants. But one thing remains unchanged - bread and salt are served to the young by their parents.

Preparing for the newlyweds' meeting

While the guests are gathering in the hall, music is playing. Everyone is preparing for the meeting of the bride and groom. The host works with the guests in advance. It is necessary to rehearse the parents' exit with bread and salt and the meeting of the newlyweds.

How to do it better? If the venue where the wedding is taking place has free entry, then it is best to meet the bride and groom outside. The guests present are divided into two parts and stand, forming a “living” corridor. Each guest holds a gel ball on a long satin ribbon. The parents of the newlyweds stand in the center with bread and salt. The last guests on both sides are given bags of confetti. Their neighbors received mini-baskets with rose petals. Bags of candy are awarded next. And guests who stand almost next to their parents are given pots of coins. The host awaits the newlyweds at the very beginning of the corridor.

According to Russian tradition. The mother of the groom (now her husband) holds a loaf of salt or a salt shaker in her hands on a beautiful towel. The father of the bride holds two glasses of champagne and two slices of green apple on a tray.

So, the most exciting moment. The bride and groom's car pulls up. Stops near guests. The newlyweds come out.

Solemn meeting of the bride and groom with a loaf of bread.

Presenter:

-So we meet again!

Well, advice and love to you!

The path ahead of you is the road

To a world of care and love.

And let's add a little to it

Bright colors and dreams! (the last guests begin to throw confetti up at the bride and groom). The newlyweds take a step forward.

- So that hearts do not fade away

And the house shone with love.

You are romance and passion

Fill it all around! (the next guests throw rose petals). The newlyweds move forward one more step.

- Life with bitterness, bad luck,

Not for you and far from it.

We all wish together

May life be sweet! (guests with candies throw small candies - lollipops at the feet of the newlyweds).

- Well, let everything go smoothly

Let's wish you to live in abundance! (guests throw coins at their feet).

The newlyweds approach their parents.

Presenter: Dear _____________ (name of the bride and groom). This day is significant not only for you. Today you created your family. This is another light of love that will warm everything around with its warmth. So let your parents be the first to touch its warmth. Having once created their own light, they gave you life and let their parting words be the most valuable and intimate for you.

SPEECH BY THE BRIDE AND GROOM'S PARENTS

Please note that this speech should not be too long, the newlyweds arrived after the registry office, a walk, trips and I think they were tired. There will be another whole evening for wishes and long speeches.

Presenter: Well, according to ancient tradition, the bride and groom must break off a piece of the loaf (they break it off). You have a long and happy life ahead of you, so I suggest that here and now you take salt and salt this piece of loaf. Let this be the first and most importantly the last time you spite each other (newlyweds salt their bread). Now feed each other with tenderness and care (loud applause from the guests).

The bride's father brings glasses of champagne. The young drink and eat a slice of apple. At the command of the presenter, everyone unanimously shouts “Congratulations!” and release gel balls into the sky.

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Sample words from mothers at a meeting with a loaf of bread

Clients often ask us to write approximate words for mothers at the “Bread and Salt” ritual (meeting of the Bride and Groom with a loaf)

Mother of the Groom: Our dear children! This loaf is a symbol of prosperity, salt is a warning that life is not always smooth and sweet, but in order for you to overcome the obstacles that life will present you, treat yourself to the loaf, gain strength from this unique day and live your life with dignity and beauty as a strong family! Congratulations!

The newlyweds bite into a loaf.

(or such an option) ... We want your hearts to retain the warmth that this loaf contains. Let your home be full of this warmth, welcome guests and children. Advice and love to you!

(or another option) ... My dear children, I sincerely congratulate you on the beginning of a new path in your life. And on the threshold of this happy beginning, I present you with the main symbol of prosperity and well-being in all things earthly - a wedding loaf. Break off a piece of it and treat each other. I want your hearts to retain the warmth that this loaf has preserved for you. Let your house always be full of guests and let everyone get at least a small piece of food. Let the distribution of this loaf be the beginning of your hospitality. Advice and love to you!

Mother of the Bride: Our dear children, _____________! We congratulate you, bless your marriage, and wish you happiness. Your union is simply a great happiness for us. Advice and love! Here's some water for you to have fun all your life!

(or another option)… Dear children, ___________! We bless you for a strong marriage, for a friendly family. Live in peace and friendship, love and harmony, for your own happiness and for the joy of people! Let the children in your family laugh, let there be peace and prosperity in your home!

What to say when young people meet with a loaf of bread.

In the wedding event, traditions that are sacredly honored by the newlyweds have been preserved to this day. A wedding is the birth of a family. And I want the union of two hearts to beat in unison for many, many years. Therefore, customs that promise only good things for a future family are not forgotten and must be observed. This is also the tradition - the meeting of the newlyweds with the wedding loaf. So, how to greet newlyweds with a loaf of bread, what to say, what to do with the loaf of bread later, and much more - below.

Interesting! Previously, blessing the newlyweds with a loaf of bread was considered a marriage ceremony. Now the tradition has largely been abolished and no longer carries sacred meaning. But in a wedding event this remains the most touching and solemn moment. Parents meet their children in a new status - husband and wife, and the groom's parents welcome their daughter into the family. Read about what kind of anniversary it is and what to give your husband for a paper wedding?

What parents say when blessing their son: examples of speeches

At the first blessing, it would be appropriate to read a kind of prayer with the icon.

The text of the “prayer” of the groom’s mother: “Just as the church is indestructible and strong, faith is strong and sweet mead, so ... (son’s name) and ... (bride’s name) were strong and inseparable. We haven’t been without each other, we haven’t lived apart for a minute or a day since that day, when I read the slander. Amen. Amen. Amen".

You can bless in your own words, giving parental advice to your son who is starting his own family.

Examples of parental blessing of a son before the registry office (wedding):

- Dear son, we bless you and give you guidance for your future family life. May she be happy, in love and mutual harmony. May troubles and misfortunes pass you by. And your union will be blessed with the birth of strong and healthy children.

- Dear son! We bless you for a strong and happy marriage. Live for good. Honor and take care of your wife. Be with her in joy and peace, harmony and love. May God give you support and protection on your family journey!

- Dear son! You are on the verge of important life changes. Let them be happy. May your marriage be strong and your family life long and joyful. Let children's laughter sound in your home, and let prosperity and peace reign.

Examples of parental blessing after the registry office (wedding):

- Dear... (names of the bride and groom)! Please accept our blessing for your marital union! May the Lord protect your family from evil and misfortune. Be faithful to each other, take care and love each other. You... (name of the groom) protect and protect... (name of the bride) from the difficulties of life and unnecessary tears. And you... (name of the bride) be... (name of the groom) support in all matters. And then peace and harmony will settle in your home forever.

- Dear children! At the beginning of your family journey, we bless you with this wedding loaf - a symbol of prosperity, health and wealth. May your life together be as sweet and enjoyable as this rich and delicious bread. Let your children be strong and rosy, like the crust on this loaf. And may your family have as much warmth and love as there is in this wedding bread. Advice and love to you!

Congratulations to the mother of the groom in prose

Dear children! We sincerely congratulate you on your first day of legal marriage and the creation of a young family! We are glad to bless you for a long and cloudless life together in love, prosperity and prosperity. Please accept our most heartfelt congratulatory words on this solemn day. We wish you to preserve and carry through the years that feeling of love and respect that today united you into one family. Advice and love to you!
Dear children! We are sincerely glad that one day each of you found your soul mate, who today united into one whole. Appreciate each other, trust, let the home you create be full of prosperity, and let grief and resentment bypass it. Our dear children! We are sincerely glad for your informed decision! Accept your mother's blessing on your marriage and wishes for endless years of love, understanding and respect. Grief divided in half no longer seems so terrible, and joy multiplied by two will seem like an ocean of happiness. Don't forget these signs and everything will work out for you. Congratulations!
My dear and dear children, I sincerely congratulate you on the beginning of your family and the first day together in your life. At the happy start of your life, I present you with a symbol of prosperity and prosperity - a wedding loaf. Break off a piece of it and dip it in salt and feed it to each other. Let this be the last salt with which you will spoil your soulmate in the future, and let the warmth that is invested in this wedding bread remain in your hearts for many years. Let the doors in your home always be open for guests and friends, and the distribution of a loaf of bread will become a symbol of your hospitality. Love and happiness to you!
Our dear ones, today is your important and solemn wedding day. Please accept our most sincere congratulations. We had a son, thanks to whom we now have a daughter, and we are doubly happy for our children. May you have many years of life in harmony and love. May you live happily ever after!

Blessing texts from mother to bride

On her wedding day, the bride is more excited than ever. Therefore, the mother of the bride needs to think through every word she says as parting words. After all, the daughter will remember them for the rest of her life. A parent, releasing his chick on its future flight, must give it the right direction. That’s why the parents’ blessing at their daughter’s wedding is so decisive. The words could be:

Dear daughter! The moment has come when your father and I are letting you go to a new family. Remember that building harmonious relationships in a family is often difficult and requires a lot of patience on your part. Be patient, daughter, but also remember about yourself! Let your husband be the head of the family, and you be his good and affectionate helper. Remember that you are now merging into one. Love and patience for many years to come!
My favorite girl! Remember that a woman develops harmoniously in several roles: daughter, bride, wife, mother. I wish you to become a caring wife and the best mother, maybe even better than me. Just as my mother instructed me before starting married life, so I am passing this baton on to you. Let there be order, mutual respect and prosperity in your family. And even in difficult moments, be patient and kind to each other, even if you don’t feel like it! Love grows over the years.
Today you have found your happiness, beloved daughter. And although it’s hard in my heart to let you go into this unknown, isn’t this the natural order of things? Family is a woman’s main purpose; in it she feels protected and can develop in any direction. When you have a family, you can entrust your personal problems to a close loved one - your husband. Of course, if you chose this person with your heart and head. Be confident and faithful to your choice!
Although on this special day you have already become the bride of your loved one, still for us you were and remain a beloved child. We love you very much and have always protected you from everything bad. We wish you that your husband will take care of you, cannot breathe enough of you, and shelter you from all adversity. And you, in turn, be affectionate and soft. Learn to communicate, build harmonious relationships. Be empathetic and have a compassionate heart: it will definitely pay off. It may be difficult sometimes, but without difficulties there is no happiness! And it will definitely come: quiet and peaceful. Protect each other like your greatest treasure.
Beloved and dear daughter! We let you leave the house, like a bird lets its little chicks fly. And even though you are no longer little, we will still worry about you. With all our hearts we wish you to build a family nest to which it will always be pleasant to return. I bless you with the Mother of God that you may have healthy and smart children. The key to a successful marriage is mutual understanding.

Which icon to bless your daughter with?

In believing families, according to tradition, mothers bless their daughter with an icon of the Mother of God

Why is this so important before your future wedding? The fact is that the girl will soon realize herself as a wife and mother, and she needs the great patroness of all women to be a patient and affectionate wife, mother of healthy children

For this, an icon of the Mother of God, which is passed down from generation to generation, is best suited, but one consecrated from the church is also suitable. Icons are also used at weddings, when the husband holds an icon of Jesus Christ, and the wife holds an icon of the Mother of God. Christ personifies masculinity, intercession, the protector of the family, and the Mother of God - kindness, humility, giving birth and raising children.

As soon as the desired icon is found, the mother should stand opposite her daughter, say well-known prayers and bless her daughter with beautiful words. After this, the bride kisses the icon and touches it with her forehead. This means faith, gratitude to the mother for her upbringing, and a request to higher powers to help the future family.